bba,
why fail? hmm... when you start the IVF treatment, along the way, they will monitor you very careful with scans and blood tests, the amt to jab, etc... so as long as you go thru it and can have fertilised egg (embryos) which is good enough to do ET, the rest is up to our mighty god. Some ppl got over-stimulation during the jabs process and had to stop, some do not have quality eggs or embryos for ET, in the event when you encounter these problems you will know that why you cannot even reach the last stage for IVF which is the ET, all these problems your doctor will tell you too along the way as you are doing the treatment i.e. egg quality problems lah, over-stimulate lah etc... but when you had done ET and failed at the end, usually your doctor will tell you that it is implantation problem and that is what no one can have a solution, else IVF is 100% already. Hope that answer your qns.
what to do next. below is the steps when you fail IVF;
1. Have a good cry
2. Do not blame yourself or anyone for it cos no one at fault.
2. (if you have frozen embryos)Talk to your gynae on when you are prepare to do the FET (frozen embryos transfer)
3. Carry on your life as per normal but continue to build up your body with right diet, stressless life or like all of us here, try TCM or accup.
4. Never give up, go for it again when you are ready till you succeed.
5. Basically dun take it too hard if you fail and do not think that IVF is the last resort or only resort and if you fail, that means you are fated not to have kids, that is bullshit! Even if you choose not to go thru it again, you might still be pregnant, not the end of your ttc journey.