twinkle, yes i agree with you, sometimes they pretend pretend de...this weekend im going to 'catch' my maid, cos i find she tends to skip some work, like cleaning the sofa and my tv console, so this weekends going to tell her off....
now im sandwich in between my mum and maid...my mum now having cold war with me cos tat day i say her and shes not happy...but then i got peaceful ears this few days, if not she everyday will complain something abt the maid to me...
Dore, dont envy me hor, i dun want to be SAHM, im not hao lian hor...but being SAHM, no money to spend de, i dun like at all...i like to buy things de, buy for myself and and especially for my gal...now im monitoring the situation, if can, then i want to continue to work...
anyway to your question, my maid is with us for 1 mth only, basically she just do housework and help to entertain my gal when my mum cooks, or not free...i never ask my maid to help my kid take off shoes or what de...basically when i step in the house, i will tell my gal, okay take off shoes oki, then i just remove, since my gal only gg 14mths...
sometimes certain things we can get the maid to do and we can ask them not to do and get your kids to do it...
im thinking if i got 2nd kid, i mite just send to infant care le, thou very ke lian, but i think it solve alot of problem
i see my gf who send her son to infant care becos her mil not willing to take care for her and her own mum cant becos of health issue, she also send her son to infant care at 4mths when she goes back to work, everything is fine so far except always falling sick, thats the only scary part