hi, was reading the thread, and would like to share some thots of mine.
Affair is all about how man feel with this other person. not becos he loves that person, but how he feel with her. its very simple. e.g. Miki, yr e.g abt the top....to your bf, its just that china lady who called him and tell him abt the top....she showed to him that he is in her thoughts often, and verbalise it to him, and thus making him feel good.
its really not about the top, its about if he is in your thoughts, in your mind.
make him feel good...man respond to the change in you. we cannot change a person, we can only change ourselves, and that will result in a change in him responding to your changes.
let me quote an example
man has a routine for many years, going out drinking on friday night, coming home drunk. wife resented that, and even on wednesday, started fighting abt it....
one day wife change behaviour, before man leave for drinks on friday night, she told him, she understand his need to go relax with his pals, and ask him to enjoy himself, even told him that she would prepare some supper for him when he come home.
but man still go.....he angrily told her no need to prepare anything, and dont wait up for him.
Man only react that way becos he has been doing it for the past few years.
but that night, he actually came back early, having only a few drinks instead of the usual.
that is a true thing that happen, not some story that i conjured.
this is an example of how he respond to the change in her....she only change her behaviour and he changed.
true, such things dont happen instantly.....give it sometime...
it really work.
if we all take a step back, think of how we are behaving when we are around our man, mabbe we can see how we can improve such behaviours and thus not lose out to china bitches or any other bitches.
just sharing what i learned....hope not offending anyone here