Hi daay,
First thing is don't think so much...just keep your head up and keep moving on...feelings and emotions will do you no good at this time. So, keep your mind occupied with things to do. When it comes, it comes then you handle it when it comes.
it's easier said than getting it done, right? Don't worry,you are not alone. So, it's best to keep your mind occupied with things to do. This will blow over and soon you have a new life.
Let him proceed with the Divorce if he wants to. I will guide you how to contest.
On Maintenance, you can file separately a court order for Maintenance. Which means your hubby is now attacked on 2 fronts, Divorce which you will contest and Maintenance. I can guide you on this. So, start digging for receipts especially all those hospital bills and doctor bills for your kids and even makan bills like a package of rice or NTUC grocery receipt. You can PM me and I will give you step by step how to proceed.
Meanwhile, are you working? if your salary is below 1.5k, you can approach Legal Aid and they can do all this for you Free, whereas your hubby will pay his lawyer till nose bleed. And since he's the one filing divorce, if he looses, he have to pay both sides court fees and lawyer fees.
When free, go google "Women's Charter" , understanding your rights will brighten you up and all is not gloom and doom. Thank God Singapore Government protects Women like us...having said this, of course, there are those tai tai who abuse Women's charter, sigh.
So, don't ever ever think you will end up with nothing and have to struggle bringing up the kids yourself. Women's Charter dictates that your husband must maintain you(Wife, even if you are working till you re-marry) & children (till 21yrs). But if your salary is like 5-10k a month, then court will not grant you.
You sound gloomy, cheer up...think of the life ahead ... you deserve a better man and a good life... He's just robber trying to take a free meal out of you. So, be happy your sufferings are coming to an end.
God bless...