After reading all these, i would like to share my story too. I am a mother of three, 3yo, 2yo and 10 month old baby. Have been married for 6 years, but things really gotten so bad recently.
Troubleguy, you are a nice guy, how i wish my husband is like you. I am very disappointed with him.
He has left the house since 8 June 2012 when my elder boy had high fever(39.2). He was working night shift(start work at 6pm), the school called to inform him about the fever, he ignored and continue to sleep and left for work. When i discovered the missed calls, I rushed to school and brought him to see doctor. My elder son has chronic illness, if he fall sick, his blood count will dip to very low level. Subsequenly my girl and my baby also felt sick. I looked after three of them till i felt sick. That was one point that i got to change bedsheed almost every night, sometimes two times at night as my baby vomited each time he coughed. From that day onwards till today, he has never returned nor call nor sms to check on the children.
We had unhappiness frequently, everytime he choosed to run away from home and rejected all the calls. I said unhappiness because there was no argument, he simply refused to talk. I suggested marriage counsellor, he rejected too. This time round, as it concern children health and safety, i really cannot take it anymore. I broke down, had sleepless nights and slimmed down to only 47kg (my height is 168cm. I could not understand how he can be so heartless, really care nothing about his own kids. I was so upset that i brought all the kids back to malaysia without informing him and his family, and they really DON'T CARE.
Last time, when he wanted to leave the house, i will beg him, hug him not to leave, not only that he would not listen, he grabbed my arm and dragged me. In the end, bruises appeared on my arm and there was big bump on my head too. He did not feel sorry and can still make up a story for me in case people asked about the bruises. I wore long sleeves to work for three full weeks.
I wanted to divorce this time as i think he is beyond hope and it is really not healthy for my kids to grow up in such environment. This was not the first time he left home, i have lost count already. Because of his egoistic, family outing, holiday and photo shooting program were all burnt.