Hi Morraine,
I think permission from Sabie's family should be sought prior to putting it up. Even though Patsy may agree, some of the other family members may not agree. I've seen similar incident where different family members had strong differing views and it caused further stress and strain to an already tragic event. I know you have good intentions but it may cause more harm than good.
I'm of the opinion that it is a private event and it should be kept intimate and give the family members privacy to mourn instead of making it public. Instead of putting it on the homepage of SingaporeMotherhood.com (which I feel is way too visible and public), you could actually confine it to a thread in the forum dedicated to Sabie or her family.
I've also read that the media was interested in contacting Patsy and family. From my understanding, Patsy is not interested in being interviewed. By featuring Sabie on the homepage, it may attract more media attention which is something that Patsy does not want and should not be forced to deal with at the moment.
Regards,
Chin Leng.