Lyn, how come u wake up so early?! 5am on Sat?
It does get on my nerves when pple don't know out of concern or think they are smart try to give too much "advice" on what we should do to have bbs.
Your BIL must have tot having bbs is very easy lor and overly confident. That's why make such remarks. next time he bring up such advice again, just tell him thanks I have read and know about eating zinc and whatever, make sure u do the same and make sure your bb is born in the dragon year. I guess he might have felt inferior to your hubby for somethings, like maybe ur hubby is more successful in his career or maybe ur dh is the pet of your pil?
Been reading this book "Pregnancy wishes and IVF dreams" which i bought from Amazon. There is something on Expectations which i thought i want to share with all sisters
"besides your expectations, the expectations of others (excited family members or friends for example) can make infertility more complex. EXpectation management quickly becomes a two headed challenge. You can't let yours control you and you can't allow the expectations of other define yours. It isn't easy, but the more you're able to manage your expectations and be conscious of how the expectations of other are influencing your emotions, the better off you'll be."
This author also went through infertility and ivf and finally got a pair of twins. and in this book she did wrote something like this which was an extract from her diary
"I'm thinking about hindsight. Of course it's always so perfect after you know what you didn't know to begin with. Right now, hindsight is making me wish i hadn't told anyone that Steve and I were trying to get pregnant. It seems like that would make the pain of not getting pregnant easier to handle. I'm not sure excactly how, but I think keeping that sort of thing private makes the sting out of failing -- at least the public sting"
It reminded me of what BabyG shared before abt publicly announcing the baby making plans and all forcus would be on them like Fann Wong and Christopher Lee. And if the plans didn't materialise, the stress would actually be on them. Not being nasty to say that you BIL won't get pregnant but just that no one knows. Just like us, we never expect ourselves to take a longer time than others to have a baby. So being overconfidently abt the whole bb project maynot do them good if after opening declaring that they going to have a bb like popping an egg but subsequently not able to meet the timeline set for themselves
