Child Adoption

[rameena4ever]

Die CONGRATS!! You are absolutely right when the right one comes along , you just know.
BT or scans does not matter once you are in love with your child but do it anyway just for your son so you know that everything is fine. I din have to do any medicals cos my baby is born in Singapore. I believe that any child born outside of Singapore requires full medicals. Please correct me if I am wrong.
I only told my parents and in laws when we brought baby home. No one knew about it before that.

 

[catherine250776]

Hie Die, congrats!

 

[catherine250776]

Hi Die, may i know which agency did u approach?

 

[dream09]

Die
I am really happy to read your message and like you, I fell in love with my baby boy the minute I saw him. But for other ladies reading this thread, don't worry if u don't fall in love right away with baby as everybody is different and everybody has different experience. Some fell in love with baby when they brought baby home.

About the tests, would suggest to get doctors advice on it. I remember that before meeting my bb, I had a long list of test I wanted to do but at the end, I did what the Dr recommended. I also brought bb home before the results

but I think most mummies would have brought their babies after BT results.

It is really heartwarming to be part of your journey! I remember when u started on this thread and I am so happy that your baby found you!

 

[die]

Thanks everyone..still waiting for my agent to call and meet baby at the hospital..

Catherine, I pm you.

 

[die]

Catherine,
U do not accept pm?

 

[sweethorizon]

Die and Dream

Wow! Its like some fairytale. Glad that die had found her baby! Hope everything is fine

 

[mom_2_be]

Die.....

I just wanna give a BIG teddybear hug to you

I think I can't sleep tonight. I'm soooo happy for u.

Enjoy every minute with the baby...

happy sweet times ahead

OMG! i forgot to congratulate u on the first sentence

 

[die]

Tks everyone

Baby is home and check up only tmr. Hubby n I abit panicky cuz inexperienced. Baby cries alot. Three things to say: Thank God for MIL and Thank God for my maid they know wat to do. And thank God for everyone here and ur love n support. Not enuff sleep..everything topsy turvy..

 

[yuli]

Just dropped in 2 say hello n saw the good news. Congrats Die!!!! I remember when u first came by this forum last year n here u r, a mother! Enjoy the amazing journey! But first, like u said, gotta adjust 2 being sleep deprived

 

[rameena4ever]

Die don't worry, trust me, it will get easier and better.good thing you have help.

 

[iwantitvmuch]

yuli, wah, so honour to have you back, even to say hello. haha. please contribute more and stay on the thread lah. hahaha.

Die,
I'm so happy for you! Yes, Thank God for everything and the support we get from here! Glad your MIL is falling in love as she has quickly rolled up her sleeves to take care of baby.
Baby is in a new environment, hence might cry alot. Boys tend to be active too. Maybe he's colicky. How old is he??
Welcome to Motherhood. Did you realise that you are a mother now?? You can proudly show him off as your trophy.
Tell your friends when you are ready. You will learn as you go along, on how to response to people reaction. But close friends will support you on the way. Remember to take pictures(without flash). It's very surreal right? But it's no sudden because you have waited so loooooong to be a mother.
Have fun!

 

[catherine250776]

Hi Die,

I don't accept pm. But you can email to me ([email protected]).

u have to relax n learn to understand ur baby needs thr some little habits. eg when a baby keeps crying, it doesn't mean that he is hungry. It could be that he felt uncomfortable as his diaper is wet / soiled.

 

[die]

My agent is Ronnie from Kid N Tot.
I really hopes it gets easier because i get discouraged when the maid can settle the baby when I cant..sigh. Hubby is taking it all in stride.

 

[dream09]

Die
Congrats! Amazing journey! And this day will remain in your memories forever. Like iwantitvmuch said, please take lots of pictures on this memorable day.

When baby is small, need to swaddle him as he will feel more secure. You can hold him to sleep as well. Just enjoy motherhood and dont worry too much. You will get there! We all learn the hard way! And if any doubts, just ask PD. Btw, How old is your bb?

 

[dream09]

Priya,
Thanks and I really feel fortunate to have him in our lives! He started to be naughty but always have a cheeky smile on his face!

 

[mummyportia]

Hi Die, have been following your amazing journey from the start, u've come a long way, Babe!! Congrats n keep going, we are right behind u

Happy 2011 to your new addition and I know it will be well worth all the sleep deprivation and fatigue.... Big Big hugz!! Yes, take lots of photos as your baby will grow so fast... My boy is 20 mths now and thank God we took photos by the month cos' he just keeps evolving and changing...

 

[die]

Thanks everyone and Happy New Year!

My boy is 2 mths and 3 days old.
He can lift his neck
I will leave daddy to the photo-taking.

The dr visit today went well n bb's BT result will be out next week. Physical check is gd. Baby has dry skin n some rashes.Given cream to apply n cetaphil bath oil. He drinks abt 150ml every 3 hrs and poos once a day. He takes short naps and for the past 2 days sleeps through the night from 12 am to 5.30 am.

We bought a playpen with bassinet for him as well as a sunflower electric yaolan.

I do not dare to shower him. Maid has done that for past 2 days. Maid v. gd. I rewarded her with a $28 phone top-up card n she can chat with her hubby.

 

[lady1978]

Hi die, congrats to u! A new year n a new additon to ur family and thats great! enjoy motherhood! But of course cant sleep as much as before but u r so lucky ur maid is an experienced one..

Dream n yuli and other ladies glad to c u ladies back again...

 

[lady1978]

Die, u got ur baby from Alice too?

 

[dream09]

Die
You are a lucky girl! Your baby boy can sleep from noon to 5:30am at 2 month old

I guess he knows mummy must get her beauty sleep. It is good that he has good appetite. Would grow up to be a strong and healthy baby. And it is great that he can already lift up his neck!

About bathing, you can buy those bath tubs with net or some support base. it would get easier as he grows bigger

Such an exciting time! Lots of first to celebrate this year!

Lyn
Nice to see u here too

 

[lovelyday]

hi die
Congrats! wow, starting a new year with ur precious baby!

I have contacted Ronnie from Kid & Tots too as it seems so difficult to get hold of Alice from Lotus nowadays. Anyone has news from her? Thanks

 

[sweethorizon]

Die,

Its nice to hear your exciting words! Glad that you are happy with ur little one.

lovelyday
Same here. Its difficult to get Alice these days. I have not heard from her and she seems busy every time i contact her.

 

[sweethorizon]

Mrs Ha n the rest of the ladies,

So when are we meeting up?

 

[lovelyday]

Priya
Same here, I am so disappointed, both alice and Lakshmi promised me that there is baby for viewing and Nearer to the date of viewing, they just MIA!!! I am all ready to adopt but the feeling is just so yucky to be played out. I though Alice used to be recommended in this forum? Has she changed?

Does anyone has other agencies, reliable one to recommend?

Thanks a lot!

 

[catherine250776]

Hi all,

I thought I'm the unlucky one. My appointment with Alice to view the baby was called off just an hour before the appointment time... somemore on Christmas eve! I tried calling and sms her, but no reply!

I wonder whether it is difficult to get a baby as both Malaysia n Singapore government has tighted the checks due to some recent baby traffickering cases?

 

[plee]

hi die, been busy and away. I just saw your update on your baby - congrats! So happy for you. My baby is now 10 weeks and also started to sleep in and is smiling a lot.

 

[sweethorizon]

lovelyday and catherine

I understand how you must be feeling. I contacted Alice based on this forum. I'm lost too.

 

[lady1978]

Hi Catherine n lovelyday, so sad to hear abr yr recently encounter. Hope u will hv gd news very soon...

Hi priya, mrs ha n other ladies wanna meet up soon?

Hi percy, u must be hving lots of fun with ur little ones!

 

[sweethorizon]

Hi Lyn,

What is your contact? when shall we meet?

 

[lady1978]

Hi priya, my email add is [email protected]. Pls drop me an email so we can fix the date for an meet up session

 

[dimpyteddy]

Hi all

I am new here. And would like to know more on child adoption.

Can i check whether HSR must go through agency?

How should i start?

Many thanks in advance!

BR
Dimpy

 

[sweethorizon]

Hi Dimpyteddy

You need not go thru any agency for HSR. You just have to do the report yourself but ofcourse you may ask da agent for any queries. You have to start with HSR. Got to fill up the application forms and provide supporting documents.

Use this link for the different accredited agencies and application forms in their websites
http://www.joyfulchildadoption.com.sg/accredited.htm

Use this link for the adoption course http://www.touch.org.sg/news_events

 

[iwantitvmuch]

lovelyday, please be patient. I don't think anyone wants to be MIA. No one can guarantee that you will have a baby when the time arrives. The baby is not a merchanise and might not be ready whenever you want to view!!! The biological mother might have changed their minds or someone else might have viewed the baby before you.

I'm sorry but as much as I understand that you all are anxious to be mother, sometimes you all have to listen to yourselves! If this is becoming a thread whereby you are coming in to demand for babies, then this thread is not giving good publicity.

 

[sunflower09]

hi Ladies

HSR only needed for local babies adoption? If adopt from overseas no need HSR right? Then if adopt from overseas, still need get MCYS approval or just do the legal papers?

 

[rameena4ever]

Sunny, no need hsr for local adoptions. International adoptions need hsr.

 

[rameena4ever]

Well said iwantitvmuch!! Well said!!

 

[sunflower09]

Rameena, oh i see, i reversed the requirements myself, hehe, thanks for clarifying.

Supposing found local baby then just apply to MCYS for approval?

 

[rameena4ever]

Sunny, your lawyer will do all the necessary documentation and approvals. You need not lift a finger, may be just to sign papers. MCYS will then contact you to do interviews.

 

[vickysmommy]

Iwantitverymuch is right; just like trying to conceive, you hv to be patient. I know that once you've decided tt adoption is the way you want to start yr family, you want to do so straight away. Like what iwantit said; it's not like placing an order n expecting the gds to be supplied. When adopting, I always believe tt it is yr bb who'll find you, not quite the other way.

Those new to the thread: welcome!! This is a great thread to begin yr journey. You might want to randomly read older posts as there may be some answers to yr qns already.

Hv a great rest of the week!

 

[lady1978]

Hi priya, didnt c any of ur email. Juz in case u wanna sms my contact is 91734741

Hi andrea, agreeded with wat u n iwantit said but i also understand hw the other ladies feels coz we hv been thru enuff obstacles from failure to conceived.. its a tough journey...

 

[vickysmommy]

hey ladies, especially those of you who have completed your HSR and are oh-so-ready to become parents - we know what you are going through having gone down that path before, tt's why we have a thriving support group in here. the agony of waiting for your baby now is almost equivalent to the wait monthly to see if you have conceived, right? it IS tough... for some, adopting is a more hopeful alternative to starting to family so like TTC-ing, you must be patient. whilst waiting, just sit back and enjoy the last mths of yr time with your spouse cos when baby comes, the dynamics will totally change. go for the holiday you've been postponing just because it might have clashed with your ovulation or tests... take your folks if you've always wanted to do so, go on that all-girls shopping break... anything to distract yourself and keep yourself occupied because there isn't tt much you can do after putting all your contacts with the necessary parties.

because for you all might know, the wait can suddenly come to an end when you get THE call. really : ) ! go on, treat yourself to something you enjoy because when baby comes, it'll be some time before you can do it... ; )

 

[lady1978]

Andrea, always very happy to c ur posting. U r very informative and also comforting. Yes u r very right that we shld enjoy the time with our loved ones irregardless with a kid or kid on the way. Life is short n we hv to cherish every moment n to be happy...

 

[vickysmommy]

Thank you, Lyn : ) we are bonded in the same love to have a family. Some of us have started the journey before others and it is only right to share.

BTW all, I'm not sure if you know about a book published by Touch called "Our Very Own". It has a compilation of personal journeys written by adoptive parents, adoptees and birthmoms. It is very special because it is the first of its kind out of Singapore. If you are interested to purchase it, visit: http://adoption.tcs.org.sg/

 

[lovelyday]

Thank you all for your encouragement! yup, i will learn to cherish whatever time i have with my husband right now and wait patiently!

Thanks Thanks!

 

[lady1978]

Hi andrea, must be an interesting book.. will get that soon. Its still avaliable right?

Hi lovelyday, didu also try other agencies ?

 

[mom_2_be]

Hi ppl

I'm back after sometime.

Folks, did anyone watch channelnewsasia's "Get Rea!" programme this mon/tue..it was regarding international adoption of babies from Malaysia.

. I missed to watch it

Hey, MCYS has approved our embassy's letter of assurance

..Now we're waiting for the assessor to call us to fix up an office interview date

c ya

 

[sweethorizon]

Mrs Ha

That sounds great! I'm still doing the application. Someone told me that both husband and wife must be working in order to adopt? There is a employment letter requirement in the application form. So that must be true?

 

[mom_2_be]

Priya

Yes, Employment letter is required in the application form. It doesn't mean that both of u must be working.

I'm a housewife

My husband works doubly hard for me

 

[angel_mummy]

Dear Gorgeous ladies,

It has been awhile since I drop by this page...

I think iwantitvmuch, Vickysmommy have it well said ! Their message to all help put things back in perspective especially when we are going through tough time like waiting.

Personally for me, the adoption journey is as challenging to me as the conception & pregnancy (+ miscarriage) journey... I think God uses it to remind me, that is why one is as sacred as the other

Doesn't matter we are religious or not, it is important to have faith in the wait for YOUR child, the ONE dedicated to be yours.
May be some of you can recall those time when we are single waiting for the right one walking into our life, v much the same, can't make it faster nor slower, when it happen it happen !

No matter which stage of the adoption journey you are in, DO aridi give yourself a GREAT pad on the shoulder as you are a brave person who pursue this journey for your child

Dont Loss heart, losing the anxieties will help ;P

May be this may help some of us feel abit better. My Finnish friends who adopted share w me the law there required them to stay at least 3 yrs in the country of the child origin before the authorities give the green light to finalized the legal papers. Mainly is to protect the kids and make sure the parents knows what they are in for and first chose to adapt to your child environment and not the other way round. Recently, one of tis couple just returned from Etopia with their boy after a 3 yrs stay there. So ladies u see some couples need to go thru a much "longer" way to be parents. But there is one thing I did not hear from any one of them ==> "Regrets", to them it is all worth it and infact almost all of them think this is the right way to go, I am sure the 3 years is definitely a PLUS for the disclosure journey later

Ok on a lighter note, I just saw this video on the AdoptiveFamilies site and am Soooooo touched!
Enjoy !!! BTW their monthly magazine is worth subscribing to

http://www.adoptivefamiliescircle.com/videos/watch/38/