newbie19
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I have a 3 year old child. I have always wanted 2 kids but currently my husband is not keen to have more than one kid.
He does not insist on it but his reasons are sound.
Firstly we married late - I was 34 and he was 35. I got pregnant soon after and gave birth to a lovely boy.
We bought a 3 room flat. But we asked his widowed mum to move in with us so that she could look after our child. She is elderly and I saw that the kid was a handful once he started walking so I got a maid as well. Now there are 4 adults and a kid in a 3 room flat. How to accommodate another child?
We are unable to upgrade to another flat in the near future (nest 2-3 years) cos of the current housing costs and loan rulings.
My age is 38 this year. My husband and I are both concerned about complications if I am to fall pregnant now. My first delivery was already a C-section and I had a bad time during the pregnancy.
If we wait and decide, I am afraid I may be too old and may have difficulty conceiving.
We also want to send our kids to good preschools and enrichment classes. With one child it is ok but 2 will eat into our savings.
So finally we decided to stop at one child.My husband and I have more than one sibling so I am not sure how my child will like growing up as an only child. Unfortunately he has no cousins and very few of my friends have kids his age.
I would like to hear form parents of a single child on how you feel about your decision to stop at one.
He does not insist on it but his reasons are sound.
Firstly we married late - I was 34 and he was 35. I got pregnant soon after and gave birth to a lovely boy.
We bought a 3 room flat. But we asked his widowed mum to move in with us so that she could look after our child. She is elderly and I saw that the kid was a handful once he started walking so I got a maid as well. Now there are 4 adults and a kid in a 3 room flat. How to accommodate another child?
We are unable to upgrade to another flat in the near future (nest 2-3 years) cos of the current housing costs and loan rulings.
My age is 38 this year. My husband and I are both concerned about complications if I am to fall pregnant now. My first delivery was already a C-section and I had a bad time during the pregnancy.
If we wait and decide, I am afraid I may be too old and may have difficulty conceiving.
We also want to send our kids to good preschools and enrichment classes. With one child it is ok but 2 will eat into our savings.
So finally we decided to stop at one child.My husband and I have more than one sibling so I am not sure how my child will like growing up as an only child. Unfortunately he has no cousins and very few of my friends have kids his age.
I would like to hear form parents of a single child on how you feel about your decision to stop at one.