any 35 and above trying for their first?

[lemon tart]

I agreed with darkrain75 to do the HSG thingy. I have done mine and discovered one tubes blocked plus with some other obstacles. HSG, to me, was very painful...and ends up with two doctors attending me then. Subsequently, I was bleeding for a few days like menses coming. If can, take painkiller if you want... to relieve the pain.

sorry to hear yours hurt so bad. mine was just awkward after it cos I kept feeling the dye coming out.i was running after the bus and I guess that made it worse!

 

[baby_sparkles]

Pls make sure u r not preggy when doin hsg .. Just in case

 

[oceandeep78]

Thanks lemon tart for the useful info. Will bear that in mind
Many thanks baby sparkles for the precaution too!

 

[lemon tart]

baby sparklers is right: must make sure not preggy. They will make u sign an indemnity form also.

 

[junjunjun]

Hi all,

It truly is so comforting to know that 'this fight' isnt alone an there are so many others who are fighting the same war too. I am 39 this year and had been ttc-ing for 6years. Me and DH were married for 7 years already.
My journey was full of ups and downs. Bad doctors and good doctors. We almost went for IVF but my AF decided to not show up and 2mths at that. That was when a colleague recommended a TCM fertility specialist. It was ok at first (it was very pricey) but I stopped after I was given an additional herb to totally cleanse my womb during menses, my period cramps got so bad that strong painkillers wont do.The TCM doc said it was due to my hormone imbalance and said I cannot stop taking the particular herb so I stopped seeing her and consulted doctors. Went to 3 doctors becoz the first one told me to go for an operation. I refused. the second one told me to straight away go ivf and the cramps will go away (yes I know thank you) and the third one gave me clomid and no I didnt conceive.

DH said to rest and rest I did but we still do the BD. Earlier this year, was recommended to a professional midwife masseuse who somehow corrected my uterus position. On the first visit, she told me the position was quite high. She assured me that age isnt an issue for a woman to get pregnant and not to lose hope and keep on trying as she has seen older woman than me conceiving their first child.

So now, we're back to trying TCM and seeing a new gynae soon. The plan was to get the body in shape for an IVF earlier next year but of course, to be conceiving naturally would be so wonderful! Me and DH agreed that we will embrace whatever is the outcome of our efforts because everything happens for a reason.

So baby dusts to all of us and may we be blessed to be parents very very soon

 

[Seaturtle]

Hi all,

It truly is so comforting to know that 'this fight' isnt alone an there are so many others who are fighting the same war too. I am 39 this year and had been ttc-ing for 6years. Me and DH were married for 7 years already.
My journey was full of ups and downs. Bad doctors and good doctors. We almost went for IVF but my AF decided to not show up and 2mths at that. That was when a colleague recommended a TCM fertility specialist. It was ok at first (it was very pricey) but I stopped after I was given an additional herb to totally cleanse my womb during menses, my period cramps got so bad that strong painkillers wont do.The TCM doc said it was due to my hormone imbalance and said I cannot stop taking the particular herb so I stopped seeing her and consulted doctors. Went to 3 doctors becoz the first one told me to go for an operation. I refused. the second one told me to straight away go ivf and the cramps will go away (yes I know thank you) and the third one gave me clomid and no I didnt conceive.

DH said to rest and rest I did but we still do the BD. Earlier this year, was recommended to a professional midwife masseuse who somehow corrected my uterus position. On the first visit, she told me the position was quite high. She assured me that age isnt an issue for a woman to get pregnant and not to lose hope and keep on trying as she has seen older woman than me conceiving their first child.

So now, we're back to trying TCM and seeing a new gynae soon. The plan was to get the body in shape for an IVF earlier next year but of course, to be conceiving naturally would be so wonderful! Me and DH agreed that we will embrace whatever is the outcome of our efforts because everything happens for a reason.

So baby dusts to all of us and may we be blessed to be parents very very soon

Hi @junjunjun,

Your story very similar to mine as I have been ttc-ing for 5 years plus as well. Also seen and spent $ on good and bad doctors. Went to a lot of TCM for medication as well.

By God's grace I managed to conceive after going for lap surgery as my current gynae diagnosed me with endo (I was struggling with scanty periods for > 6 months). I was very against operation initially (at least 2 docs asked me to go) but as I wanted to get my womb in shape (I also have a blocked tube) before trying for IVF and going on no pay leave to focus on this, hubby decided for both of us to go ahead with the operation. I'm glad I took the plunge cos the operation worked for me.

Just wanted to share that do keep an open mind about options like operation and IVF also. And also do go to a gynae or fertility specialist as they would know more details about the tests to be done. I wasted time with a gynae who was not saavy with fertility issues, and my fren also wasted time as well with another gynae who didn't perform the full range of tests thinking she was young and would not have certain issues.

All the best ladies, baby dust to all!

 

[MyBaby73]

Hi all,

It truly is so comforting to know that 'this fight' isnt alone an there are so many others who are fighting the same war too. I am 39 this year and had been ttc-ing for 6years. Me and DH were married for 7 years already.
My journey was full of ups and downs. Bad doctors and good doctors. We almost went for IVF but my AF decided to not show up and 2mths at that. That was when a colleague recommended a TCM fertility specialist. It was ok at first (it was very pricey) but I stopped after I was given an additional herb to totally cleanse my womb during menses, my period cramps got so bad that strong painkillers wont do.The TCM doc said it was due to my hormone imbalance and said I cannot stop taking the particular herb so I stopped seeing her and consulted doctors. Went to 3 doctors becoz the first one told me to go for an operation. I refused. the second one told me to straight away go ivf and the cramps will go away (yes I know thank you) and the third one gave me clomid and no I didnt conceive.

DH said to rest and rest I did but we still do the BD. Earlier this year, was recommended to a professional midwife masseuse who somehow corrected my uterus position. On the first visit, she told me the position was quite high. She assured me that age isnt an issue for a woman to get pregnant and not to lose hope and keep on trying as she has seen older woman than me conceiving their first child.

So now, we're back to trying TCM and seeing a new gynae soon. The plan was to get the body in shape for an IVF earlier next year but of course, to be conceiving naturally would be so wonderful! Me and DH agreed that we will embrace whatever is the outcome of our efforts because everything happens for a reason.

So baby dusts to all of us and may we be blessed to be parents very very soon

Pls do not delay going for ivf if u are having difficulties conceiving. Ivf success rate very much depends on age and success drop drastically when u hit 40. Our egg quality n reserve drop too. Also you are not entitled to govt grant once you hit 40. So I would suggest doing it this year. I really regret delaying seeking ivf treatment so hope others will not be like me.

 

[junjunjun]

Hi @Seaturtle

The first doctor said some herbs I took from the acu flared up my adenomyosis and suggested an op. So I seeked a 2nd n 3rd opinion and was told that an operation wasnt necessary. I should just go ahead for the ivf as giving birth will help cease it. And yes, the extremely painful cramps stopped soon after as I stopped seeing the TCM doc. Btw who is the gynae who diagnosed you?

@Jumbo girl that is why we are doing it soon. To cut a long story short, we have attended IVF talks for 2x already and almost went ahead with the 2nd one but my AF decided to chicken out as I mentioned earlier. So this is a third visit for us to SGH CARE centre.

 

[Seaturtle]

Hi @junjunjun I replied u via pm .

I agree strongly with @jumbogirl - don't wait too long to embark on IVF. I have frens who think they are young and did not explore this earlier and some of them have reserve or egg quality issues which used to be associated w more mature ladies. They lost precious time trying TCM etc.

Ganbatte! You are on the right track now

 

[junjunjun]

thk u @Seaturtles and @Jumbo girl for replying.

 

[Chubby1314]

@oceandeep78 : Thanks for the kind words. Just maybe my luck with this unforgettable experience. Anyway, Life is still moving on.. Just hope for the best in this round of TTC... Been monitoring my BBT and test for my O. Setting my alarm clock, taking my BBT and using the ovulation test kit to test my first urine of the day... and taking my folic acid as well...

 

[oceandeep78]

Hey Chubby,
Life definitely goes on inspite of our challenges. I hope it makes us stronger as a result. And the day we hold our babies in our arms, we will really strive to be wonderful mummies. I think it really happens for a reason. This is also testing our patience and endurance. We need to persevere to the end and have the fighting spirit to carry on and believe our time will definitely come. When it comes, it will be another set of challenges so brace yourself up. Challenges are neverending de.

 

[darkrain75]

Hi, just wanna find out if anybody could advise me. 2 weeks ago I did my IUI, I'm going for the blood test this thurs to find out whether if it's successful. I kind of wondering is blood test really necessary cos I thought we'd be able to detect by using clearblue pregnancy test kit, is that correct?

 

[Seaturtle]

Hi, just wanna find out if anybody could advise me. 2 weeks ago I did my IUI, I'm going for the blood test this thurs to find out whether if it's successful. I kind of wondering is blood test really necessary cos I thought we'd be able to detect by using clearblue pregnancy test kit, is that correct?

Hi I think it's up to u actually. I didn't go for it cos that time AF reported earlier than blood test date so didn't want to waste the $.

Some pple go for it cos want to track the rate of increase in HCG.

 

[Lindapoo]

Hi wanted to share, me n DH tried for 2 iui, 1 ivf and we only got success during natural FET cycle in Jan this year.
I'm 35 this yr. My EDD is in sept.
Dun lose hopes..if u have in mind ivf, dun procrastinate juz go for it.

 

[oceandeep78]

Hi Lindapoo, congrats!
I wonder why is the success rate for iui so low? Does anyone know?

 

[oceandeep78]

Hi, just wanna find out if anybody could advise me. 2 weeks ago I did my IUI, I'm going for the blood test this thurs to find out whether if it's successful. I kind of wondering is blood test really necessary cos I thought we'd be able to detect by using clearblue pregnancy test kit, is that correct?

Hi Darkrain,
Actually I feel the blood test is unnecessary. I also went for IUI and used HPT to test on the morning of my blood test. It was negative but because my AF hasn't come so doctor wanted to be doubly sure by doing the blood test. However, I felt she wanted to save some face by doing the blood test and said sometimes the HPT not accurate and even asked for the brand of HPT.
Was quite turned off actually.

 

[oceandeep78]

@oceandeep78 : Thanks for the kind words. Just maybe my luck with this unforgettable experience. Anyway, Life is still moving on.. Just hope for the best in this round of TTC... Been monitoring my BBT and test for my O. Setting my alarm clock, taking my BBT and using the ovulation test kit to test my first urine of the day... and taking my folic acid as well...

Hi Chubby,
During my break, I really didn't bother to test with opk. Just wanna get away from all these. I try to tiao my body during this period. Trying hard to lose those stubborn fats too.
Let's jiayou together when we ttc next month!

 

[darkrain75]

Hi Darkrain,
Actually I feel the blood test is unnecessary. I also went for IUI and used HPT to test on the morning of my blood test. It was negative but because my AF hasn't come so doctor wanted to be doubly sure by doing the blood test. However, I felt she wanted to save some face by doing the blood test and said sometimes the HPT not accurate and even asked for the brand of HPT.
Was quite turned off actually.

Hi Oceandeep, actually I didn't feel like going for the test cos a part of me felt that the IUI is a failure especially a family fren who went thru IUI 4 times, only to succeed on her 4th try, I'm kinda wondering if I'm supposed to go thru like her too? Kinda sucks if it really turns out that way, imagine how old am I by the time if i really get preggie, at the same time really feel disappointed. Though results haven't been done, my period yet to report (mine always is irregular) so everything is still a question mark, really hope it's moving towards the bright side. For the last 2 weeks, I can only wait and pray to God for miracle to happen, but whatever the results turns out to be, I have to accept it.

 

[Seaturtle]

Hi Oceandeep, actually I didn't feel like going for the test cos a part of me felt that the IUI is a failure especially a family fren who went thru IUI 4 times, only to succeed on her 4th try, I'm kinda wondering if I'm supposed to go thru like her too? Kinda sucks if it really turns out that way, imagine how old am I by the time if i really get preggie, at the same time really feel disappointed. Though results haven't been done, my period yet to report (mine always is irregular) so everything is still a question mark, really hope it's moving towards the bright side. For the last 2 weeks, I can only wait and pray to God for miracle to happen, but whatever the results turns out to be, I have to accept it.

Hi @darkrain75 - I think IUI is suitable for couples who have slight or moderate fertility issues eg sperm motility as IUI will help sperm to “closer" to the tubes. If there is any tubal blockage, or endo/adenomoysis, sperm morphology, low ovarian reserve or egg quality issues, then IUI is not suitable and might be better off to go for IVF directly.

Hence it's important we do a thorough check of the existing issues and undertake the appropriate treatment rather than keep trying IUI. Usually fertility specialists I go to will not recommend IUI > 3 x as it means it's not effective.

For me, I did a HSG and it showed my right tube blocked. Wanted to save $ so I only did IUI when left side ovulating but did not succeed. When I went for lap surgery later, my doc discovered it was my left tube which was blocked even more than my right tube even when HSG showed normal spillage. My doc also discovered endo during my surgery as well. All this helped to explain why my IUI was not successful.

Jia you ladies, it's important also to keep fit before pregnancy as the journey from there can be challenging also. Ganbatte!

 

[Lindapoo]

Me n HB went thru all the tests n w 2 fertility specialists, all said we r healthy w no issues. Went tcm to find out more, no cold womb no nothing.
Monthly period n Ovulation promptly Decided iui x 2, nothing. Ivf x 1 nothing. Retrieve 8eggs, 6 fertilized with grade 1. Thinking that my body cannot accept all the hormones injections n med thus unsuccessful.

 

[Babylyn]

Hi Everyone..

I'm new here & I would like to share my tips for ttc-ing..

Was only married at Age 35 last year in Oct & of course first thing me & hubby was concerned abt is having a baby.. So before our wedding we both went to see TCM & taking med & of course acupuncture at Dr Zou Yu Min at AMK. I rem that We went for 2 rounds of acupuncture & due to hubby work n busy schedule... We ended up dropping out halfway .. Subsequently we got married & went on honeymoon.. Den just didn't get back on track to go for TCM visits le..

Like all wanabe mums.. I started using Ovulation kits & basal thermometers, to test ovulation days & making sure hubby comes back early to try for bb .. So end up some pple may think that jus newly weds, setting aside time & trying daily for bb becomes like a chore..

My mother was also worried, cos I'm e last to get married & all my siblings all had children b4 they were 35, so mum wil ask me go pray here & there, including Zhu Sheng Niang Niang etc..

I forgot to add that I had a good career in banking; but I decided to quit my job aft I got married cos I hv seen too many frens who were in the same stressful environment where I was in who couldn't conceive partly bcos of stress at work... Hubby & myself hv discussed this b4 getting married that my age & my eggs is not going to wait for me... While the pursuit of my career & good paying banking job, I can always go back to work again aft having a baby.. Although meanwhile I hv to watch my spendings & it's harder on hubby cos he has to take over a entire household expenses etc.. So I stayed at home, while being a housewife & cooking for my hubby, & try for baby during the fertile weeks..
Few months passed, in Mar, my Gynae told me that to try for naturally for max 6 months (from Oct).. So if stil no news yet, April I muz go back to do IUI cos my age is not favourable to let me try natural for too

 

[Babylyn]

Continued from last reply..

So I went back to tell hubby abt Gynae's advise is to go back to do IUI in April.. Hubby said ok.. Let's see if there is good news for us this month.

To both of our surprise, I was waiting for my period to come in Mid April ... & it didn't come.. I waited for another week & stil dun hv..! I stil rem I was feeling so excited & telling my sis I wan to take e pregnancy test kit, while my sis discouraged me to use it first in case I get disappointed.. I stil went ahead.. I took a 1st test using a doc pregnancy test strip.. The result one 1 red line & 1 faint line.. I frowned at it.. So I took another test kit which I had previously bot from Watsons, same thing. One red line & 1 faint line... I got abit irritated.. Cos result seems like false positive.. & lastly I too out the Clear Blue pregnancy test kit to try.. I took a deep breath & use it .. Finally. No more lines.. It jus states "pregnant 2-3wks" ... I was so happy & immediately called hubby...!!! I was planning to give him a surprise when he comes home from work, but I jus couldn't contain it anymore & had to call him immediately when I know he was engaged in a meeting!!

I am v thankful that i have been v v blessed & have been v v v lucky.. Cos many of you ladies out there hv been trying for couple of years..
I just want to encourage all of u to not give up hope.. Especially those who are going thru lots of stress at work... I understand that a double income is v v Impt as well..
At the same time, bcos of the work stress, u also spending more on doc visits, TCM visits & fertility treatments; all these costs lots of money... Sometimes it good to give up certain things & u will never know.. The end result gained is precious baby who can bring u & hubby so much joy..

For the non Christians, u can also PM me to ask me where I went to pray, cos there is a place where I went to; actually also helped my Aunty who is married for 8 yrs & childless to hv a baby; my own sis in law.. Who had irregular menses issues to also conceive... So there is no harm trying.. I will explain more in details with u again in private..

Meanwhile wishing all of u good luck.& hope to hear good news soon for u ladies...!! Jiayou...!!! ..

 

[darkrain75]

Actually I almost have to go for IVF if my last result wasn't ideal, but luckily it turns out fine. Went this morning to have my bloodtest, results out this afternoon. But now I felt too stunned to wait for the result, my mind went blank when I went toilet to relive myself, there's a little bleeding, is it normal when you do IUI to have bleeding? Cos I never experience any the past 2 weeks.....guess by seeing this means it's gone case....don't know if I'd cry or to be calm about it......totally not in the mood anymore...

 

[Seaturtle]

Actually I almost have to go for IVF if my last result wasn't ideal, but luckily it turns out fine. Went this morning to have my bloodtest, results out this afternoon. But now I felt too stunned to wait for the result, my mind went blank when I went toilet to relive myself, there's a little bleeding, is it normal when you do IUI to have bleeding? Cos I never experience any the past 2 weeks.....guess by seeing this means it's gone case....don't know if I'd cry or to be calm about it......totally not in the mood anymore...

Hi girl hang in there u still dunno the results yet. Early pregnancy also got spotting one.

 

[darkrain75]

Hi girl hang in there u still dunno the results yet. Early pregnancy also got spotting one.

Results out, it's negative.....cry like mad, heart ache like nobody biz.

 

[Seaturtle]

Results out, it's negative.....cry like mad, heart ache like nobody biz.

Sayang sayang k ... Have been at that spot many times. Persevere girl n u will see the light at the end of the tunnel. Jia you!

 

[darkrain75]

Sayang sayang k ... Have been at that spot many times. Persevere girl n u will see the light at the end of the tunnel. Jia you!

Tears kept brimming to the top, guess I took it too hard, pin too much hope in it only to fall real hard. Cry finish le, earth still moving, life still goes on. Nothing will change no matter how much u cry or felt the ache, it has become a fact, I've to suck it up....am taking a break in this, probably will go TCM after I felt better emotionally. Thanks for the support, truly appreciate it.

 

[Seaturtle]

Tears kept brimming to the top, guess I took it too hard, pin too much hope in it only to fall real hard. Cry finish le, earth still moving, life still goes on. Nothing will change no matter how much u cry or felt the ache, it has become a fact, I've to suck it up....am taking a break in this, probably will go TCM after I felt better emotionally. Thanks for the support, truly appreciate it.

That's the spirit girl! There are many TCM around who can help w this. Fann Wong also admitted in her interview w Lian He Zao Bao this week that she has been using TCM to Tiao her body and avoiding cold drinks and ice cream all these years. Jia you!

 

[darkrain75]

That's the spirit girl! There are many TCM around who can help w this. Fann Wong also admitted in her interview w Lian He Zao Bao this week that she has been using TCM to Tiao her body and avoiding cold drinks and ice cream all these years. Jia you!

Have to accept the fact no matter how unwilling to face it, I just kinda wonder how long do I have to wait before I can finally shed tears of happiness....

 

[oceandeep78]

Results out, it's negative.....cry like mad, heart ache like nobody biz.

Hi Darkrain,

Don't lose heart. My first IUI failed too but I didn't cry because it was expected. My gynae totally screwed it up plus I was having bad allergy so I know I wont be preggy.
Just take this time to tiao your body for 1-2 months then brace yourself again. My upcoming gynae apt in Aug and I hope my gynae will allow me to do HSG. The last time I saw her was in Apr and I wanna do IUI but she doesn't want to do for me because she said I have not tried for a year. Ended up I saw a private gynae so as to do IUI. Well, it was a wrong move and now I am going back to her again. This time, she can't refuse to do IUI for me.

 

[oceandeep78]

Continued from last reply..

So I went back to tell hubby abt Gynae's advise is to go back to do IUI in April.. Hubby said ok.. Let's see if there is good news for us this month.

To both of our surprise, I was waiting for my period to come in Mid April ... & it didn't come.. I waited for another week & stil dun hv..! I stil rem I was feeling so excited & telling my sis I wan to take e pregnancy test kit, while my sis discouraged me to use it first in case I get disappointed.. I stil went ahead.. I took a 1st test using a doc pregnancy test strip.. The result one 1 red line & 1 faint line.. I frowned at it.. So I took another test kit which I had previously bot from Watsons, same thing. One red line & 1 faint line... I got abit irritated.. Cos result seems like false positive.. & lastly I too out the Clear Blue pregnancy test kit to try.. I took a deep breath & use it .. Finally. No more lines.. It jus states "pregnant 2-3wks" ... I was so happy & immediately called hubby...!!! I was planning to give him a surprise when he comes home from work, but I jus couldn't contain it anymore & had to call him immediately when I know he was engaged in a meeting!!

I am v thankful that i have been v v blessed & have been v v v lucky.. Cos many of you ladies out there hv been trying for couple of years..
I just want to encourage all of u to not give up hope.. Especially those who are going thru lots of stress at work... I understand that a double income is v v Impt as well..
At the same time, bcos of the work stress, u also spending more on doc visits, TCM visits & fertility treatments; all these costs lots of money... Sometimes it good to give up certain things & u will never know.. The end result gained is precious baby who can bring u & hubby so much joy..

For the non Christians, u can also PM me to ask me where I went to pray, cos there is a place where I went to; actually also helped my Aunty who is married for 8 yrs & childless to hv a baby; my own sis in law.. Who had irregular menses issues to also conceive... So there is no harm trying.. I will explain more in details with u again in private..

Meanwhile wishing all of u good luck.& hope to hear good news soon for u ladies...!! Jiayou...!!! ..

Congrats Babylyn!
Did you do anything special to get BFP? Like diet ? So in all, how long did it take for u to get preggy? Your story is inspiring but at the same time, I know I can't have high hopes since I am past 35...

 

[oceandeep78]

Have to accept the fact no matter how unwilling to face it, I just kinda wonder how long do I have to wait before I can finally shed tears of happiness....

I feel the same as you. I too don't know when I can ever get preggy. Given my age, I don't harbour high hopes.

 

[oceandeep78]

That's the spirit girl! There are many TCM around who can help w this. Fann Wong also admitted in her interview w Lian He Zao Bao this week that she has been using TCM to Tiao her body and avoiding cold drinks and ice cream all these years. Jia you!

Hello Seaturtle,
Did Fann Wong say in detail what TCM treatment she went through? I was wondering because I am only doing acupuncture, will it be effective enough?

 

[darkrain75]

Actually i don no if i want to go thru all those jabs, then the roller coaster ride, felt 1 time is enough, reali salute those who tried iui few times b4 finally had gd news

 

[Seaturtle]

Hello Seaturtle,
Did Fann Wong say in detail what TCM treatment she went through? I was wondering because I am only doing acupuncture, will it be effective enough?

I think she said she has been taking TCM medicine for some time. Hope u can spot the sentence in the pic I attach herewith.

 

[Babylyn]

Hi Oceandeep 78,

Effective period that I tried for a baby was from the time I got married until conceive.. So it's from Oct'13 - April'14; which is considered v fast for my age.. Even my Gynae was v surprised that it came so fast.. My hubby needs to entertain clients so he does drink weekly as well..
For me diet, I strictly do not eat or drink anything cold.. Means no ice water, no ice cream, no coffee, no green tea.. Even if I drink fresh milk, I wil add hot water to it to make it warm..means anything that is "liang" for body.. I try to reduce or avoid..

Avoid all spicy food.. Although I also like fried chicken wings etc.. I reali cut down n avoid eating.. Even if feel like eating.. I only eat one...
I also cut down my intake of seafood as well.. Like prawns, crabs & shellfish..

To improve beta blood circulation to ur womb.. I encourage u to buy these 3 items from the Chinese medical hall. It's not heaty type of herbs..

1) Huai Shan
2) Dang Shen
3) Dried Longans

U jus tell the medical hall u want to use this herbs to boil water to drink weekly.. It's quite cheap.. Ard $2.50 per pack of 3 items.. Means that if u intend to drink for 3 months.. U will need 4 packs (per week) x 3 months..

For us ladies... Muz keep body warm at all time.. At night due to hot weather in spore...we tend to sleep in Aircon.. Try to wear long sleeves to cover ur body at night.. especially ur shoulders.. Always make sure u wear bedroom slippers to avoid contact with e cold tiles..I use a hot vacuum flask to put warm water in the room.. The first drink u drink in e morning muz always be warm... I followed these regime religiously...

Oh one more thing.. I only started to prop up my buttocks with a pillow after doing e deed starting in Jan.. Ha. I thot it was leychay until my sister reminded me to do that..

My mum did something extra for me.. It may sound a little bit bang tang.. But my mum took a used baby pillow from my niece who is 2yrs old & put on my bed.. She say this will help me conceive... Haha true enuff.. Aft 3 months I reali conceive.. I can't reali tell which methods reali worked for me.. But I think these are not difficult tasks.. So I jus listen to the elders & jus follow & do it..

Hope the above info is helpful to u.. Cos that was exactly what I did... Meanwhile of course u muz relax ur mind. Do things that make u happy.. Once u are happy.. Everything wil come naturally.... Good luck to u ok..?

 

[Babylyn]

One more thing to add..

Age past 35 doesn't mean no more hopes le.. Cos my cousin who is 39 this year.. Aft married for 15 yrs, tried IUI, IVFs (duno how many times) all failed.. She & hubby alr given up all hopes of having a baby... But guess what? Late last year she conceived all of the sudden & just delivered to a healthy beautiful baby girl in May this year..!!! Do Stay positive cos miracles do happen....!!

 

[darkrain75]

Ya, I guess is time I be strict to myself if I ever want to conceive cos frankly I'm not a very gd patient who will follow what doc's say...hahahaha, guess is a wake up call to reali heed doc's advise. Hopefully will visit TCM soon, ppl were saying Tong Ji has gd reputation in helping those who have difficulty in conceiving, my mum ask me to go give a try, anybody went Tong Ji before?

 

[darkrain75]

Hi Oceandeep 78,

Effective period that I tried for a baby was from the time I got married until conceive.. So it's from Oct'13 - April'14; which is considered v fast for my age.. Even my Gynae was v surprised that it came so fast.. My hubby needs to entertain clients so he does drink weekly as well..
For me diet, I strictly do not eat or drink anything cold.. Means no ice water, no ice cream, no coffee, no green tea.. Even if I drink fresh milk, I wil add hot water to it to make it warm..means anything that is "liang" for body.. I try to reduce or avoid..

Avoid all spicy food.. Although I also like fried chicken wings etc.. I reali cut down n avoid eating.. Even if feel like eating.. I only eat one...
I also cut down my intake of seafood as well.. Like prawns, crabs & shellfish..

To improve beta blood circulation to ur womb.. I encourage u to buy these 3 items from the Chinese medical hall. It's not heaty type of herbs..

1) Huai Shan
2) Dang Shen
3) Dried Longans

U jus tell the medical hall u want to use this herbs to boil water to drink weekly.. It's quite cheap.. Ard $2.50 per pack of 3 items.. Means that if u intend to drink for 3 months.. U will need 4 packs (per week) x 3 months..

For us ladies... Muz keep body warm at all time.. At night due to hot weather in spore...we tend to sleep in Aircon.. Try to wear long sleeves to cover ur body at night.. especially ur shoulders.. Always make sure u wear bedroom slippers to avoid contact with e cold tiles..I use a hot vacuum flask to put warm water in the room.. The first drink u drink in e morning muz always be warm... I followed these regime religiously...

Oh one more thing.. I only started to prop up my buttocks with a pillow after doing e deed starting in Jan.. Ha. I thot it was leychay until my sister reminded me to do that..

My mum did something extra for me.. It may sound a little bit bang tang.. But my mum took a used baby pillow from my niece who is 2yrs old & put on my bed.. She say this will help me conceive... Haha true enuff.. Aft 3 months I reali conceive.. I can't reali tell which methods reali worked for me.. But I think these are not difficult tasks.. So I jus listen to the elders & jus follow & do it..

Hope the above info is helpful to u.. Cos that was exactly what I did... Meanwhile of course u muz relax ur mind. Do things that make u happy.. Once u are happy.. Everything wil come naturally.... Good luck to u ok..?

Am happy for you. For me it's pretty tough because my gynae told me I belong to those who are filthy rich (meaning lots of eggs), but problem is, you never know when they will grow (err...I guess he meant ovulating), hence I don't even know when is the right time to do the deed. Once a chinese doc told me to measure my body temp first thing when I open my eyes, at that time it kinda works for me and I'm really pregnant though it's short-lived, had miscarriage shortly after that. Since then, it just look kinda tough for me to conceive, probably I kinda dilly dally.....

 

[Seaturtle]

Am happy for you. For me it's pretty tough because my gynae told me I belong to those who are filthy rich (meaning lots of eggs), but problem is, you never know when they will grow (err...I guess he meant ovulating), hence I don't even know when is the right time to do the deed. Once a chinese doc told me to measure my body temp first thing when I open my eyes, at that time it kinda works for me and I'm really pregnant though it's short-lived, had miscarriage shortly after that. Since then, it just look kinda tough for me to conceive, probably I kinda dilly dally.....

Hey girl if u don't hv ovarian reserve problem that's something to give thanks for really. I think u hv to be disciplined like Bablyn to ttc. I wish I did as much as she did oso to build up body for pregnancy!

 

[darkrain75]

hmm....actually I do have ovulation problem, I have super irregular period that's why so hard to predict when will I ovulate unless by taking body temp first thing in the morning. I didn't have much self discipline so I guess I have to learn the hard way, meaning have to follow what doc say. It's just like if you don't study hard, u won't get gd results. No pain no gain..

 

[Babylyn]

hmm....actually I do have ovulation problem, I have super irregular period that's why so hard to predict when will I ovulate unless by taking body temp first thing in the morning. I didn't have much self discipline so I guess I have to learn the hard way, meaning have to follow what doc say. It's just like if you don't study hard, u won't get gd results. No pain no gain..

Hi Darkrain75,
so u know where u shld focus on now.. So jus buy the ovulation kits.. Can buy those cheaper ovulation test strips one from Qoo10 & coupled with the Clearblue one with the smiley face to double chk.. Start from Day 11 to Day 18, diff pple hv diff cycles, hence difference ovulation dates.. Jus by taking basal temp alone may not b sufficient as my doc advised me that when ur temp rises aft the dip, u shld hv alr ovulated.. Hence ovulation kits is beta.. If u see 2 stripes on the kit/or smiley face on Clearblue, means ovulating soon.. So within nxt 24hours muz quickly try alr... I also sometimes forgot to take my temp sometimes when I wake up in morning.. But I count my dates closely.. So I wil rem to take e urine test for ovulation.. Try the test kits.. It wil be more accurate..!!

 

[darkrain75]

Hi Darkrain75,
so u know where u shld focus on now.. So jus buy the ovulation kits.. Can buy those cheaper ovulation test strips one from Qoo10 & coupled with the Clearblue one with the smiley face to double chk.. Start from Day 11 to Day 18, diff pple hv diff cycles, hence difference ovulation dates.. Jus by taking basal temp alone may not b sufficient as my doc advised me that when ur temp rises aft the dip, u shld hv alr ovulated.. Hence ovulation kits is beta.. If u see 2 stripes on the kit/or smiley face on Clearblue, means ovulating soon.. So within nxt 24hours muz quickly try alr... I also sometimes forgot to take my temp sometimes when I wake up in morning.. But I count my dates closely.. So I wil rem to take e urine test for ovulation.. Try the test kits.. It wil be more accurate..!!

Hi Babylyn, so meaning I get the ovulation test stips frm Qoo10, any brands will do is it? Then get the clearblue ovulation kit frm watson or guardian?

 

[Seaturtle]

hmm....actually I do have ovulation problem, I have super irregular period that's why so hard to predict when will I ovulate unless by taking body temp first thing in the morning. I didn't have much self discipline so I guess I have to learn the hard way, meaning have to follow what doc say. It's just like if you don't study hard, u won't get gd results. No pain no gain..

It's really true. I learnt the hard way to discipline myself esp food wise n exercise.

If u really want something dear u must do ur best so no regrets ok!

 

[darkrain75]

Ya, we went cycling almost every weekend....doubt that consider as an exercise. Will visit TCM soon then will see how it goes. In the meantime, it's time to be mean to ownself otherwise wont c results

 

[Seaturtle]

Ya, we went cycling almost every weekend....doubt that consider as an exercise. Will visit TCM soon then will see how it goes. In the meantime, it's time to be mean to ownself otherwise wont c results

Think exercise must be at least 3 x a week to be effective. Can try to incorporate exercise in daily life too like stopping one bus stop earlier n walk .

Yah actually it's being mean to our desires. Our body actually craves a lot for healthy lifestyle! Jia you girl

 

[darkrain75]

Hmm....in office i always walk up down stairs, walk back hm but i guess that's not reali enough....hahaha...

 

[oceandeep78]

One more thing to add..

Age past 35 doesn't mean no more hopes le.. Cos my cousin who is 39 this year.. Aft married for 15 yrs, tried IUI, IVFs (duno how many times) all failed.. She & hubby alr given up all hopes of having a baby... But guess what? Late last year she conceived all of the sudden & just delivered to a healthy beautiful baby girl in May this year..!!! Do Stay positive cos miracles do happen....!!

Thanks Babylyn for your encouragement! Your efforts paid off! Congrats!

I am currently taking red dates drink almost daily and doing acupuncture 1-2x a week. BTW, is sushi considered cold for the womb? I love sushi and eat it rather often.
Kudos to your cousin. I think at the end of the day, it's really about one's perseverance and mindset. If we are determined to win, then surely we will get there. I am gg to get CoQ10 for hubby tomorrow and glad that he restarted his multivit.

 

[oceandeep78]

Hi Oceandeep 78,

Effective period that I tried for a baby was from the time I got married until conceive.. So it's from Oct'13 - April'14; which is considered v fast for my age.. Even my Gynae was v surprised that it came so fast.. My hubby needs to entertain clients so he does drink weekly as well..
For me diet, I strictly do not eat or drink anything cold.. Means no ice water, no ice cream, no coffee, no green tea.. Even if I drink fresh milk, I wil add hot water to it to make it warm..means anything that is "liang" for body.. I try to reduce or avoid..

Avoid all spicy food.. Although I also like fried chicken wings etc.. I reali cut down n avoid eating.. Even if feel like eating.. I only eat one...
I also cut down my intake of seafood as well.. Like prawns, crabs & shellfish..

To improve beta blood circulation to ur womb.. I encourage u to buy these 3 items from the Chinese medical hall. It's not heaty type of herbs..

1) Huai Shan
2) Dang Shen
3) Dried Longans

U jus tell the medical hall u want to use this herbs to boil water to drink weekly.. It's quite cheap.. Ard $2.50 per pack of 3 items.. Means that if u intend to drink for 3 months.. U will need 4 packs (per week) x 3 months..

For us ladies... Muz keep body warm at all time.. At night due to hot weather in spore...we tend to sleep in Aircon.. Try to wear long sleeves to cover ur body at night.. especially ur shoulders.. Always make sure u wear bedroom slippers to avoid contact with e cold tiles..I use a hot vacuum flask to put warm water in the room.. The first drink u drink in e morning muz always be warm... I followed these regime religiously...

Oh one more thing.. I only started to prop up my buttocks with a pillow after doing e deed starting in Jan.. Ha. I thot it was leychay until my sister reminded me to do that..

My mum did something extra for me.. It may sound a little bit bang tang.. But my mum took a used baby pillow from my niece who is 2yrs old & put on my bed.. She say this will help me conceive... Haha true enuff.. Aft 3 months I reali conceive.. I can't reali tell which methods reali worked for me.. But I think these are not difficult tasks.. So I jus listen to the elders & jus follow & do it..

Hope the above info is helpful to u.. Cos that was exactly what I did... Meanwhile of course u muz relax ur mind. Do things that make u happy.. Once u are happy.. Everything wil come naturally.... Good luck to u ok..?

By the way, why is seafood bad for us? I think for men, they have to increase their intake of seafood right?
For the tcm medicine, is it in powder form and you just add warm water to it? You drink 4x a week for 3 months?