married for 10 yrs, got 2 kids one age 10 another age 5. from the start till now im been paying for kids insurance, enrichment class and all expenses. my spouse paid for utilities bill, internet and car. recently, my spouse told me to sell the hse and help him clear his credit card debts. and told me that half of the money will clear his debts, another half to pay for the new hse. as then I check with him how he got into so much debts that need half the hse cash of about up to $80k.
he told me that last time when we go for holidays, he buy stuffs, then start online business using all his credit cards to paid. and did not pay off on time. and also not working for few years, work as free lance grab and use the credit card to cover up his car/ servicing cost. on and off he got clear his debts, but then now all his debts he can only paid off the interest only. which is monthly of 1-2k.
after his owning on the debts, he is now back to work again, but all his salary are only enough to cover his interest debts, and to pay his monthly car instalments, no expenses household for the house. therefore he been pleasing me to sell the hse and help clear his debts. with all the nice words it will a better living after clearing the debts and hse is too small to stay (3rooms flat for 4 person). we need one more room for the kid. kid are growing.
but from my thought , I did not agree and want to help his clear his debts at all.
- cause it been 10 yrs I had nvr received any single cents from him.
- 5 yrs ago, when his financially is gd he will help out a bit household on the hse. after he stop working no more money from him.
- im scare of his spending habits
by e way, my spouse is those that got how much spent how much de. when 5 yrs ago, I asked him to save moeny, he told me u monthly hardwork y wanna to save that amount and make you cant eat e gd food? got his salary, he will bring us go eat all the gds foods. asked him eat hawker, he say v hot, no aircon.
but ever since he is in debts, he been telling kids to save money. and also now when we are out, we will eat hawker foods. and those things kids wan to buy he will say no money /next time. kids pocket money come from him, every weekly pocket money he also told kids no money. and then I step in and give the kids. then v guai is will come back for dinner. but he will nvr change is everyday after dinner he will go out entertainment. he told me I can save the food, but the beer is relax cannot save.
Now he is forcing to sell the house to clear off his debts, after clearing up the debts then can get buy new house. during the transitions period, need to stay inlaws house and the whole house things got to move into the storage rent room.
so being a wife, should I help him to clear off the debts? then 6 persons live in a 3rooms flat inside a small room then sell hse and give him all the money?
or jus let him settle all his debts in few years time then buy the house?
but then I also wish to change a bigger hse for the family.
he told me that last time when we go for holidays, he buy stuffs, then start online business using all his credit cards to paid. and did not pay off on time. and also not working for few years, work as free lance grab and use the credit card to cover up his car/ servicing cost. on and off he got clear his debts, but then now all his debts he can only paid off the interest only. which is monthly of 1-2k.
after his owning on the debts, he is now back to work again, but all his salary are only enough to cover his interest debts, and to pay his monthly car instalments, no expenses household for the house. therefore he been pleasing me to sell the hse and help clear his debts. with all the nice words it will a better living after clearing the debts and hse is too small to stay (3rooms flat for 4 person). we need one more room for the kid. kid are growing.
but from my thought , I did not agree and want to help his clear his debts at all.
- cause it been 10 yrs I had nvr received any single cents from him.
- 5 yrs ago, when his financially is gd he will help out a bit household on the hse. after he stop working no more money from him.
- im scare of his spending habits
by e way, my spouse is those that got how much spent how much de. when 5 yrs ago, I asked him to save moeny, he told me u monthly hardwork y wanna to save that amount and make you cant eat e gd food? got his salary, he will bring us go eat all the gds foods. asked him eat hawker, he say v hot, no aircon.
but ever since he is in debts, he been telling kids to save money. and also now when we are out, we will eat hawker foods. and those things kids wan to buy he will say no money /next time. kids pocket money come from him, every weekly pocket money he also told kids no money. and then I step in and give the kids. then v guai is will come back for dinner. but he will nvr change is everyday after dinner he will go out entertainment. he told me I can save the food, but the beer is relax cannot save.
Now he is forcing to sell the house to clear off his debts, after clearing up the debts then can get buy new house. during the transitions period, need to stay inlaws house and the whole house things got to move into the storage rent room.
so being a wife, should I help him to clear off the debts? then 6 persons live in a 3rooms flat inside a small room then sell hse and give him all the money?
or jus let him settle all his debts in few years time then buy the house?
but then I also wish to change a bigger hse for the family.
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