babycutie,
yes, my maid's main job is housekeeping. but now that she's been with us for almost 9mths and my dd is older, i have learnt to trust her more with my dd, eg. i allow her to change my dd's diapers, feed her milk, feed her meals, she also sometimes dresses my dd after her bath. she also watches my dd alot in the daytime, so that i am free to do my stuff ard the house.
for the mums who are not familiar with my situation, i am a SAHM and our purpose for hiring the maid was for household chores. i did most of the childcare aspects, ie. bathe my dd, feed her, changed her after her bath, change diapers, cook all her food, prepared her milk, feed her milk, put her down for nap/bedtime. my maid only did all the washing (ie washing dd's clothes, bottles, cutlery), help prepare bath and clear bath, help watch my dd when i am busy.
now i have slowly handed over some of those chores to the maid, but still not much, because i am still not comfortable with her doing some of those chores, esp cooking/preparing my dd's food, making her milk, bathing her and putting her down to nap/bedtime.
joy,
her ex-employer had a valid reason for giving up the maid. her kids were initially taken care of by her MIL, but then MIL got stricken w/ cancer, so she had to employ a maid to help out. but due to financial constraint, the allowance she used to give to MIL had to be used to pay for maid expenses. then when her MIL got better, the MIL requested to take care of the kids again, which also means that she can get her mthly allowance back. so she had no choice but to let the maid go.
tricia,
i don't think i can be of much help. it's really hard to deal with a maid like yours, ie. one that doesn't really obey and who is ungrateful. whether to change maid or keep her, you will need to weigh the pros and cons. if you feel you can tolerate all her shortcomings, then by all means keep her and REALLY close one eye. but if you really can't, and your hubby is pestering you to change also, then just change and hope for the best!