Hi rip_vdx,
Sorry to hear about your abortion. You gotta learn more about your menstrual cycle if you gonna still have intimate relationship with your bf. Sperm can survive inside you for 3 days, some up to 5 days. Egg, once came out from the ovary can only survive for 24 hours. If there's sperm around when the egg comes out, then fertilisation will happen and hence pregnancy. You can roughly calculate the time of your ovulation and avoid intercourse one week before expected ovulation and a few days after. During your fertile period, you will have egg white like discharge.
I have practiced that for the past few years. I am married for more than four years already, but I am still studying and yet to get married traditionally. A few months ago, we took a risk. My hubby ejaculated inside me one week before my expected ovulation. That was the first risk. BINGO! I got pregnant.
I have thought of an abortion when I first found out about the pregnancy. I was shock and my hubby was shock too. It was hell for me during the pregnancy. I have been with my hubby for almost 10 years, then ROM-ed for more than 4 years and planning for a wedding in this month. My hubby and me decided to keep the pregnancy, then we told our parents. There are people who are shock and told me to abort. I struggled through. I had a high risk pregnancy. I went through the ordeal of trying to save the baby by going through injections and lots of medications. I consult the best doctor I can find. In the end, I had a miscarriage... The baby failed to survive. The thought of abortion had made me feel guilty when my baby did not survive, although I did not went through the abortion. I am now recovering well emotionally... I am physically weaker than before, and still recovering... The miscarriage happened 3 months ago and I was 10 weeks then...
If you need a counsellor, I can give you some recommendations.
Take care...
Sorry to hear about your abortion. You gotta learn more about your menstrual cycle if you gonna still have intimate relationship with your bf. Sperm can survive inside you for 3 days, some up to 5 days. Egg, once came out from the ovary can only survive for 24 hours. If there's sperm around when the egg comes out, then fertilisation will happen and hence pregnancy. You can roughly calculate the time of your ovulation and avoid intercourse one week before expected ovulation and a few days after. During your fertile period, you will have egg white like discharge.
I have practiced that for the past few years. I am married for more than four years already, but I am still studying and yet to get married traditionally. A few months ago, we took a risk. My hubby ejaculated inside me one week before my expected ovulation. That was the first risk. BINGO! I got pregnant.
I have thought of an abortion when I first found out about the pregnancy. I was shock and my hubby was shock too. It was hell for me during the pregnancy. I have been with my hubby for almost 10 years, then ROM-ed for more than 4 years and planning for a wedding in this month. My hubby and me decided to keep the pregnancy, then we told our parents. There are people who are shock and told me to abort. I struggled through. I had a high risk pregnancy. I went through the ordeal of trying to save the baby by going through injections and lots of medications. I consult the best doctor I can find. In the end, I had a miscarriage... The baby failed to survive. The thought of abortion had made me feel guilty when my baby did not survive, although I did not went through the abortion. I am now recovering well emotionally... I am physically weaker than before, and still recovering... The miscarriage happened 3 months ago and I was 10 weeks then...
If you need a counsellor, I can give you some recommendations.
Take care...