poshies, I'm not the one going tokyo, it's ashwen! Hahahah! Im very suaku de, my whole life i've only been to BKK
Not even KL or genting ok
Personally, i feel for nanny, its even more expensive for me because i cannot use the CDA, hahahahaha! And what they do at home, i really don't know. Unless the nanny is educated and motivated enough, im sure my boy will be well-fed and clothed but he'll be watching tv all day. Then it'll just like letting my MIL take care of my boy. Watch tv from 6am - 10pm. So no, IFC is certainly the way to go for me...For #2, i will never ever consider. To have #2, must have 2 things. No.1 is money. No.2 is family support. I have neither so can't have No.2. I don't want to make myself suffer a 2nd time round...You are very lucky to have a MIL who is motivated enough to teach chinese! *thumbs up* You will consider #3 anot? Hahahahahah!
ashwen, alamak....i tell you, for your case, if you have #2, you need a maid to help your mum take care of both your niece and your #2. If your sister is hiring the maid, it's good, let her go ahead. When your #2 arrive, share the costs of the maid with your sister. And let your mum care for your #2. I understand how you feel. Every morning & evening, my MIL picks on me. She's not been happy with me ever since i bring my boy home every night. If my husband wants a #2, my first condition is to move out of Jurong. As long as i'm staying at Jurong, #2 is out of question
Will never let the old hag have another chance to make my life miserable.
IloveMaxMax, good ovens are not cheap! If you will bake very frequently, it's worth the money thou
But if you have an electric oven, cant it heat up food as well? Need both oven and microwave one ah? I though if have oven, then no need microwave liao?
mummypooh, if your MIL is upfront about not wanting to take care, you are lucky. At least not last minute say she can't! Frankly, i grew up with a younger bro and i personally is not very close to him
My parents encourage me to have one only also. Maybe cos they see the way i suffered, hahahaha! If you want to have #2, i think you have to be able to afford and be mentally prepared to be a SAHM.
cheesecake, i know! I've heard about your story before, feel like helping you to slap your MIL silly. My mil and yours will be good friends. That's why i say i won't have #2 unless i can move out of jurong and my mum can quit to help me. We have to be practical about this. Raising kids in singapore is not easy. Unless my husband takes home 10K, then ok lar, can consider lar...lol.
cutiebb, i'm sure your #1 will learn to make friends. I can understand how you feel...if i see my boy always wanting to play with other kids, i will be tempted to try for #2 as well. But i really phobia. Want to go ahead with #2 anot is a serious decision. There is no turning back....Another option will be you resign & be a SAHM until they are older. If your hubby doesn't like IFC, cannot afford to let you be a SAHM and your mum can't help, how to have #2...