(2012/03) Mar 2012

[angelwen]

daisy: ya i think so too. and can sort of save CL fee which can be very high.

 

[piggy2008]

Zelda : i already added those who has add me as friend.

No lei, the last time i did my HSG, they ask me go paragon too. so if they ask me i rather go there ... oh mine so ex ... my pay look like all go to medical liao ... hahaa ... but i rather do the oscar to have peace of mind....

 

[snoopy_dopey]

zelda: i'm 34 this year already so I'm considering if i should go. Have you done your amnio already, or is not required if you pass the oscar test? in your opinion, is it worth taking the test ah?

 

[snoopy_dopey]

mrs carice: yah, medical fees very high. 1 visit to gynae confirm hit more than $100

 

[poohwei]

Hi Zelda,

Yes..its a nightmare..now i keep feeding her with cheese, biscuits n cereals to keep her as FULL as possible so that she will not ask for milk..But she will insist to latch on b4 she sleeps if i m ard..In the childcare, she is fine with lying down on the matteress.

 

[zelda_zard]

snoopy:> I think do OSCAR first and if results no good then do amnio. It depends on the probability which your gynae is in a better position to advice you

For my previous OSCAR test (in 2009), my results were v good so no need to do amnio even though I was already 36. Hahaha... But I have a feeling I may need to do amnio this time as my gynae said based on your age, you should do amnio ;p However I will still go for OSCAR first... see got miracle or not

Snoopy & Carice:> Yes med fees v high. Later when you buy bb stuff like bb cot, pram, breast pump, steraliser etc all needs $$ too

If you're ok try to loan from other mummies. I've loaned out most of my stuff so will slowly get back from my friends

 

[zelda_zard]

Poohwei:> I feel that as they are bigger, more difficult to wean them from the breast. I guess your gal just needs comfort suckling to get herself to sleep. Maybe you can check with other mummies how they wean off their 1st one.

 

[snoopy_dopey]

zelda: is this your no. 2? I still cannot make up my mind if i shld go for the test. Haha..terrible me. For No. 2, luckily i still can save quite a lot as i still have my play pen, steriliser etc. Dont think i want to breastfeed No. 2 as I wasnt successful with No. 1 (only managed to bf for about a month) and I also want to rest more as this is very likely my last confinement. With No. 1, I kept getting up to pump and thus developed a backache so hopefully with the 2nd confinement, I can get it cured, fingers crossed.

 

[zelda_zard]

snoopy:> Yes it's my no. 2

My fren who is like you when she had her no. 1 (bf <1mh as limited supply) managed to latch on her no. 2 &amp; supply has greatly increased. Thus, you may want to re-consider. Your back still aching now? It may come back when our tummies get bigger. I also had backache initially as I had epidural for my c-sect. But luckily after 4-5mths it's gone. But in the first place, I have a weak back due to past injuries.

 

[snoopy_dopey]

zelda: this is my initial plan but who knows I may change my mind when i see the little one by then

Yes, still aching now and I also had an epidural for my c-sect for No. 1 which is also a reason for the backache. Are you planning for VBAC for No. 2 or going straight for c-sect?

 

[zelda_zard]

snoppy:> What is VBAC? I don't mind trying natural but hated the virginal checks to determine how many cm your cervix has opened. So painful! But have to depend on bb position and see if ok to go natural. For my 1st child, I was in labour ward >24hrs &amp; after inducing twice cervix still only 1cm! So end up become c-sect. But I'm had a violent reaction to the epidural. I puke non-stop immediately aft the jab till my gynae had to wait for me to finish puking in case he cut me wrongly! Then when the bb finally came out, the nuse will usually put on mummy's body for her to see bb. After 2secs I asked the nurse to take away as I wanna puke again! Like that v hard to do natural too hor? Hahahaha....

 

[snoopy_dopey]

zelda: VBAC stands for vagina birth after caesarian. Actually, my No. 1 is also emergency C-sect cos same like you, my cervix wouldnt open after inducing birth, so had to go for c-sect to avoid causing stress to the baby. Oh dear, i think you are allergic to epidural so kinda hard to go for natural unless you dont opt for epidural but i think very tough to endure. Maybe this time round, can go for LA or GA without epidural? Surprising I was very calm when doc cut me up for No. 1 but I think I will be scared shitless when it comes to No. 2. The horror of the caesaerian aftermath. Pain, pain &amp; more pain.

 

[gg_lee]

Zelda, yup, papaya I dun eat a lot also. Just like one pc max twice a week. Best to eat mix of fruits. Banana cannot eat delmonte type, same as babies. So I buy those small bananas or bigger type called pang jio, me and my tod all can eat

Apples are good too though I dun really like them.

 

[gg_lee]

Snoopy, me same as u emerg c. But recovery was ok, not v pain. Hopefully this round will b ok too

 

[piggy2008]

actually you ladies think getting one bed or four bed when u pop out ?

 

[faith_jo]

Carice: thinking to get 1. At least hubby can stay over.

When popping no 2 most likely downgrade to 2 or 4. See my threshold yah Hahaaa. Dad will stay home with kiddo liaoz.

 

[daisy_85]

Carice - 4 bed .. i rather kiasi .. 1 bed is too scary and its exp .. lol

 

[lotusmum]

Wen wen
Since no choice, then have to see open lor... if you have anything which you are very unhappy about, you can always vent it out in this thread.. I believe we won't mind being aunty agony..

Mrs Carice
I'll go for 1 bedded, since am going to sgh, it's still manageable..and I cannot stand sharing room.. a bit selfish but I want the privacy..

 

[faith_jo]

I'm so hungry the whole day. Eating non stop. Now half hr after dinner can feel my stomach churn again. No way. Going zzz to zzz tge hunger away.

 

[lotusmum]

Jo
It's so nice that you feel hungry.. Do you eat a lot per meal? I can only take small meals since reduce pump..

 

[gg_lee]

Me will go one bedder. So hubby can stay over and bb can b around longer. Less noisy. Last round had to temporary stay 2 bedder 1 day as tmc run out 1 bedder. The moment avail we quickly switched to 1 bed. More private. Tmc rooms are small.

 

[janjan16]

anewmummy, i'm a second time mummy...

So glad that a very popular TCM doctor told my mum that we should not take too much ginger.. i have forgotten the reason, but he told my mum that, and my mum actually trusted his words! so, i am secretly happy, and hopeful that my mum will cut down on the amount of ginger she place in my confinement food, and make confinement food more bearable for me

in my first confinement, i actually cried, at every meal time, cos meal time means GINGER time. how awful!!

i'm 37, and my doc advise me to do the blood test first. he says the amnio is not compulsory for second time mummies above 35. still, he suggest to do a blood test to assess the risk before going for amnio.

doc just declared that i have graduated from the MS stage yesterday and guess what? I kept puking today!!! argh!! so pantang. next time must tell him not to declare such things...

 

[daisy_85]

janjan16 - was it bcos u bf-ing on ur #1 ?

seems like u really hated ginger so much .. actually my mom knew , so she didnt add much and when i dont feel like taking , she didnt forced me either ..

all she told me was , taking ginger is for my own good , if i refuse , in future when i get old and aching all over , i shall not whine to her and i agreed so she didnt force me much ..

so how u going cope for the coming confinement next yr? will it still be ur mom doing for u ?

 

[piggy2008]

i thinking of 4 bed cause i can make friend and chit chat if bored. but my friend say no one want talk to me lei ...cause all so tired liao ... hehe .. if not my the other choice will be 1 bed. shall see when i go hospital visit after i hit my 2nd Tri.

 

[faith_jo]

Lotusmum: it depends, past wks daytime hungry can eat quite a lot. dinner can't take any. ytd was terrible, it's hunger pangs non stop every hr i'm putting sth into my mouth *yucks* &amp; after eating quite a lot for dinner, stomach churn half hr later, can't take it lor.. hope it's cos i'm too tired not cos of the hormones... hahaa

Carice: yah the neighbor will reserve energy for her visitors &amp; older children, &amp; if u kenna big family if u want to rest also cannot... hahaaa

 

[piggy2008]

http://sg.******************/articles/fish_and_papaya_confinement_soup_recipe/

 

[dymkoh]

this time round oso going for 4bedded.. hoping to get free upgrade to 2bedded like my 1st pregnancy. haha..
2-3nights stay v fast pass de. rather save save abit ..

 

[faith_jo]

Dym: u going TMC? heard that they always upgrade 4 to 2 bedded

 

[dymkoh]

Jo - yupz, TMC again. ey.. not everytime ba. depends on the availability of the rooms.. Gynae oso cant confirm..

 

[wiky]

Carice,
I should be taking 4bedded too. My hb will be taking care of the kids, wont be staying over. I'm afraid of being alone in hospital room. haha.

But having said that, the last time I took 4 bedded in KKH. By the 2nd night, all were discharged and I was all alone in the big big room! I asked to be discharged the next day.

If I were to take a single bedded, think will get my gal to stay with me.

 

[snoopy_dopey]

Good morning mummies.

GG Lee: Lucky you leh..i remember i had a hard time going to the toilet cos of the pain.

Mrs Carice: Most probably I will choose one bed at TMC this time too as I prefer the privacy and I can have the toilet to myself. Also, when family come visit, they can stay longer.

 

[piggy2008]

ic .. i looking to pop at Mount A ... so will go there

 

[zelda_zard]

Snoopy:> My c-sect quite ok leh... imm next day can get out of bed &amp; walk. My visitors are all shock how come I can walk non-stop to entertain them. Hahaha... I even went to wash my hair imm before my mom comes to the hospital ;p But I do have friends who have pain for 1 week! I told my gynae then he said my patients all can walk the next day so I guess it depends on the "sewing" skill of your gynae ;p

I think I still prefer 1 bedder (more privacy) even though I agree with Jo that hubby will most likely be at home to take care of my gal. Yes TMC rooms are v small unlike Mt A. But I love the bfg chairs in TMC. Hee...

janjan:> I didn't take alot of ginger too (hate it) as my gal has colic then. I couldn't even eat alot of veggies as it causes more wind in her tummy. Glad to hear that 2nd time mummies may not need to do amnio.

I didn't know TMC has 4 bedder leh. Anyway I opted for the Deluxe 1 bedder room the previous time. Not sure if this time want to splurge or not... maybe stay in normal 1 bedder will do unless my in-laws want to sponsor my hospital stay

 

[piggy2008]

Zelda : you pop in TMC ? heng ah like that i know need to worry dr fong sewing skill liao ... hahhaa

Dr fong any hospital also can one right ...

 

[mei1175]

Daisy, my mil supposedly came over to help supervise the CL to make sure everything goes well for both of us. But things wasn't that good. Other than complaining to my hubby, whom she is super close to everyday, she also exerted her "powers". Imagine instead of pig trotters vinegar, she made the CL cook chicken feet vinegar which I don't eat. Then had the cheek to tell me " you dun eat chicken feet, so eat the ginger and vinegar".

 

[snoopy_dopey]

Zelda: Lucky you. I didnt know pain depends on sewing skills of gynae. I felt quite ok until the painkiller wore off. Haha. How much did you pay for deluxe one bed at that time?

 

[daisy_85]

Mei - wah , she really power ! she wanna save the money to buy pig trotters? chicken feet where got meat , eat wat ? the skin ? =.='' so this time confinement will she still come to 'surpervise' ur CL?

 

[gg_lee]

Mei, so who ate the chicken feet? Your mil?? Pig trotter is good cos of the calcium and collagen. My one is opposite. She keeps thinking my CL cooks too simple for me, not 'confinement' enough. But I dun like super complex meals lor. And I still get my soup, pig trotters, liver, kidney, pork, chicken, black chicken and fish. There is only so much I can eat each meal. Once I ask the CL toast bread for me and she also comment like dat where got nice, should ask her make fry the bread dip in egg. Please lor I was like eating 2 eggs every day till I also scared liao I just wan something plain.

 

[zelda_zard]

Mrs Carice:> Yup I went to TMC. Dr Fong can go TMC, Mt A &amp; Mt E. So you see which you more convenient for u. For me I prefer TMC as there's no other sick patients aka germs as compared to oth hospital. That's my perception lah but Mt A is a good choice as the rooms are really huge! Yes his skills are good so no need to worry

Mei:> Wah your MIL so mean!

Snoopy:> I assume it's due to gynae sewing skills as I stopped taking the painkillers on Day 3 when I'm still in hospital. My pain threshold is v low so I attribute my fast recovery due to his skills ;P But of course if you cough or sneeze will still have slight pain at the wound area. I think my hubby paid $5K cash for the 4D3N stay.

Noted that some ladies love the pig trotter dish. I simply hates it! Luckily my CL only cooked once... I only took 1 spoon of soup &amp; wanna puke. In the end I distributed to my relatives and my maid plus CL finished up the rest so solve my problem. I prefer plain food too even though i know ginger is v good for our recovery.

 

[mayelynn]

Hi just bck fr my gynae. Still cant see gender yet haha. 10w 2days bb is abt 37mm. Glad everythg is ok. Oscar nxt week! Signed up for the subsequent born incentive. Quite worth it. Got 10% disc for oscar. Makes sense to sign up for it

 

[gg_lee]

Hey gals, went to check out confinement food catering sites. Saw newbaby and natal essentials. But their confinement tea portion like v small. 400 ml per meal only. For CL they will boil enuf for whole day. And papaya fish soup catering only give once a week at most. Like v little? And it means breakfast have to settle ownself. Was tempted to get catering but looks like will stick to CL. They prepare breakfast as well, I had Mee suah most times. And they do tea breaks too.

 

[dymkoh]

wow! Zelda - 5k for 4d3n stay.. i rmb i delivered #1 in 2007, i only fork out less than 600 cash(rest using cpf) for 4bedded free upgraded to 2 bedded..
1st night stay in free of charge cos only put medicine induce
2nd day afternoon go for c sect
4th day evening ard 5pm go home

in my 4d3n stay there, i got one night alone by myself.

but i dun think got this rate now.. hehe..

 

[mayelynn]

Whats e mkt rate for cl nowadays? I got one quote at 2.2k so ex!

 

[wiky]

GG Lee,
yes yes, I remember having meesua for breakfast during confinement too. If catering then don't think will have breakfast.

Princessy,
that's the rate I got after enquiring with 2 too. It's ranging from $2K-$2.2K.

 

[zelda_zard]

Princessy:> Don't worry for my previous pregnancy can only c bb when 20wks as she always put her legs close together. I think if boy can see earlier

Yes I think CL mkt rate is $2K - $2.2K.

 

[gg_lee]

Ya, now mkt rate about $2k onwards. And some CL will tell u wat they will do and wat they dun do. Actually have CL sometimes also v sianz. Is a stranger afterall. And no guarantee CL good. How u all interview CL? Face to face? Or tel phone?

 

[zelda_zard]

GG Lee:> Depends if your CL is S'porean or M'sian. If S'porean can have face to face interviews. If M'sian then no choice but to do phone interviews. It's true that there's a element of risk. For my last CL, I took based on my friend's recommendation that she heard her neighbour's MIL is a CL. Luckily that auntie is good

My CL even helped me to train my maid as my maid has no experience taking care of NB. Plus she cook Cantonese style dishes which I'm used to &amp; even cook normal dishes for my hubby &amp; maid

Too bad she's retired. Will contact my friend's recommendation but that CL is a M'sian. My friend is the v "strict" type and she highly recommends her CL so I guess she should be good... don't know available or not nia. If thru' agency, then it really depends on your luck. I heard some CL v irresponsible and lazy... after 2wks, the mummy will sack the CL.

 

[faith_jo]

Mei: see that your MIL is not the supervisor this time. old ppl say the subsequent confinement can BU back.

All the talks abt vinegar trotters nice.... looking forward to my MIL's big nice pot

 

[faith_jo]

Zelda &amp; GG Lee: my god daughter fall sick because the CL was ill &amp; didn't inform my gf. poor baby on nebuliser for more than a week she's not even a mth old!
this CL was not they intended, but they book too late
so i'll only trust recommendations from frens &amp; relatives not thru other CL

 

[gg_lee]

Zelda, Jo, thanks. I got mine though agency last time. Was so so only and I sent her back after 3 wks plus. This round dunno where to find. Jo, your gf CL v horrible le. Shd tell if sick. Not good for both mummy and bb.