(2012/03) Mar 2012
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Princessy, janjan: is this your no1 or 2? I am just thinking confinement food is all about jinger and wine, if skip them good or not??
I am having problem getting back my flat belly after no1. It always look liked 5 months pregnant. This time round I hope can get it back. Any tips?
I am having problem getting back my flat belly after no1. It always look liked 5 months pregnant. This time round I hope can get it back. Any tips?
daisy_85
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princessy - so early at 10wks? i only heard fm my gynae saying tat early will be at 12wks and only for boys and by luck too if baby is in good position for scanning .. usually is like 16wks and above den can cfm?
anewmummy - i tink not very good to skip confinement food , u dont like taking ginger too?
anewmummy - i tink not very good to skip confinement food , u dont like taking ginger too?
Hi anewmaummy
You just need to direct latch more in order to get back ur flat belly. All my frens including myself swears by that..Latching = free weight lost programme. In fact, you can become slimmer than u were b4..Apparently, it does not work so well if u r just pumping exclusively..dunno why also.
For milk, just drink more hot milo n fish soup n latch on demand. After latching, you may want to pump out the excess 1-3 times a day (nothing more if not u will go mad) to stimulate the breast to produce more milk. Once u offer FM, the baby will reject the breast liao..But have to intro bottle ard 2-3 months old if u r going back to work. For my #2, she was only on bottle for a few months..maybe 1 bottle a day. At 2 yo, she either drinks from cup or still direct latch. I m trying hard to wean her own..Cant imagine a toddler n baby latching at the same time.
You just need to direct latch more in order to get back ur flat belly. All my frens including myself swears by that..Latching = free weight lost programme. In fact, you can become slimmer than u were b4..Apparently, it does not work so well if u r just pumping exclusively..dunno why also.
For milk, just drink more hot milo n fish soup n latch on demand. After latching, you may want to pump out the excess 1-3 times a day (nothing more if not u will go mad) to stimulate the breast to produce more milk. Once u offer FM, the baby will reject the breast liao..But have to intro bottle ard 2-3 months old if u r going back to work. For my #2, she was only on bottle for a few months..maybe 1 bottle a day. At 2 yo, she either drinks from cup or still direct latch. I m trying hard to wean her own..Cant imagine a toddler n baby latching at the same time.
Daisy, depends on your mum and mil but usually should give la. Although I had CL, my mum help do my weekly marketing and I pay her for it plus extra money.
Hui jun, ya, 1st tri also can have sex as long u no spotting. Gynae sheepishly told us try to limit to once a week in 1st tri and not too rough la.
During confinement I bath, just not everyday. I go put also, after 2nd week. It really depends on how strict u wan to follow la. I dun take too much ginger either.
Hui jun, ya, 1st tri also can have sex as long u no spotting. Gynae sheepishly told us try to limit to once a week in 1st tri and not too rough la.
During confinement I bath, just not everyday. I go put also, after 2nd week. It really depends on how strict u wan to follow la. I dun take too much ginger either.
Hi GG Lee,
For fish soup, must drink 1 big pot..Maybe 4-5 bowls in a day? Yah, direct latching is still the best to stimulate the milk production. For pumping, good pumps help! I love my medela pumps. I will strongly encourage all mummies to buy medela dual pumps. Used my PIS advanced for both kiddos n i have a spare freestyle for work.. Saved like 2 years worthed of milk powder money for 2 kids.
For fish soup, must drink 1 big pot..Maybe 4-5 bowls in a day? Yah, direct latching is still the best to stimulate the milk production. For pumping, good pumps help! I love my medela pumps. I will strongly encourage all mummies to buy medela dual pumps. Used my PIS advanced for both kiddos n i have a spare freestyle for work.. Saved like 2 years worthed of milk powder money for 2 kids.
wiky
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PrinceSSy,
possible to see. For my last pregnancy, we were quite gan cheong and asked the gynae and he told us one of the twin is a gal. But only 80% sure, he didn't dare to confirm then. This time we didn't ask so he also didn't say anything. Maybe if you ask at your checkup, your gynae can tell you.
Carice, tethysea,
ya, actually if you have other help, it should be good enough to cater confinement food, don't need CL.
I think this is going to be my last confinement so I thought I want to "enjoy" abit. Can concentrate on latching/expressing, have decent confinement food and rest well.
And I LOVE confinement food! Sesame oil chicken/liver, ginger fried egg, pig trotter vinegar & etc ...
I didn't really adhere to the "no going out" or "no bathing" rules last round. I had to visit my babies at the hospital daily and with breastfeeding, how not to bathe? Not very hygenic.
I bathed and washed hair after a week and after that alternate days. But do it with herbal and warm water then quickly dry yourself. Should be ok.
possible to see. For my last pregnancy, we were quite gan cheong and asked the gynae and he told us one of the twin is a gal. But only 80% sure, he didn't dare to confirm then. This time we didn't ask so he also didn't say anything. Maybe if you ask at your checkup, your gynae can tell you.
Carice, tethysea,
ya, actually if you have other help, it should be good enough to cater confinement food, don't need CL.
I think this is going to be my last confinement so I thought I want to "enjoy" abit. Can concentrate on latching/expressing, have decent confinement food and rest well.
And I LOVE confinement food! Sesame oil chicken/liver, ginger fried egg, pig trotter vinegar & etc ...
I didn't really adhere to the "no going out" or "no bathing" rules last round. I had to visit my babies at the hospital daily and with breastfeeding, how not to bathe? Not very hygenic.
I bathed and washed hair after a week and after that alternate days. But do it with herbal and warm water then quickly dry yourself. Should be ok.
Yes, agree shouldn't get mil to help during confinement. My mil stayed at my place during my confinement and kept on talking bad about my CL to my hubby everyday. Ended up my hubby asked the first CL to leave after 7 days and agent has to get me a 2nd one a few days later. Again the same, complain everyday. Ended up I was sp depressed and kept on crying everyday. Won't want her to come my house this time round.
wiky
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Carice,
I don't eat the fats too, only lean meat and drink the vinegar. My boy loves the fatty parts, I'll give it to him.
GG Lee,
yup, young green papaya only. It's quite small so can use the whole papaya to cook. Add 1-2 slices of ginger too. My mum will cook a big pot and I drink throughout the day. But must heat up abit before I drink each time else v "xing1".
Mei,
ya, maybe will get in Dec before CNY then. Can help with housework and packing.
The last time round we had to go get a transfer maid during my confinement cos my MIL couldn't handle the babies. Lucky thing was the helper turned out fine and was a great help.
I don't eat the fats too, only lean meat and drink the vinegar. My boy loves the fatty parts, I'll give it to him.
GG Lee,
yup, young green papaya only. It's quite small so can use the whole papaya to cook. Add 1-2 slices of ginger too. My mum will cook a big pot and I drink throughout the day. But must heat up abit before I drink each time else v "xing1".
Mei,
ya, maybe will get in Dec before CNY then. Can help with housework and packing.
The last time round we had to go get a transfer maid during my confinement cos my MIL couldn't handle the babies. Lucky thing was the helper turned out fine and was a great help.
Mei, my mil same as urs. But my hubby shut her up. Old folks love to comment on everything. But I dun think my mil would have done a better job than CL lor. I think she not happy because my CL only cooks for me and not hubby. End my my mil start cooking for hubby even though he told her no. And mil and CL had to like share the kitchen!
Min, try prune juice, or eat fruits like papaya, banana, or oats. I on my aircon throughout during the whole mth of confinement. If u are super strict type, I guess answer is shouldn't use aircon or fan. In fact, some even keep their windows closed. But I think is madness lor. During confinement we sweat like mad, and feel v hot. And if u bf, is super unhygienic man. If u on aircon even normal days, I doubt u can tahan without it during confinement.
zelda_zard
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LuthAdel:> I'm sorry to hear that. Your blog is so interesting and is a good source of info for new mummies. Take care!
Mrs Carice:> I've PM you my email address. No leh, the hormone pills don't make me hungry. I don't feel hungry at all since I'm preggy... just nausea feeling most of the time So I guess it must be your good appetite bcoz of growing BB
I've been weighing myself and no increase in weight so far. It's amazing as for my 1st pregnancy I've increased 5kg by the time I hit 12 wks (now I'm 11wks le)! I'm not vomitting just no appetite & feeling bloated 24x7. Will ask gynae when I see him next week.
I've updated earlier that my friend need to do CVS as she failed her OSCAR test. She SMS me y'day and said she pass. Phew! Plus her bb is a boy. I'm happy for her
For CL, I will also source for one after I pass OSCAR or amnio... no point sourcing so soon. My old CL v good but she stopped doing already (so sad) as she's taking care of her grandchild now
BB:> Better bring in maid earlier as nowadays not many choices. Plus you need time to train your maid & get her to adjust to the environment.
Mrs Carice:> I've PM you my email address. No leh, the hormone pills don't make me hungry. I don't feel hungry at all since I'm preggy... just nausea feeling most of the time
So I guess it must be your good appetite bcoz of growing BB
I've been weighing myself and no increase in weight so far. It's amazing as for my 1st pregnancy I've increased 5kg by the time I hit 12 wks (now I'm 11wks le)! I'm not vomitting just no appetite & feeling bloated 24x7. Will ask gynae when I see him next week.
I've updated earlier that my friend need to do CVS as she failed her OSCAR test. She SMS me y'day and said she pass. Phew! Plus her bb is a boy. I'm happy for her
For CL, I will also source for one after I pass OSCAR or amnio... no point sourcing so soon. My old CL v good but she stopped doing already (so sad) as she's taking care of her grandchild now
BB:> Better bring in maid earlier as nowadays not many choices. Plus you need time to train your maid & get her to adjust to the environment.
Wen wen
I initially also thought that it's ok to have mil to do confinement, despite my friends' advice..cos the rship btw mil and me was good and can talk.who knows, when it comes to being under the same roof, plus hormonal changes, the cultural and habit differences are magnified..
Not only did these strain the rship with my ils but also with my hb.
I initially also thought that it's ok to have mil to do confinement, despite my friends' advice..cos the rship btw mil and me was good and can talk.who knows, when it comes to being under the same roof, plus hormonal changes, the cultural and habit differences are magnified..
Not only did these strain the rship with my ils but also with my hb.
snoopy_dopey
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Hi mummies, this thread is really active!
I visited my gynae last sat and my edd is pushed back to 25 March. Baby is now 9 weeks+ at 24mm.
As I had very severe morning sickness (I even vomitted blood once), my gynae gave me suppositories which helped a lot.
I am still considering if I want to go for OSCAR as it's not cheap, about $400+ since it's just a diagnostic test.
As for CL, my mother will help me do my confinement this time too. But i'm worried she will be too tired out, looking after my toddler, my NB and then got to do all the confinement chores.
I visited my gynae last sat and my edd is pushed back to 25 March. Baby is now 9 weeks+ at 24mm.
As I had very severe morning sickness (I even vomitted blood once), my gynae gave me suppositories which helped a lot.
I am still considering if I want to go for OSCAR as it's not cheap, about $400+ since it's just a diagnostic test.
As for CL, my mother will help me do my confinement this time too. But i'm worried she will be too tired out, looking after my toddler, my NB and then got to do all the confinement chores.
Lotusmum: i tot so too. but my mum doesnt even take care of me when i was born, i was taken care by my grandma, but grandma reaching 90years old cant expect her to do confinement for me also. i did mention to hubby about the concerns on mil doing confinement for me, and he is very supportive towards me, and cos my mil used to be caregiven for other babies, so she is very experienced in this area and hubby wan me to learn from her since it's our 1st baby.
daisy_85
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Mei - your mil come over to stay during ur confinement is to help u look after the baby?
wenwen - my mil previously helped out by cooking confinement food for me but lucky she's not staying with me cos she's pantang so she oni get my hubby or hubby's bro to send the food over ..
but bcos her food dont suit me , told her not to help again this round , so either my mom or hubby will do my confinement this time ..
wenwen - my mil previously helped out by cooking confinement food for me but lucky she's not staying with me cos she's pantang so she oni get my hubby or hubby's bro to send the food over ..
but bcos her food dont suit me , told her not to help again this round , so either my mom or hubby will do my confinement this time ..
zelda_zard
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Mrs Carice:> I think for the 1st 2 wks will b super busy with newboarn & no time to go out lah. I didn't really went out during my last confinement. Only went nearby to stock up on diapers, wet wipes or other stuff. Even go out need to go home after 2-3hrs or else breast will be engorge with milk! I bath immediately I was given clearance to get out of the bed (I had c-sect) & even washed my hair.
How not to bath in S'pore weather?? Sometimes bfg bb can also perspire like hell & maybe bb drink my sweat even. Quite disgusting lah. But during confinement I will bath with herbs which my CL will prepare everyday for me. But the herbs is smelly so you'll smell of herbs & milk <which>.
anewmummy:> You can ask your gynae for a pill which will increase milk supply. I didn't try that but my friend did & her supply doubled. For me I drink fish & papaya soup everyday to increase the supply as my bb refused to latch.
Poohwei:> Yes agree with you that exclusive pumping will not reduce tummy size! Wah your tod still latching? Ya better try to wean her early or else super tiring for you! Once I stopped bfg I feel so liberated as so much more free time. Wahahaha..... I salute you for your perservation!
GG Lee:> My gynae told me previously don't overdo on the papaya as it's not v good for preggy ladies. I guess in moderation ok. Banana ok? I thought can only eat those small bananas & not the "western" type as it's too cooling? Anyway I'm not a prune or fruit person so am relying on my daily yoghurt intake now.
How not to bath in S'pore weather?? Sometimes bfg bb can also perspire like hell & maybe bb drink my sweat even. Quite disgusting lah. But during confinement I will bath with herbs which my CL will prepare everyday for me. But the herbs is smelly so you'll smell of herbs & milk <which>.
anewmummy:> You can ask your gynae for a pill which will increase milk supply. I didn't try that but my friend did & her supply doubled. For me I drink fish & papaya soup everyday to increase the supply as my bb refused to latch.
Poohwei:> Yes agree with you that exclusive pumping will not reduce tummy size! Wah your tod still latching? Ya better try to wean her early or else super tiring for you! Once I stopped bfg I feel so liberated as so much more free time. Wahahaha..... I salute you for your perservation!
GG Lee:> My gynae told me previously don't overdo on the papaya as it's not v good for preggy ladies. I guess in moderation ok. Banana ok? I thought can only eat those small bananas & not the "western" type as it's too cooling? Anyway I'm not a prune or fruit person so am relying on my daily yoghurt intake now.
Mrs Carice, I wanna join the FB for March mummy, my email add is [email protected]
daisy: i must say i have to be grateful to my mil as she doesnt noe how to cook confinement food but she say she will go learn, my own mom don't even bother to be even concern, even when i told her i'm preggy she also like nothing happened. so no matter what i have to stay with mil from now all the way till our our hse come.
Wenwen
W are very similar in this case. My mom alsodoesn't know how to look after young children, I was being outsourced since young.. And my ils also help to look after my hb's cousins and did confinement for hb's auntie, so by right should be very experienced.. They may be good in taking care of the little ones but when it comes to dil, they may not be expert in handling our emotions especially when we are having 10 months of pms all in 1month... Almost went crazy then..
W are very similar in this case. My mom alsodoesn't know how to look after young children, I was being outsourced since young.. And my ils also help to look after my hb's cousins and did confinement for hb's auntie, so by right should be very experienced.. They may be good in taking care of the little ones but when it comes to dil, they may not be expert in handling our emotions especially when we are having 10 months of pms all in 1month... Almost went crazy then..
zelda_zard
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luckily my MIL is old (early 70s) so she fully supports my decision to engage a CL. My own mom volunteered to do my confinement but I decline as I don't think she can handle a toddler plus newborn even though I have a maid. Plus my mom & my style don't gel & with hormone level going crazy after giving birth, I will sure engage in heated argument with her. hahaha...
Lotusmum; i fully understand what you mean. but i can't convince my hubby to forgo the thot of let me take care of bb myself so i just have to learn to accept the way my mil do things and learn from her in a humble manner (although i have a stubborn charater).. for the sake of bb, i'm willing to humble myself to learn and give the best... i used to reject the thot of mil taking care of me n bb but i dun really have a choice now.
snoopy_dopey
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Can mummies who went for OSCAR testing share if it's worth doing it?
daisy_85
Member
wenwen - i guess ur hubby is worry abt u handling yourself for ur first time baby so he wanted his mom to help u out and dont want tire u out ..
its a good thing with someone to help for the first time , a good chance to learn ..
dont be upset abt ur own mom , u still have ur hubby and baby with u in future .. =)
its a good thing with someone to help for the first time , a good chance to learn ..
dont be upset abt ur own mom , u still have ur hubby and baby with u in future .. =)
zelda_zard
Member
Mrs Carice:> I accepted your FB request le. If I rem correctly it's about $400-500+. It's not done by him. As I goes to Paragon clinic, I did my test in Radlink which is also in Paragon. Since you're in TB, most likely they will refer you to Thomson Medical.
snoopy:> Unless you're >35yrs old & want to do amnio, then I think you should do OSCAR first. I'm high risk grp (due to age) & will still be opting for OSCAR first even though the odds are against me ;p
snoopy:> Unless you're >35yrs old & want to do amnio, then I think you should do OSCAR first. I'm high risk grp (due to age) & will still be opting for OSCAR first even though the odds are against me ;p
