autumnkumiko> thanks for sharing. deeply sorry abt your loss and glad your current pregnancy is doing well. don't brood too much over it, it's not good for your baby. i know someone who had to abort after 4-5 mths. in her case, the baby would be born with a birth defect regarding his/her blood vessels. she also faced a very hard decision then. previously, my husband and i had a talk abt this issue. what if our baby is diagnosed with DS or some other problem during my pregnancy, what would we do? my own personal take is that i wouldn't want to bring the child into the world, because he/she won't be able to live well. in our society, it is the survival of the fittest and any probs from birth would make the child already lose out. but most of all, as parents, we'll be 200% willing to do all we can for the child, but we can't be around forever. what will happen to him/her after we die? who will he/she depend on? it's a hard decision you had to make but think of it this way: it wasn't a selfish decision you made. it was for the best, not just for you but for the baby also.
i guess others may say it's easy to say such things, but in my case, i really have personal experience of someone who is "disadvantaged" in society so i won't want the same for my child as far as possible
i guess others may say it's easy to say such things, but in my case, i really have personal experience of someone who is "disadvantaged" in society so i won't want the same for my child as far as possible
