Hi mummies,
Sorry to be whining on a Monday but i really need to "let go".
My baby girl is extremely wary of strangers, thus i am quite stressed when i attend gatherings. Yesterday I attended a wedding, followed by a birthday party, so u can imagine the number of unfamiliar faces she faced. She would not let anyone touch, what more carry her. she would wail her lungs out and this can continue for the longest period of time. Actually I really dun mind her clinging on to me, but i hate the negative comments i get from others e.g. crybaby, scared baby. Sigh.
Even worse, I think my friendship with my best friend is getting further apart, as I feel she keeps harpering on the fact that my baby is having extreme case of stranger anxiety. She has two boys, and none shows such behaviour. So she kept on talking about how my girl is so scared of strangers, even commenting to others abt it. Like yesterday, she said,"Eiliyah, you must learn not to be so scraed of strangers. How are you going to school next time?" In my heart, how do you get this baby girl not to be scared when everyone snatches her away from her mum just like that? And i believe her condition will get better as she grows older. Furthermore, all kids will eventually survive school, no matter how scared or shy they are right? I dun mind people telling me on negative behaviours of my child that I can rectify, but i get pissed when they focus too much on it? Why dun they instead look out for signs of other small achievements she has made? This is making my friendship falling apart from her. At the same time, she's making me feel like i'm a bad parent. But this stranger anxiety character of hers is really innate, and there's very little i can do! I go to my in-laws' place every weekend, and yet my girl refuses my Father-in-law.
Again, sorry for this long whine, but mummies, am i too sensitive? You can be honest with your views. Im more saddened with the fact that i'm falling off with my best friend cos i fells pressured every time i go out with her and how she keeps on pointing out that her boys are not like this and like that