sgsc,
sayang mimi!
wah i was offline for half a day to tend to work and all the hubs complaints come out. mummies this is my post-C1 story.
i was prob clinically depressed. i couldnt imagine i had morphed from a carefree rather organised woman, to a woman who is suddenly wearing many hats
- mummy to C1, who had problems latching
- employer of a maid, whose work attitude ws horrendous and in mandarin, no big no small
- DIL bcz the ILs came by every 2-3 mo to visit for ONE month at a time
wife and employee took a back seat.
one day when C1 was abt 6mo, Mr C's younger sis and her HB came to SG for a visit. so we all went out for dinner. dinner consisted of the normal walk up walk down, i-cannot-sit-still-at-table-bcz-of-baby. Mr C kept telling me to let the maid handle. i was prob sleepless and cranky. the last straw came when C1 pooed and we ran out of diapers in the diaper bag (maid's fault, she never bring enuf diapers out). so to hurry up the dinner, i told the waiter to pls pls check w the kitchen and serve our dinner faster. it was some gourmet italian place. Mr C's face turned blacker than charcoal. said it was GOURMET pizza, def takes time to serve. i hissed at him that we were out of diapers and anyway i m hungry. seeing that his sis and her HB ws there, we stopped arguing out loud. a chill had already descended between us.
that night, i seriously thot of Divorce. wat an asinine man i had married. this whole marriage and child bearing biz ws obviously a mistake. i wanted my carefree life back.
the cold war lasted for a week.
then i smsed him to say that i was sick of fighting w him and that i was sorry. (i din mean i ws sorry for wat i said and did, i was just sorry for myself... haha) after that we got to talking. and this incident showed me
1. when we fight, yes baby senses it. and even if i win the point, i still lose, bcz the fight makes me feel lousy.
2. it is better to be calm
3. do not interfere w the waiters when Mr C is hosting a dinner.
4. giving the maid clear instructions helps a great deal
and yes.... 5. men are martians, wat makes sense on mars doesnt make sense in venus.
LOL to Mr Vicma being perfect, perfectly irritating!
well *pause for breath* and thinking...
we must have married our men bcz they have good points. HBs are pple too, got ups and downs. i have learnt the hard way to fight calmly and (if i m in good mood) w a sense of humour or (if my mood is bad) sarcastically.
i also notice that Mr C takes his emotional cue from me. if i m lighthearted, or rather successfully act as if i m lighthearted even when i have a gazillion things on my mind (being employee, employer of maid, mum, not so much the wife stuff), then he responds in kind... he will ask me wat he can do to help.
i dunno why i type so long.... prob bcz i also felt like i m better off divorcing him once upon a time... i also learnt to be patient. husband n wife need to find a way back to each other, after bb. it takes time and a lot of communication.
