Duracell Loke >> that's a duracell baby!! so chubby
and so much like you! v charming angel!!
ting, mie >> i have issues with my own mum too. initially, my entire clan has this rather negative way of handling babe and me, for e.g. "you naughty girl","your mummy don't know how to make you happy..", "see your mummy bully you.." after tolerating the crap for a few times, i finally snapped (v typical of me anyway) and sat the whole clan down like a class itself and i listed this specific grievance. told them if they persist, it'd only mean i would make a choice not to meet up with them too often since this specific behaviour would upset me verily. they looked quite stunned and said "joking only.." so i told them, there are other ways to joke/create humour. but joking at the expense of my relationship with the babe is crossing the line. moreover, it is really important to cultivate a good and healthy sense of self for the child. we shouldn't be going around putting her down like "naughty girl"..i mean, at that moment, audrey was being the perfect baby! calm, smiling and then, this crazy aunt comes and say .. "you, naughty girl! why so naughty today?" .. if i were the baby, i would be so confused. exactly what is naughty and what is good? good thing is, my clan knows i can carry out the threat and my hb for once didn't try to temper my unhappiness. i am glad that this episode is now over for since that "talk", things have done a 180 deg change. it makes for a much happier interaction and definitely, more positive one within the entire family. hmm..i had to place my mum in my shoes before she finally saw that what was being said was simply poor humour. "mum, how would you like it if dad's mum (her MIL) were to come to me everyday and say..see your mum can't cook, see your mum don't know what you like etc..so while i am not here picking fences for mums out there...if there is any living arrangement / handling that you do not agree and particularly when it concerns how your child would view you and implicates matter of trust and ability - i think it is important to draw the line and establish clearly, what you would like members of your family to do. otherwise, it will create alot of resentment on our part and on the child's part, it is unhealthy. every single child development book worth its salt has mentioned something to this degree and if there is anything worth fighting for - fight for the right to live in a healthy, respectful environment for the baby and you. i won't trade bargains for the babe to grow up having an unhealthy perspective of either my hb or I..so sorry if i come across v strongly abt this but it is something that crossed my heart near and dear - hence, it really touches off a nerve when i read abt what u gals are trying to live with.
astro >> v glad to hear u are turning the corner over the recent spate of things...bally is just amazing! he definitely has alot of your genes..i am putting my bets on him being tally tally too!
hippo >> ikan bilis club also has audrey don't forget! at yr new workplace..do u have your own room? that would make things alot easier..if not, u probably have to invest in button shirts..slip a nursing shawl and pump under covers..wish you luck but don't give up the pumping no matter how darn hard..u have already come v far!
distracted-babies-at-feeding >> my little one has been this curious one for the past two weeks at least? never able to nurse as well as she used to. i can no longer walk abt nursing her under the shawl. horrors of horrors, she will grab hold of the shawl and pull it into her mouth while feeding..duly exposing me. after a few attempts, i am abt almost surrendering. now fleeing into nursing rooms for feedings. bye bye nursing shawl. that's not the end of things. she loves to play with the bra strap. pull..twang! and she giggles. i fed her w/o the strap in her way for her to explore..she fussed and tugged at the opp side's strap instead! buay tahan..anyway, i can't exactly take off the whole bra right..leaks..so i live with it and let her pull and twang all she wants. now my bras are really out of shape. and the more she does it, the less of a novelty..but just today, new trick..she curls the strap around her wrist. once she gets stuck, she gets frantic and the feeding has to stop..
baby-changes-pattern>> the audrey i used to know is no more. while she used to be rather unfussy .. she has morphed into a v fussy babe..screams, cries quite often for no apparent reason; used to wake up cooing and smiling..now she howls the whole place down; used to be such an efficient feeder/latcher..now giving me tantrums at each feeding; used to be easy to change her diapers..now is a battle; used to enjoy storytime..now she cries at the sight of a book..so on and so forth..getting used to her new pattern....kaoz..
