RE: Change in behavior
K loves to scream!! He scream to be held so he can see what we are working on top of the kitchen counter, screams when his shopping cart's wheels cant go up the carpet or the LG mat, screams when his cars (all 3) jammed in the toy garage elevator and the barrier is in down, screams when he wants the mop/ magic clean.. so sick of it and also feeling helpless as I certainly do not want a screaming child! I have met other screaming child outside before, but their screams seem so mild compared to my 4-lungs kid!
RE: Helper
Sunsweet, try not to ignore your MIL when she has a complaint of your helper, as she may felt as if you dot on your helper and thinks nothing of her grief. I suggest you explain to her that some of the thing that is done incorrectly is because they are not from our way of live and they may not need to do certain things we do here. Also, I will always hear complaints of "stupid" helpers, I always tell those that complained, if they are smart, they wont be your helper. Sometimes they are not smart not because they are really stupid, may be they couldn't understand what we say (even if they speak English), or they have not done the thing we want them to do and don't know how to do if we do not give clear instructions.
I have a good helper, but at times I do have frustrations with her. The most common 2 things: 1. saftey, she once was too helpful where she took K, and the stroller full of grocery and waited for me in the middle of the carpark road while I lock my car!!! How dangeroud is that?! I was very angry and raised my voice. I cannot illustrate more on the importance of waiting at the sidewalk but to tell her if something happened to her, how shall I explain to her family back home. Once, after church, I wanted to drop her at the MRT station, she opened the car door even before the car was stopped completely and of course she already had released her seatbelt!!! I lectured her the night she came home. Now, I remind her that she is not suppose to unbuckle or open the car door until I tell her to. Last night, she was being tested by my hb on emergency numbers, and steps she should take in case of emergency, choking manuver and she uses her laughter to cover her discomfort.. My hb was stern and told her it is not a laughing matter. Then only she answered to the best of what she remembered. I think I better give her the emergency drill every month..
I hope you mil can start to understand the helper is to help her and not to take over her. Have you a schedule for helper that you MIL knows? Also, perhaps a book with translations of tasks/ converstaions will help, I think I have seen books like that in Popular before.
RE: Teeth grinding
K was grinding after he cut his first 8 inciscors before the rest of the teeth are out. He only did when awake. It went off naturally. My hb grind his teeth at night and yes, caused headache, so when K grinds his teeth, he was really hard when making him stop.
Lavenderbear, I intend to sent K to childcare (full day) starting Jan next year. He is a bundle of energy and is tiring for both my helper and I. I am looking for one around alexandra/ bt Merah/ tiong bahru..
I saw this
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/353639/1339828.html?1280887113
Hope it helps..