Youpi
No ur not a soft mummy. Your boys are so well behaved all the time I see them and listen so well to instructions. How I wish D can listen n get it into his head what I say instead of things he sees on the screen....sigh
Cin
I'm quite strict with D in obeying my instructions n he was quite okie when E was born cos he is okie with reasoning when I explain to him. Like if I have to latch E I will ask him to sit next to me n do his stuff. N if E is sleeping he will use earphones to play his games.
I use tactics like "if you play too loud E will cry cos she is scared. "
N when he gets unreasonable in his demands I have to remind him that I am also E's mummy. I will attend to E if she cries like I will attend to him. Does he want me to ignore him or not hug him when he cries? E can't walk or crawl, do I dump her on the bed alone?
Cos they are old enough to understand and after u explain they will be the ones to ask u to carry bb cos bb is crying.
N ofcos use the bb like when bb wakes n is happy, jus praise that bb is sooooo happy cos she had a good sleep when u didn't disturb her. N she smiles so happy cos she loves u.....haha lame but works very well.
But that's just my way of handling D when he was just turning 2 lah. Not so much bargaining and why's yet.
I didn't have a choice to have someone attend to E while I handle D at all cos I did confinement alone with tingkat food.
But good in a way cos I believe in getting D to learn to share his mummy right from the start n there was no one else to disturb my teaching.
But but somedays will still be crazy days....still is... still are...guess they come together in the package haha
Steph
If only that works. I have been telling my hubby and reminding him of the stuff his son is waiting for him to do with him. N that a few more weeks and his son will know his dad is the kind of person who never keeps his words.
But u know, my hubby is that kind of person. Sigh
If he doesn't want to change there's nothing I can do when I have already sarcastically, normally, added into direct conversationally even when talking with D.
So if he wants to be that kind of person I have been telling him abt almost daily, then so be it lah i dun have energry to be his mummy too . my kids will always have me. At least I stick to my words with them still. (so far I have n a PA who will remind me if I forget any
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Being gracious
E surprised me today by being a very nice sister. Cos they have been fighting over who will press the lift button. N I've been trying to get the princess to get it into her head, doesn't mean she wants or say 1st means she gets it. N not supposed to whine when she doesn't get it.
So today she got to press the button when we went downstairs cos D let her. N when going back home, D kept saying he wants to press the lift n ran off. E turn n told me, just now I press, now gege press.
N before she ran to the lift she told me. I run only, gege press lift. Haha this girl really surprised me. 1st time she did this. Hopefully more to come.