pauline.. i think by the time ur hub come home, he is too tired to talk abt sch stuffs and i find that as a teacher in sch its quite difficult to understans each kid in detail like how a tutor is able to coz u need to spread ur attention among so many kids. When i was in sch.. i wasnt as attentive also... just noe in general, o.. he is weak, she is strong.. but u do not have the time to tackle each of their probs. I guess in tut is different coz i am paid to tackle their probs..
Iso, interesting qn! I think definitely there is a link!
1) Case 1: Forgot to add the boy has reasonable attitude, does his work!
Profile: only child, hse very messy and full of things, mum is a nurse doesnt seem to upkeep the hse well even though i thot she will practice better hygiene since she is a nurse.. keke.. family wise normal chinese family..Boy is very dependent on mum, needs mum to find bks for him prob coz hse messy? Bad habits passed down.. after seeing it, i make sure my hse is neat and insist on pt cleaner. Somehow, i jut feel that if the hse has been neater, more organised, perhaps the kid will turn out to be a little different. Somthing that shocked me also was the way they switched off the tv!! I assume normally pp will use remote to switch to standby mode and maybe off the switch but the student just off the switch like that, he din even bother to switch off the tv or change to stand by mode.. ( gasps).. soemhow i think it wil spoil the tv with such abrupt cut off.. but the kid says this is what they have been doing all the while... erm...
Mum's maths is weak...she did mention.
Case2: All 3 kids relatively well to do ( all w siblings) and all down to earth.Independent individuals, can decide what is best for themselves, like not going to certain class cause he noes he will end up neglecting his studies. Parents very involved with the kids, talk to them a lot despite 1 of them , the mum flies ard and is very bz. Parents and kids are like frens, dun really nag at them ( from what is see), even though they are rich but they are being kept grounded. A lot more warmth in the house.
Parents are pretty educated and successful.
Case 3: Similar to Case 2 above
Case 4: Only child, a bit self-centered reasonably well to do, whatever she wants, she prob gets it, heck care attitude, hardly talk to father, only talk to mother. Claims that father always scold her whenever they talk. Very cold environment at home, hse seems empty, no warmth.
Case 5: Similar to case 2 and 3 , relatively well to do , landed property, parents own business. Mum is always at home but i dunno why she is slightly different from those in case 2 and case 3. Maybe the interactions between the parents and kids were different, prob e mum was very bz at wrk in the past and neglected her, mum is slightly older, nags more, in the end, the ger turned more to her friends.. or maybe the stream is different and thus the company she hangs out w is different.. spewing vugarities most of the times, everything cant be bothered, attitude like case 4
Hmm..so in summary ( my own conclusion), rich or not rich does not matter, spending time with kids is impt, if not as much time as other, just have to be quality time. As seen above, some parents dun have as much time b their kids turn out fine. Its impt to talk to the kids more and make sure they open up to u since young i guess.Although i conclude that but i am not even sure whether i am doing the right thing or not, just try my best to move in this direction..... lets hope that we are all doing the "right" things.