wendyg,
Yes, my hubby is an architect. Very demanding job, long hours and never ending work! And yet he is not earning big bucks cos still early in his career, haven't even got accredited yet.
tongtong,
Don't say that, you are surely a good wife and a good mum. I have gone through the same phase also. Used to be so unhappy and quarrel with hubby because of him coming home late. But after a while, I cleared up my mind and accepted the fact that he is indeed working hard and not going out to play. Once I have accpeted the fact that it's unavoidable and hubby can't change his work schedule, then it's left to me to change my mindset and expectation. First, plan you time nicely, if you can multi-task, the do multi-tasking, save you lots of time. Also go through the housechore to see which are die-die must do one, and which are not really have to do one. Only do that must-do, and leave sometime for yourself to relax everyday. Don't expect your house to be perfect everyday, it's okay to be a bit messy here and there, now and then, and if you don't do laundry for one day, for example, it's okay, just leave it to the next day. Gonna be relax on the housechore. Like wendy suggested, get a part time helper, we just started one, and find that really helpful. Or if you are not against getting a maid, then can try this also. Have a good chat with your hubby when you have a cool and calm mind, ask if it's possible at all for him to come home on time, etc, and if he really can't, tell him why you are unhappy, and tell him that you need help etc, then work out the best for your family. You gonna enjoy the motherhood and don't feel that it's a burden for you. Motherhood certainly changes your life, but has to be in a good way! Be positive!