From Windy: "who dare go against the old wife for fear that it'll put the husband in a difficult position".
Step 1. Get husband to be on our side first, convince him by love, logic and evidence.
Step 2. Have husband to talk to MIL.
From Windy: "these old folks still cannot understand why i insist on giving BM"
It's interesting to note that there are 2 camps of old folks here... one that are diehard BM, and the other that are diehard formula.
For those that are diehard formula, try the evidence approach to why BM is better than formula. Research after research after research, from .gov to .edu has showned that BM is still the best, get your hubby to read these, and then if necessary, have him show MIL the evidence.
1.
http://www.linkagesproject.org/technical/bf_benefits.php
2.
http://www.fda.gov/fdac/features/895_brstfeed.html
3.
http://www.infoforhealth.org/pr/l14/index.shtml
4.
http://mammary.nih.gov/reviews/lactation/Neville001/
5.
http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/milk/infant-formula.html
Moreover, in view that the logic from MIL that many Chinese confinement practices is supposed to benefit mom and child (show us the evidence pls), surely when there are so many evidence pointing to why BM is better for mum and child, will MIL be contradictory in their beliefs?
It's time we move from stone age to an age of science and progress, ie. instead of blindly following Chinese practices, do the necessary due diligence first and if there is a good reason behind it, it's fine, otherwise, why risk our health?