hi mummies
thanks lots for the concern and advices. yes, i do agree with aria jo that spilling it out here helps me alot.
jovialz
regarding my childcare arrangement, my MIL is supposed to come in 1 day while the rest of the other days is at my mum's place. why tat one day is coz my hubby doesn't like my SIL so ask his mother to step in. when bb is at my mum's place, everything is fine and i can work in peace.
when bb is under my MIL's supervision, she goes 'touring' around the house, eyeing what my boy has n keep asking who and y we have those. i think its not respectful. she tells me something wrong with my maid as she drinks alot of water (???). after she suggest some areas of improvement, my maid follows and then she tells my maid - no one listens to her???
when my boy is trying to stand/reach things, she tells my boy - dun do that or else mummy will scold you???
when she comes over, she say dun let bb cry? will anyone deliberately make bb cry??? she hasn't taken care of her own child b4 n yet she still have her own opinion of things? when i tell her that some things is better to be done this way, she ask me y. she told me to give bb honey after he recovers from bronchitis and say its gd for bb? sighz...
i asked my hubby - his mother coming over was requested by him, not volunteered by his mother, my SIL didn't do anything towards my boy and he would rather face alot of input from his mother than my mum's place?
infantcare
i inquired them but costs is v.high. also its 7-7pm. i leave work for work at 6+, by the time bb comes back home at 7+, he's ready to sleep. putting him in infantcare means that i dun even have the time to interact with him. tat's why i'm with holding that option.
in short, in my viewpoint - its better quality than quantity. last week when things blew up after she came over, weekend, we still paid her a visit and she threw a black face at everyone, including the bb. bb is innocent, why take it out on bb? i still was amicable with her. i'm ok bringing bb over to visit them in happy times, not in times when conflict is made between her, hubby and me then when time to visit, black faces everywhere...
okie, another day of work ahead. it helps take ur mind of issues.