Hi SL,
I can emphathise with what you are going thru now. You are not alone. Megan went thru quite similar experiences. She refused to sleep on the 1st 2 nights. We have to carry her here n there and even drove her out for a spin and she din sleep till 5am in the morning. Next day, still go school. We left Shichida class after 15mins into the class the wk she started CC cos she dun wan to be kept in a classroom. She lost her smile and looked quite lost and depressed when back home everyday that we tot she lost her "innocence" and got into "depression". If you read my blog, you would realise I went thru the same or perhaps worse than your experience in the beginning cos I wasn't as "hard-hearted" in the beginning, actually pulled megan out for 1day after 1 week in school and even cried when I spoke to the principal then...
I know it's easy to say, esp at the point when Crisann leave your arms to the teacher at the start of everyday crying for you, arms stretching out for you but you have to turn and walk away (if u r confident she is in good hands). The longer you stand/drag there, the worse it is for both of you. The faster you leave, the faster she will adapt. End up, maybe yo will start crying too. (happens to me)We must realise that we as parents are experiencing separation anxiety too. If we can't get thru it, our kids won't too cos they know. The thing is you will be surprised that after 1week or so, she will be happily playing with the materials/friends once you are out of sight but once you appear, their crying starts again. Megan enjoys herself in school now, back to her normal self as if she is at home, poos 2-3 times in school, drinks her milk, walks and plays around, go ard making funny and smiling faces BUT she is still having short cries either on the way to school or when she leaves her dad's arms to the teacher's but she half cries half plunges over to teacher's arms.. farni right? then the moment dad leaves, she is happily playing around... so you c still have separation anxiety but she continues to improve over the days..
You try to be the one who bring her there and fetch her back so as to neutralise the effect of "leaving her in the stangers' hands". I am not sure for Crisann but teacher told me Megan was smart for her age as emotionally she was on silent protest of me and rejected me whoever they sent her to school, be it my parents or me cos we were not the ones who brot her back cos her dad is always the one. There are times I left office earlier to "pick" her up b4 her dad to "reconcile" with her.
hi SL and Fio,
Some schools thk that it's best not to go in with the child right from the beginning cos it helps in adapting faster. As much as I agree with them, I still feel we can't get thru ourselves and need to be there to see what they are doing, are they in safe hands etc.. Depends if this is your criteria in school hunting cos for me, I can't let go so the school must let me go in the 1st few days and as and when I wanna to in future. Megan's grandparents go down practically everyday to "peek" at her. At times, kena spotted by her and principal did call me to tell me it will disrupt the child and not good to let megan keep crying.. did tell me politely to not come so often.. but at least they do allow
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rep b4 going CC
Megan still haf 1 flu booster jab and MMR jab to take..still outstanding.. going to take soon
