Wow, so many postings???? HOw you gal read thru every single one?? haha....
HI Chillies,
I am not sure what is the reason behind trying out the crying it out method but I feel that if a method work on one kid might not work on another. Even for both my kids, my parenting style are quite different coz they have different nature. I am an Attachment parenting parent which is the the oppo of "cry it out" method. If you do a search on key terms like "cry it out method, Gina ford, Ferber method, ezzo, babywise method" you can see alot of discussion on the method. In fact AAP (american association of pediatric) is issued a warning against this method coz apparently the strict scheduling of feeding has left some children malnourished. But of course I know of a mom of 5 with NO maid is a strong proponent of the "cry it out" method. So I feel at the end of the day it really depends on indicvidual. Let me know if you are keen to know more about attachment parenting or you can do a search with that title as well as " william sears or elizabeth pantley". Dr Sears is a veri famous pd and I really believe in his parenting style....hmmm....he got a website "
www.askdrsears.com"
Just sharing my experience on attachement parenting. Both my kids are breasfed(my boy till 20mths and my girl still feeding), cosleeping (till now), I tend to them when they wake up at night at the slighest noise and both slept thru at 3mths even though they are fully breastfed. My boy now at 4years old dun wake up at all when he reach abt 18mths. So I always feel that when a child is ready, he is ready.....little pushing is required from the mom. Some ppl do say attachemnt parenting as really indulgent....well....how long will they remain 1 year old....they will grow up one day. So I feel that if your child is not ready, dun push...he will sleep on his own one day. Haha!!! I think when my retrenchment day comes, I will be crying. Of course, I have the luxury to be a SAHM so perhaps it makes attahcement parenting easier to execute.
I have a fren who tried the cry it out method told me that she let her boy cried for 3 mths and the child became so insecure. So she decided to pat her child to bed and her child slept right thru.
Hope my sharing help. Just want to share tat there are so many paretning method out there and should explore or even merge different methods to suit your lifestyle and your child.
HI Queen,
Don't have to feel guilty. Seriously, the reason why I am sending both my kids to schools so early ....well of course is coz of I am KS but it is more of a social interaction for MYSELF. Trust me babies at 15mths old dun play with other kids , let alone socialize. Socializing comes at abt 2yrs but earlier for girls. Classes also allow me to really spend time with my kid. YOu must find it a real irony why a SAHM is talking abt no time for kids. But seiously for me, when I have my boy I was doing business so I really got no time for him so the onli quality time I have was when I am in class with him. For my girl, hahah...my boy takes up so much of my time! In terms of "academic" stimulation, just by talking to your child, reading and showing lots of love is suppose to be most effective at these age. Well, an alternative I can suggest would be to attend as many trial as you can and learn and apply at home.
Hi SY,
My boy's ACt 3 class only for one week. So I still have 3 weeks with lots of time to kill! I might want to try out
www.hess.com.sg . Seems to have more suitable timing.
Eton: every school has their merits. For Eton, known for their school fees (they collect schools fees per term which means almost 3k at one time ok) as well as teacher quality. But they are not so strong in the mandarin aspect. I am veri particular abt mandarin and they onli have like 30mins per day which I tink is not enough.NOw with so many new schools, I realli feel that their curriculum is not fanstastic ...hmm...not value for money and oh yes...teacher to child ratio is not good also.As for branch, i heard the one at newton is the best. The funny thing is the feedback I got from Pat's school is that pat's at claymore is not as academic as buckley coz more expats at claymore.
Zoophonics: Can show u if you are keen.
Hi mamapanda and slinky,
Have not heard of that school before. Just ask a few questions. Ratio, turn over rate, cleanliness and their policy abt sick children....oh yes...I am particular with their food also. I really dislike school tat keeps changing their teacher...aiyo...at such young age not fair to subject them to so many different caregiver. These are the most impt few questions for our babies age now. But perhaps you might also want to ask yourself, how long are you going to put your baby in? up to k2? If that is the case then you might need to think further like what teaching method are they employing. Many school claim that they are MONTESSORI but many of them are not TRUE montessori. I am not saying pure is good but some schools just have some montessori stuff and call it montessori. Some school practise vertical grouping but some dun. What kind of phonics system they are using..... So do check all these out.Oh yes, need to ask yourself are you comfy with montessori style teaching? I got a lot of frens who are against it.
Hi mongs,
close down? it was so popular 1 to 2 years back????
Zoophonics: Tried Zoophonics on my boy before and I feel that it is good to intro to let them know letter sounds but find it hard to teach blending when they are older and when you want them to progress to reading. But it is fun to see them able to do the action when you flash them the alphabet. Coz zoophonics requires auditory, visual and kinestatic skills which is heard to achieve for a young child. It also depends on what kind of learner your child is....so seriously wont know until older. Like glenn doman works well on kids who are visual learner which unfortunately both my kids are not. I feel that zoophonics system is not the strongest phonics system around. At 15mths old, the whole language approach I tink is most effective and intro phonics closer to 2yrs as blending using phonics needs maturity. If mommies are keen on phonics system, check out system like "letterland, Jolly phonics, fitzroy mthod, sunshine phonics system.....". WHich is the best? I am using a combination of method on my son and so far results is quite good. He is able too read simple words and instructions.
Oh yes for moms, interested in "literacy" for babies.
www.edventure.com.sg having a sale soon. And based on previous sale, their sale is quite good.
