Hi mummies,
Thanks for your condolences.
In fact i was totally lost for life because i don't know what works anymore..... For example, my hubby don;t drink, smoke, party etc, exerciser egularly.... still cancer hit him. Towards his last days, he couldn;t eat at all and lost so much weight..... In my heart i am just so fearful of cancer cos i don;t know when it will hit someone again........... During the wake, an ex colleague came to pay respect and shared that she was diagnosed with breast cancer. She is 34. I lost my good friend to luekemia last year and she was only 33............ know of another church member who has stage 3 nasal cancer at age 30s............
I really don;t know what life has in store..........
Hi Sleeping deer,
Indeed it helps a lot to talk about him. My sister in law (hubby's sister) is here with me and it really helps to talk about him. i left a book at the wake for my hubby's friends and colleagues to describe what they know about him etc so that our gals can read and know about their daddy when they grow up.
As sister in law and I write the eulogy, we cried as we write because we realise hubby has taken care of the family so well, there are many voids to be filled.
In the eulogy we shared, we describe him as a loving husband, a doting daddy, a filial son and a caring brother...........
He has taken care of me so well that i do not have to worry about anything.... He was my pillar of strength, always strong, always reliable.... I recall i had to attend a wedding dinner at Raffles city on a weekday. He went to fetch the gals after work and brought them there for desserts and hang out at raffles city so as to wait for me...... My colleagues commented that he is so sweet and such nice gesture...... Was sharing with SIL on this and told her i do not have such priviledge anymore......
As a doting daddy, he is the forever generours one who gives in the the gals demands...
As a filial son, he does things like bring his father pants to thailand when he was there for work to tailor pants for his dad. (At this point, SIL cried and told me that she would have to work so much harder to take care of her parents cos hubby did it so well).
As a caring brother, he started buying gifts for his younger siblings when he started working and he was never stingy on them. even thou he don;t earn much when he started work, he bought the coolest stuff like baby G watch, Nike Air shoes for the sister............
There are just so many voids to be filled in after he left..............