Re: MIL
Hi Hi all, I was also very uptight once when mil always come over to snatch bb away, after I told her firmly and also refusing her to take over bb, she has got my "hint" loud and clear.
And somehow I thought I can get along with her better.
I will be starting next week, and currently my MIL is gng wet market everyday, of course with me around it's ok for her to do so.
I have been discussing with HB that I do not wish my mil to bring my bb to wet market since it is so dirty and there are lotsa raw meat and fishes around..my hb at first think it's difficult to tell her but later agree for bb sake will talk to her..
As time is running out and mil wil be away again until the every day before I start work then return I ask hb to talk to her.
first of all I was totally PISS with hb... I wan HB to talk to her without me around to avoid awkwardness... my stupid HB call her mum in after I told him and started confront her..I really wan to strangel him!
Then instead of telling his mum wet market is dirty... he told her, stroller cant use in market cos of the staircase ( there is actually a slope to access the wet market and my mil knew it).
My MIL in the conversation insist that she has to eat and want to go wet market with bb... every day I come back will bath her!! thats what she say! I can't resist it ( since I was there), told her wet market is dirty and ask if she can do marketing on weekly basis... my MIL just walk out of the room shaking her head.
My HB blew it !! I feel like crying..
I had a "silent" fight with HB.. telling him whats the point asking him to be middle man.. when he cannot even get the message across, didn;'t do it at the right time??( he just cannot understand, the problem exist between MIl and DIL, damn!).. I just told him I cannot even depend on him to do this thing.
ANyway I decide to put the message across without my HB anyway MIL will know that it's my idea now..
So after feedign bb.. I walk into her room ( she prepareing to go back to her place) and I sat at the edge of her bed to burp bb and talk to her in a very soft voice..
"Mum..I would like to discuss with you abt how you take care of bb after I start work.."
I dunno if it old folk dun like to do talking with dil or what.. she just tell me off saying.. you dun worry.. I can handle the "small one".
I decide to make it clear to her my point...
I told her I do not wish the bb to go to wet market since it is so dirty and lotsa bateria..
i told her bb like to suck on her hand and fist.. we cannot know if anything land on her hand while in market..
she walk around not listening.. I told her as mother of bb.. I'm worry and do not want her to go wet martket
I told her dun get me wrong, if she wan to go for her regular kopi and breaskfast at coffee shop I think no harm push bb in pram.. but not to wet market thats all.
She told me she will go to the "air con" market..damn...she JUST WANT to go market...
Seriously there is nothing I can do or know when I'm at work.. if she really bring bb to wet market..
I can't possibly call every morning to check on her.. I can't do that either..
The only thing I can do seems only to pray to God to look after my bb...
The most annoying thing is... she end the conversation saying.. I dun have breathe like yours...I dun wan to talk abt it..
Can I swear!!!... I'm trying to have a good chat with her but she sound as tho I'm starting a fight with her..and still after the 2nd converstaion, she still never agree not to bring bb to wet market.
Hi mummy.. AM I asking TOO MUCH?? to request her to do marketing once a week and not bring bb to wet market? I also told her, if she need anything call us anytime and I will get them from cold storage or NTUC on the way back from work.
Sorry for my long winded complaint.