Hi Ling & juzker, guess im not the only one then. So its normal for the elder ones to feel this way, to get our attention.
When no 2 comes along, i started using the cane on my girl. My mum pities my girl a lot cos for like 2.5 yrs, she was the apple of our eye and didnt get any beating/caning at all, and all of a sudden she's getting it all the time. Oh, but now she seems a little sensible and accepting of her new sibling. I really try not to use the cane these days. She's really terrified of it...
My husband always says im like a tyrant, instilling fear in my girl...gosh!