joyfulmommy
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Hi all, just want to share my experience and hear if any of you experienced the same and how you responded?
I'm 15 weeks pregnant and was sitting at one priority seat on the MRT today. This pregnancy, I have almost fainted 4 times especially in the mornings so I always ensure I get a seat on MRT in the mornings even if I need to ask from others. I don't expect people to be able to tell I'm pregnant so I pro-actively ask in the mornings where I'm prone to fainting but in the evenings, I don't bother asking.
Anyway, this morning, while I was sitting at one priority seat, one elderly lady with a walking stick came. She used it to nudge my leg but I didn't give up my seat. After awhile, the auntie beside me stood up and gave her seat to the elderly lady but then proceeded to scold me. Then I told her that "I am pregnant, if I give up my seat, I might faint". She then ignored me and avoided eye contact with me without apologising.
The elderly lady then proceeded to sit down but not before scolding me too. She said "zhe zhong ren ye you!".
I then explained to her in Chinese "wo huai yun. Ru guo wo zhan qi lai, ke nen hui yun." She just ignored me and proceeded to thank the auntie for giving up her seat.
Seriously, I was so upset! Next time, if I come across such situation, before it escalates to this where everyone starts scolding me should I request for the person sitting beside me to give up seat for the elderly, and that I can't because I'm pregnant and prone to fainting?
Being pregnant, I have to take care of myself when I'm alone and not depend on strangers to take care of me. That means when I'm feeling faint, I quickly find a place to sit and something to eat. When I'm on MRT, I find a seat for myself and request if no one offers one to me. I'm pretty sure if I had stood up for the elderly lady, I would definitely have felt faint with the MRT Crowd all around and haven't having eaten anything in the morning. Is it wrong to care for myself and my baby? Why do others feel they have the right to judge me and scold me? So upset.
Seriously I have almost lost all hope in this society. People are not kind. When I'm out with my toddler, if he screams and cries, I hear aunties around me gossiping loudly. One even approached my mom another day later to say I cannot handle my son and scolded him for being naughty (seriously? He's like younger than 2. Tantrums are inevitable). So sick of seeing all this judgemental people when I don't even know them and they feel like they have the right to judge me and make all sorts of comments about me!
And I'm now serving notice at work as I have decided to quit to focus on my family. But at work, people don't really know I'm pregnant and some make snide remarks to me like "Oh so you're staying at home to shake leg??". HUH???!!!
I'm 15 weeks pregnant and was sitting at one priority seat on the MRT today. This pregnancy, I have almost fainted 4 times especially in the mornings so I always ensure I get a seat on MRT in the mornings even if I need to ask from others. I don't expect people to be able to tell I'm pregnant so I pro-actively ask in the mornings where I'm prone to fainting but in the evenings, I don't bother asking.
Anyway, this morning, while I was sitting at one priority seat, one elderly lady with a walking stick came. She used it to nudge my leg but I didn't give up my seat. After awhile, the auntie beside me stood up and gave her seat to the elderly lady but then proceeded to scold me. Then I told her that "I am pregnant, if I give up my seat, I might faint". She then ignored me and avoided eye contact with me without apologising.
The elderly lady then proceeded to sit down but not before scolding me too. She said "zhe zhong ren ye you!".
I then explained to her in Chinese "wo huai yun. Ru guo wo zhan qi lai, ke nen hui yun." She just ignored me and proceeded to thank the auntie for giving up her seat.
Seriously, I was so upset! Next time, if I come across such situation, before it escalates to this where everyone starts scolding me should I request for the person sitting beside me to give up seat for the elderly, and that I can't because I'm pregnant and prone to fainting?
Being pregnant, I have to take care of myself when I'm alone and not depend on strangers to take care of me. That means when I'm feeling faint, I quickly find a place to sit and something to eat. When I'm on MRT, I find a seat for myself and request if no one offers one to me. I'm pretty sure if I had stood up for the elderly lady, I would definitely have felt faint with the MRT Crowd all around and haven't having eaten anything in the morning. Is it wrong to care for myself and my baby? Why do others feel they have the right to judge me and scold me? So upset.
Seriously I have almost lost all hope in this society. People are not kind. When I'm out with my toddler, if he screams and cries, I hear aunties around me gossiping loudly. One even approached my mom another day later to say I cannot handle my son and scolded him for being naughty (seriously? He's like younger than 2. Tantrums are inevitable). So sick of seeing all this judgemental people when I don't even know them and they feel like they have the right to judge me and make all sorts of comments about me!
And I'm now serving notice at work as I have decided to quit to focus on my family. But at work, people don't really know I'm pregnant and some make snide remarks to me like "Oh so you're staying at home to shake leg??". HUH???!!!
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