Just back from clinic. The appt has been made for monday and I would properbly deliver by tuesday. I have to go thru this with a strong heart. May god give me the strength as always. Till then I wanna spend the weekend with my baby who still has a strong heartbeat.
Hi alimgirl,
Hope u're feeling better. I meant do we have to make arrangement to bury/cremate the baby?
Hi ecym,
Think I've no time for 2nd opinion.. I'm close to 21weeks now & latest termination has to be done before 24weeks thus I need to make a decision by next week. I'm thinking I should be feeling ok since I still have 2normal kids but will I really be ok after that??
Guess only those that have been through this process will know.
I had my post natal massage today and the lady said I had no engorgement thus just asked me to pump the milk out.
I did that just now and feel better now.only pump to release the fullness... if you do not have pump, use hands to squeeze out the breast milk until you feel relieved...
Hi mummies,
Just to update, I've decided to go for the abortion this thur. May the procedure be a fast, smooth & not too painful one.
May my baby girl be in peace & find a good parents in her next life.. Mommy loves you!!!
Sob~~
Hi mummies,
Just to update, I've decided to go for the abortion this thur. May the procedure be a fast, smooth & not too painful one.
May my baby girl be in peace & find a good parents in her next life.. Mommy loves you!!!
Sob~~
Hi Mummies,
very sorry to find all of you here..
We finally went ahead with the termination at 15 weeks due to bad fetal scan results during the 12 weeks oscar scan and CVS.
The results confirmed a pure turner Syndrome.
As the pregnancy already passed 14 weeks while we waited for the detailed CVS results, we were told the only and safest method in Singapore for termination is to go thru an induced labour. This was indeed a traumatizing and painful and long procedure. As i also have a cyst, i have requested my gynae to remove the cyst upon the termination. Not certain if i were strong enough to handle two procedure at one go, i still went ahead.
It seemed like grief and sadness had not caught up with me until i was discharged.
Discharged and now back home on one month hospitalization leave, i realised i started feeling sense of guilt and upset suddenly for no reason. It was not regret as we thought our decision was the "better of both evils". We didn't want to see our baby girl suffer if we carried her to term.
i know it takes time to grief...I miss my baby girl...every night before i sleep and times when i just think, the flashback recurs and tears just well up...i even dreamt of losing my baby in my sleep...the last thing i want to do is to slip into a depression.
Hoping to find solace here and provide any information to anyone who may need to go through this difficult period as we did.
~~God bless and may the strength be with all of you~~
** Also, taking this chance to thank my wonderful hubby for accompanying me through this difficult period of our lives. You have done everything you could - I love you (if you come across this thread <3 <3 <3 ).
Yes the first week is awful...hand in there... get some cabbage leaves to relieve the engorgement...everyday is a difficult day to pass...especially with the irritating and nagging cramps on the back, legs..etc.breasts also feel damn painful....sigh..
So sorry to hear this lazybee85. V hard to avoid cos they r family. Totally understand how you feel. Have you met them and the baby yet?fifteenmay, we seem to be in similar boats~ my sil gave birth to her baby boy on e day my waterbag burst.. i felt so down.. their family grp chat keep popping up message of congrats etc, while i was having contractions.. felt so useless on tt day..
fifteenmay, i haven't meet them yet cuz we r both in confinement period.. but i met my bil when he came over to take time stuff n it wasn't easy already so i can imagine when i see my sil n their son.. like u say, it'll b a constant reminder..So sorry to hear this lazybee85. V hard to avoid cos they r family. Totally understand how you feel. Have you met them and the baby yet?
ya.. i dunno when i will b ready.. but as u say, they r family n u can't avoid them forever.. i mentioned CNY to my hubby too, nvr say abt bi nian but its been floating in my mind~ was looking forward to CNY but now......I told my husband tt I am not ready to meet this baby. She reminds me of everything my girl will not be or become. He understands and asks me to take all the time I want. But realistically how long can I avoid? They meet once every week. My whole life I have to face this. We are going to bi nian this yr cos it will be too hard on us.