Sweetkiss (sweetkiss) June 03, 2013 - 2:20 pm
It sounds ridiculous, but i remember when i was to get married with hubby, we got a shi fu to calculate an auspicious date. But because my MIL found the dates inconvenient, she looked up the tong-shu to find another date in the same month. (To me, if that date she chose was suitable, the shi-fu would have mentioned it to us!) But anyway, since the day we got married, my rls with MIL just got very bad, worse after my 1st child was born.
你说的是‘择日娶嫁’。‘择日娶嫁’有三项：‘纳彩’、‘安床’、‘娶嫁’(Usually, 3-in-1)。‘娶嫁’做不好，会有反效果。‘娶嫁’有冲，有些人受不了红事冲，就有事。白事出殡也是一样，白事出殡的冲更大，这就是为什么有些人(大人/小孩)回到家不舒服，或者,家里发生种种不好的事情。
只要师傅择的日子，就一定可以！择日派系又不同，需要考虑很多避忌因素。择日大师收红包，有义务拿人钱财给人消灾，他有责任要当的。
自己翻通书死的更快。看通书需要师傅指点，没有师傅指点很危险。董公择日法，有暗藏日脚凶星，不是摆地摊的师傅能看得出。
For example, 2 March 2013, Saturday (农历：癸巳年正月廿一). See picture above.
这天看似好日子可以办娶嫁。其实，是
凶日！
只有半桶水的师傅才择这天办娶嫁，实在是害人不浅。
要是老师/师傅用通书择日，恐怕他的功夫还没有练到家。
I've attended countless of wedding in United States. Ang-mo没有择日结婚，并不代表没事。撇开新婚人八字，也不要看合不合。单单冲日，够麻烦了。Saturday early morning is good day, 女方作主选择wedding ceremony to be held on sunday afternoon. 当日正冲岳母1949年（己丑）属牛。当晚车子挡风镜被砸破。不止这个，婚宴差不多要结束，岳母才哮喘病发作严重而紧急入院。
已故台湾富商王永庆先生（
see his picture above）雇用的私人风水师择出的日子非常奇特。为什么呢？他选的日子超级凶，而且会死人的。起初，我还以为风水师是个傻子，kepala gila，应该头脑有问题。后来经我仔细看，择日法真的很厉害！日子看似超级无敌凶，却能给出精准时间化掉一切凶星！Marvellous!
民俗学上有几样要日常生活可以择日的。比如：‘娶嫁’、‘安葬’、‘生产’、‘搬家’、‘装修’、‘开张’等等。
一‘择日生产’要捉的准，有危险度。那是为宝宝造命。I have contributed a post about this. [
click here]
二‘择日安葬’也有危险。作不好会害到很多人。I handled two such cases in United States throughout my stay. 只有一个亲人，坟场一个，Priest一个，抬棺的六个人。什么都没有！给了一个日子和时间就埋下去了。So simple.
三‘择日娶嫁’也有一定的风险。长辈和新婚人照做就行了！In Singapore, ROM（注册）and Big-Day（娶嫁） can be at the same day。
Sweetkiss (sweetkiss) June 03, 2013 - 2:20 pm
My in-laws are also divorced, both then remarried. My hubby stayed with his father's side all along. MIL remarried to another man. But when i got married and after i had my 1st child, she forced us to pray to the ancestors of this man whom does not even share the same surname as my husband. We even went to the man's elderly mother's home and did it in front of his family whom i knew none of them. Is this right? I really felt very unhappy to do it.
我不懂是要哭还是要笑。不拜都拜了，时光不能倒流。释迦摩尼拜骷髅，也没有任何忌讳。
Your MIL remarried, thus assuming her new husband is your husband's 'new' father. Therefore, MIL thought that 'new father's' ancestors will bless kids or is a must. 我个人认为，是要讨好（新丈夫）男方那边的人还差不多。
If 'new' father passed away, 你们夫妇恐怕得要披麻戴孝了。你们自己做好心理准备。不拜还好，一拜就要戴孝。
我吃长素，不可以给你们出馊主意。呵呵...
如果，你丈夫爷爷的妻妾（已故奶奶可能是二房或三房），而你丈夫从来没有看过，又没血缘关系的话，按理可以拜！因为，爷爷有娶奶奶过门，所以是堂门历代祖先之一。
