mrsgg: oh only after 6 to 8 weeks...but if we miss our period over a certain no. of days we can also use the test kit right? am thinking to go ahead with my gynae appt in oct or not since nt sure conceived already
Junvis, how old is your #1 now? Think for men's perspective, they don't want too much of commitment given today's high stress society.
As for women, we are the one bearing with the pain and yet we still can want another one.... Men has their easy way and yet they dont want another one....
seriously you r not that old..can ubderstand both side worries.thats theagoby of us workigHI Mrsgg, my first child is 16months now. Yes i am working. there is not enough parents help . Both parents and in laws are not able to help if 2nd ones comes along. He is scared of having 2nd child. But i dont have the time to wait for him until everything is available. He thinks that he must earn enough to support the family. I am working and i support my child. He dont have to pay a single cent while he pay for his car. Then scared not enough sleep... Sleep is very important to him...
You know it is like ... i dont know what to say... which women want to give birth late? Everything wait until he has his career ... i am already too old for 2nd one...
agree! actly sunrise yiu are not that old leh.im 34 jus preggy with number 2,nly wanted tis yr cos wan to giv birth by 35,also have financial problems maybe wen #2 cms,nd to tighten belt cos pass few yrs hubby job nt stable not lucky leh.but alas we bth decide no more waiting .Sunrise, at least you can see it from your husband's perspective. Men have it "easy" only in the sense that they don't have to go through pregnancy and labour pain, but when the baby is out, the burden is more or less equally shared. Especially since you said both of your parents can't help out. Don't worry too much, as long as you are healthy, you still have a good 2-3 years for a smooth pregnancy. Take your time to communicate with your husband and try to settle his fears. Maybe try using junvis's reasoning (which I think are all quite sound) to convince your husband. Whatever it is, don't let this become a source of tension between the two of you. Whether it's 1 child or more, a solid marriage is priority for the kid/s' happiness and well-being too.
hi
i have some ovulation strips to let go,just purchase frm smh forum seller.last mth, i do not need already :
letting go at $9 for 20strips + foc 2pregnancy test strips+foc postage.
all expire yr 2015. sensitivity of 10miu/ml
if keen pls pm me
Sunrise, at least you can see it from your husband's perspective. Men have it "easy" only in the sense that they don't have to go through pregnancy and labour pain, but when the baby is out, the burden is more or less equally shared. Especially since you said both of your parents can't help out. Don't worry too much, as long as you are healthy, you still have a good 2-3 years for a smooth pregnancy. Take your time to communicate with your husband and try to settle his fears. Maybe try using junvis's reasoning (which I think are all quite sound) to convince your husband. Whatever it is, don't let this become a source of tension between the two of you. Whether it's 1 child or more, a solid marriage is priority for the kid/s' happiness and well-being too.
seriously you r not that old..can ubderstand both side worries.thats theagoby of us workig
agree! actly sunrise yiu are not that old leh.im 34 jus preggy with number 2,nly wanted tis yr cos wan to giv birth by 35,also have financial problems maybe wen #2 cms,nd to tighten belt cos pass few yrs hubby job nt stable not lucky leh.but alas we bth decide no more waiting .
my #1 will b 5yrs old nxt yr.if u r wried abt age gap i feel no nd to b.who say 2,3 yrs age gap then is bwst best? if one is oldrr she b more sensible can even help out maybe
Mrsgg, ya i can only say that i may have to give up my idea of trying the second child. The mindset is set .. Hard to convince.. Even changing a water tap or going to a new place, he is super negative ...
Haiz... I actually had DVT , Deep Vein Thermomsis.. which is a blood condition that is easily clot. So If I get pregnant, I would have to be on injection for full term. This is one of the complication I will face. ... Haiz... anyway, I have no strength to continue to convince him... the only thing I do is to leave it to god.
In that case, relax first ba, you are not that old still. enjy your threesome time meanwhile, and leave to GodRainbow , the age gap is not so much of the concern. The most important thing is a healthy baby!!!
Mrsgg, ya i can only say that i may have to give up my idea of trying the second child. The mindset is set .. Hard to convince.. Even changing a water tap or going to a new place, he is super negative ...
Haiz... I actually had DVT , Deep Vein Thermomsis.. which is a blood condition that is easily clot. So If I get pregnant, I would have to be on injection for full term. This is one of the complication I will face. ... Haiz... anyway, I have no strength to continue to convince him... the only thing I do is to leave it to god.
Sunrise, my #1 is coming to 3 this nov. Seriously given your condition, if im your hub, I will against the idea for #2 as well just not to wish you to go thru the suffering. Perhaps thats also part of the reason for his rejection?Mrsgg, ya i can only say that i may have to give up my idea of trying the second child. The mindset is set .. Hard to convince.. Even changing a water tap or going to a new place, he is super negative ...
Haiz... I actually had DVT , Deep Vein Thermomsis.. which is a blood condition that is easily clot. So If I get pregnant, I would have to be on injection for full term. This is one of the complication I will face. ... Haiz... anyway, I have no strength to continue to convince him... the only thing I do is to leave it to god.
Sure, if your period hasn't come for a few days, that's definitely a good time to use the test kit. You miss your period already?
hello all.. I went for my pap smear on Sat and tested positive too at the gynae's. But I think maybe is too small, still a sac. Was asked to go back 2 weeks later.
thereafter, I had some spotting on Sat late afternoon and Sunday morning. Today a little after I wipe. Called gynae and she suggested that I took hormone pills.
Wanted to go down after work, but they closed at 6pm today. Have to wait till tomorrow.
Now having mixed feelings. Initially wanted a Dec horse baby, though baby comes early, I feel lucky to be pregnant. At the same time, the spotting made me very worried.
I dont have much issues in my 1st pregnancy. Hopefully this pregnancy can be smooth. But I feel my breasts very sore and I feel so uncomfortable all day =(
I had my boy when I was 32 leh... I'm thinking of no 2 too but hb also half hearted... and I would be 35 leh... I'm seriously not active lor. I said I went to BKK for relax right? OMG man... difficult to relax... too many new shopping centres! Shop shop shop eat shop shop shop eat... my meal times were all jumbled up and I was burnt out by the end of my trip... And I missed the window period! Zzzzz.... my only consolation was my hb took care of our boy and he managed to make him sleep on his bed without using e sarong. Though he fussed once and asked for sarong but we managed to not use it for the whole week...
Jinnous, BKK too many shopping temptation la, haha, no wonder u missed your " impt mission".I had my boy when I was 32 leh... I'm thinking of no 2 too but hb also half hearted... and I would be 35 leh... I'm seriously not active lor. I said I went to BKK for relax right? OMG man... difficult to relax... too many new shopping centres! Shop shop shop eat shop shop shop eat... my meal times were all jumbled up and I was burnt out by the end of my trip... And I missed the window period! Zzzzz.... my only consolation was my hb took care of our boy and he managed to make him sleep on his bed without using e sarong. Though he fussed once and asked for sarong but we managed to not use it for the whole week...
my hb initially dun wan no.2 cos he just started his own biz. I keep telling him how lonely our gal will be next time when we are old and gone. Both of us have siblings and we know how fun it is to have siblings around, even though we might be fighting all the time. He's reluctant but still agree to BD and let nature take its course. Now that I am pregnant with no.2, he is having mixed feelings too. Well, we have to work harder and support the family.
I had my boy when I was 32 leh... I'm thinking of no 2 too but hb also half hearted... and I would be 35 leh... I'm seriously not active lor. I said I went to BKK for relax right? OMG man... difficult to relax... too many new shopping centres! Shop shop shop eat shop shop shop eat... my meal times were all jumbled up and I was burnt out by the end of my trip... And I missed the window period! Zzzzz.... my only consolation was my hb took care of our boy and he managed to make him sleep on his bed without using e sarong. Though he fussed once and asked for sarong but we managed to not use it for the whole week...
Sunrise99, my hubby do sometimes feels inferior as he may not be able to fork out additional for my boy enrichment classes since I'm paying. But he feels that men and women are equal, so the wife should also be working to share the family burden.Snowyee11 , haiz... it is especially difficult nowadays with 2 parents working to support the family. Cannot depend on single income. Naturally, men dont want financial burden, the sleepless nights , crying babies... DOes your hubby get inferior when he cant support the family and that the wife has to work ? then all the more , he dont even want another child to add on the existing "fan niao"
Sunrise99, my hubby do sometimes feels inferior as he may not be able to fork out additional for my boy enrichment classes since I'm paying. But he feels that men and women are equal, so the wife should also be working to share the family burden.
So I also don't have the chance to be a SAHM.
Hi mrsgg
thanks I will go Cebu next month. Don't think I can go bbk soon . I'm a stay at home mother. too much spare times but not enough money . did your bring your boy? how was it? easy to travel with kid?
Eryorex,
Congrats to u take good care
mrsgg, thanks. yes didnt realize I am pregnant. now feeling more tired and nausea feeling is much stronger than #1. hopefully 1st trimester can be over soon.