Fetus no heartbeat at 8 weeks. Should I wait for natural miscarriage or d&c?
Hugs, so sorry to hear that... I suggest to ask doctor for misprostol, it is to be inserted vaginally to expel the sac naturally... dont take it orally even if doctor said ok cos I took mine orally for my second MC and it didnt work as well as my first and I had to go through D&C. There is a risk of Asherman's Syndrome for D&C whereby uterus lining might stick to each other and also scarring.... my period did not come for 2 months and I was worried sick for AS... dont wait for body to expel cos it may lead to infection... hugs, it is quite painful after inserting the meds so do take at least 2 days MC
Any investigation test for ur mc?
Didnt do any investigation for both of them... the first time cos we thought it was an accident and wasnt prepared... second one was cos we were to distraught by it... my doctor didnt suggest as well... are you planning to? Is this your first one?
go subsidairy if you are not in a hurry. i was a sub patient. the cost is HUGE when u are pregnant. the scans, the medicines, the possible jabs.1st mc no hb at 6 weeks, very soon bleeding and natural mc.
2nd mc see hb at 6 weeks, stop at 8 weeks.
Planning to see Nuh recurrent loss dr. Dunno any want hv go there? Any advise should I go for private or subsidies?
If you don't mind waiting, going subsidised will be better. Private is really ex. I chose it only cos of my age, don't wanna wait so long as the risk of mc increases a lot after 35yo.1st mc no hb at 6 weeks, very soon bleeding and natural mc.
2nd mc see hb at 6 weeks, stop at 8 weeks.
Planning to see Nuh recurrent loss dr. Dunno any want hv go there? Any advise should I go for private or subsidies?
Hi Xiao Ma1st mc no hb at 6 weeks, very soon bleeding and natural mc.
2nd mc see hb at 6 weeks, stop at 8 weeks.
Planning to see Nuh recurrent loss dr. Dunno any want hv go there? Any advise should I go for private or subsidies?
Dear Ladies,
I'm so sorry, really dun know who to talk to. I just had a D&C last Wed. Today is the 7th day. Suppose to be 11wk+ last week but baby not growing and no heartbeat. I am really sad, dun know what to do. Keep thinking what went wrong, what happen. I am already very careful in everything, but it just happen so sudden and I am totally not prepared. Yes, I have my husband and my 2 girls with me but I just cant accept. I really think of resignin from my work and dont do anything. But I can't! And my husband only say what can be done? Nothing, it is just prestined that we have 2 girls, and is enough.
I had a miscarriage 4yrs back too, also same reason, baby not growing. And well, I thought my baby is back to us. But no, baby comes and leave us again!
But really, what went wrong? I really would want to know. It is really breakin my heart, suppose to go for Oscar Test last week, in e end warded for D&C. We are all excited as the EDD will be about the same as my youngest girl, but now, no more. I really do not wish to think but is really difficult.
I also do think of trying again, but i also feel very scare. Im really scare the same thing happen again. Also I do not want to try as I do not want e baby to be like a replacement/subsititude of what I had loss.
I'm so sorry for the long msg and thanks for reading.
Don't stress urself this is not what u want it to be. I know the feeling as my 2nd mc happened when beanie suppose to be week 11+ but the scan showing stop growing at week 9+ also end up with D&C.Dear Ladies,
I'm so sorry, really dun know who to talk to. I just had a D&C last Wed. Today is the 7th day. Suppose to be 11wk+ last week but baby not growing and no heartbeat. I am really sad, dun know what to do. Keep thinking what went wrong, what happen. I am already very careful in everything, but it just happen so sudden and I am totally not prepared. Yes, I have my husband and my 2 girls with me but I just cant accept. I really think of resignin from my work and dont do anything. But I can't! And my husband only say what can be done? Nothing, it is just prestined that we have 2 girls, and is enough.
I had a miscarriage 4yrs back too, also same reason, baby not growing. And well, I thought my baby is back to us. But no, baby comes and leave us again!
But really, what went wrong? I really would want to know. It is really breakin my heart, suppose to go for Oscar Test last week, in e end warded for D&C. We are all excited as the EDD will be about the same as my youngest girl, but now, no more. I really do not wish to think but is really difficult.
I also do think of trying again, but i also feel very scare. Im really scare the same thing happen again. Also I do not want to try as I do not want e baby to be like a replacement/subsititude of what I had loss.
I'm so sorry for the long msg and thanks for reading.
So sorry to hear this. Big hugs to you. It is difficult, allow yourself to grieve, talk to your hubby and always remember that your girls and him are there for you.Dear Ladies,
I'm so sorry, really dun know who to talk to. I just had a D&C last Wed. Today is the 7th day. Suppose to be 11wk+ last week but baby not growing and no heartbeat. I am really sad, dun know what to do. Keep thinking what went wrong, what happen. I am already very careful in everything, but it just happen so sudden and I am totally not prepared. Yes, I have my husband and my 2 girls with me but I just cant accept. I really think of resignin from my work and dont do anything. But I can't! And my husband only say what can be done? Nothing, it is just prestined that we have 2 girls, and is enough.
I had a miscarriage 4yrs back too, also same reason, baby not growing. And well, I thought my baby is back to us. But no, baby comes and leave us again!
But really, what went wrong? I really would want to know. It is really breakin my heart, suppose to go for Oscar Test last week, in e end warded for D&C. We are all excited as the EDD will be about the same as my youngest girl, but now, no more. I really do not wish to think but is really difficult.
I also do think of trying again, but i also feel very scare. Im really scare the same thing happen again. Also I do not want to try as I do not want e baby to be like a replacement/subsititude of what I had loss.
I'm so sorry for the long msg and thanks for reading.
Hugs. Every life is precious I'm sure u are very upset about it. Do take some time to grieve over it. I wouldn't advise u to just quit ur job, because going back to work can sometimes help u move forward faster as it keeps u occupied. We are very fertile for the first 3-6 mths after a miscarriage. Once u are mentally ready, u can try again. For now dotake care of ur health. For ur own sake and for ur gals don't blame urself I'm sure u have taken good care. Sometimes things just happens without a reason.
So sorry to hear this. Big hugs to you. It is difficult, allow yourself to grieve, talk to your hubby and always remember that your girls and him are there for you.
After my 1st mc, I was really depressed without realising it, and except for 2 friends, everyone else pretended nothing happened. I was counting each month anniversary, wondering why she left us. But time will heal.. we heal, but we never forget. It will get better so give yourself time.
Your hubby is your pillar of support, he may not seem as affected but they actually are.
Go for a short holiday and take good care of your health.
Don't stress urself this is not what u want it to be. I know the feeling as my 2nd mc happened when beanie suppose to be week 11+ but the scan showing stop growing at week 9+ also end up with D&C.
Perhaps u want to see expert to do a check b4 ttc again? Jiayou and thing will be better in time come. Quit a job to me not an good idea but I do know that the stress levels when u need face ur col.
Think of ur hub and ur girls they still need u. Mbe have mini confinement and move on again. Jiayou jiayou
Ya it never a good experience says is always easy when it happens we just simply cannot accept it and down and very emotional. Give yourself some time more things will slowly back to normal.Yes, will check with my gynae during the followup next week. Although we think 2 is enough, but having twice 'taking away' our 3rd and 4th is really a painful experience. I just finish my mini confinement yesterday.
Today just came out of the house. Still have some giddy spell and mood is still not there. Still feeling very low on mood.
Anyone here? I am feeling so depressed that I feel that I need to rant it out somewhere.
It is my 10th weeks based on my LMP. First visit to the gynae was 2 weeks ago. Thought I was at 8w but my sac only measured 6w. No foetal pole. I only did tummy scan. I went for my 2nd scan on Monday. My sac only grew 0.3cm and again no foetal pole. Did blood test on Mon and Wed. Hcg level dropped. Gynae concluded it was blighted ovum. I suggested to do v scan cos I was hoping for a miracle. But was rejected by the gynae. Went to seek second opinion. The gynae wanted me to do v scan to get a clearer pic. I finally saw my baby. But there was no hb. It measured 6w. I had no bleeding and had the usual symptons until recently.
Feel that God has played such a big joke on me. I have been crying everyday since Monday. At this rate, I think I might fall into depression. Arranged for d&c next Thursday. I really don't want them to remove my baby...
It's okay I'm very chilI had 6 mcs in total. Just keep trying till I have a baby. I have high tolerance of pain to me it wasn't painful. But I bled for over 2 weeks after the procedure.
Hi, i am diagnose by 2 gynae that i around 7/8 weeks. Seen only gestational sac but no yolk sac. Hence conclude as a miscarriage.
1 gynae has prescribe 8 cyotetc pills (2x / day - orally) to induce miscarrriage naturally instead of doing D&C.
I accepted the pills and started taking today 1030am. Within an hour, i can feel some light cramps and bleeding starts. It gets heavy and start to pass out quite abit of clots. Pad is soak within an hour.
Now 530pm, having been passing out clots on and off. Also still having cramps and heavy bleeding.
I would like to ask if it is normal to have heavy bleeding and clots and how long will this last? I am watching out on the bleeding incase i need to go A&E. worried.
Big hugs. I have not experienced natural mc. But what i heard from gynae is that you will bleed for quite awhile until you passed the sac. Do you want to give your gynae a call? U did tummy or v scan? When i did tummy scan, i could only see a sac. But when i did v scan, i saw the foetal pole...
I called the clinic earlier in the morning, i was advised that it is normal to have heavy bleeding, pass out clot and feel squishy. I did both tummy and v scan. I did saw a fetal pole at 6 weeks. Then a scan at 7 weeks, cannot see anything. Waited for a week and also seek another gynae opinion to confirm.
Then it sounds normal. Just dont move about too much. My gynae told me natural mc is very much like natural delivery. You will feel contractions and also alot of bleeding. I thought it might be too much for me to handle so I opted for d&c. But that is freaking me out also...
I called the clinic earlier in the morning, i was advised that it is normal to have heavy bleeding, pass out clot and feel squishy. I did both tummy and v scan. I did saw a fetal pole at 6 weeks. Then a scan at 7 weeks, cannot see anything. Waited for a week and also seek another gynae opinion to confirm.
I have been laying down or resting on the sofa. I didnt expect that heavy bleeding actually. i freaked out too. I hope that i made the right choice and recover soon. I still have to finish the course of medicine. Left 4 pills for tomorrow.
Then it sounds normal. Just dont move about too much. My gynae told me natural mc is very much like natural delivery. You will feel contractions and also alot of bleeding. I thought it might be too much for me to handle so I opted for d&c. But that is freaking me out also...
Don't worry. You will be fine. Just rest more. Remember to go back to the gynae for a check to make sure everything is clear. Will you be doing a confinement?
Sorry that both of you are going through this.
Shiningstars, d&c to me is much less scary than natural mc. It is over v fast. I did mine in the clinic so its via sedation instead of ga. One moment, the aesthesist was patting my arm comfortingly, and the next moment its all over and I was wondering why someone kept calling my name when I wanna sleep. I would say physically its painless other than slight cramps which panadol can easily settle, while the heartpain lingers for much longer.
After the procedure, if you believe in confinement, I think its best to do it for a couple of weeks. I just took red date tea and catered confinement food. Actually the 1st time, I went home to shower immediately and somehow may have caught a cold. Felt cold for many months to come till 2nd mc. After 2nd mc i did not shower as often during confinement and felt it helped as I am less cold now.
Sorry that both of you are going through this.
Shiningstars, d&c to me is much less scary than natural mc. It is over v fast. I did mine in the clinic so its via sedation instead of ga. One moment, the aesthesist was patting my arm comfortingly, and the next moment its all over and I was wondering why someone kept calling my name when I wanna sleep. I would say physically its painless other than slight cramps which panadol can easily settle, while the heartpain lingers for much longer.
After the procedure, if you believe in confinement, I think its best to do it for a couple of weeks. I just took red date tea and catered confinement food. Actually the 1st time, I went home to shower immediately and somehow may have caught a cold. Felt cold for many months to come till 2nd mc. After 2nd mc i did not shower as often during confinement and felt it helped as I am less cold now.
Big hugs to you too. I have never undergo any procedure before so I am really scared. Other than the cramp, does it hurt below?
I totall agree. It's the heartbreak. I have been crying everyday and kept asking why me. What have I done wrong? Did I not protect my baby? There is so much guilt... i just want my baby to be alive. Is it too much to ask for? I really duno what to do to make myself feel better.
Hugs. I really understand ur feeling. I jus had e d&c 2wks ago. Till now I'm still v sad n depressing. if my colleague or friend talk to me i will cry already. I keep asking and feeling guilty. Duno what had went wrong. And if i know I will m/c, i will definately not do this or not do that, or will do this if it helps. Alot alot....
That time when I'm having 1st mc I also telling my hub the same that I want to die I felt very heart pain and etc. Then my hub asking me if u go then u leave me here alone? After d&c a few days later I told myself I can't think that way my hub still need me. Then 2nd mc I also break down den cannot accept that my sis is doing confinement at my mum house during cny so both me and my hub went to trip during cny. Den went to c Prof and successfully having one dau aft that. I know the feeling and d&c depends on individual body sometimes we can wake up rest and go home sometimes will be abit of giddiness and legs no strength but next day should be alright. Let's jiayouThanks. In the end mine wasn't blighted ovum cos I saw my baby. There was no hb. How did your d&c process go? I am very very scared. I have never undergo any ops before or being under ga. I kept telling my hubbs I wanna follow my baby to heaven. I cant bear to let go...
And sorry for asking you to re-visit your mc process. You dont have to share if you cant ok?
U r good luck cos ur body react to cyotetc pills. I have 2 rounds of medi for 10 tablets one round but 1st round passed out abit of blood clots 2nd round mostly LS and bleeding moderate with no blood clots so end up with D&C...it is expected to have LS and passing out blood clots and bleeding some will bleed many but if too many must go A&E cos too dangerous according to the gynae. U take careHi, i am diagnose by 2 gynae that i around 7/8 weeks. Seen only gestational sac but no yolk sac. Hence conclude as a miscarriage.
1 gynae has prescribe 8 cyotetc pills (2x / day - orally) to induce miscarrriage naturally instead of doing D&C.
I accepted the pills and started taking today 1030am. Within an hour, i can feel some light cramps and bleeding starts. It gets heavy and start to pass out quite abit of clots. Pad is soak within an hour.
Now 530pm, having been passing out clots on and off. Also still having cramps and heavy bleeding.
I would like to ask if it is normal to have heavy bleeding and clots and how long will this last? I am watching out on the bleeding incase i need to go A&E. worried.
Huh? I had 10 tablets one day. Sounds too much but body don't react sian. So it is good that ur body react to it. Don't think so much u will be alright.I have been laying down or resting on the sofa. I didnt expect that heavy bleeding actually. i freaked out too. I hope that i made the right choice and recover soon. I still have to finish the course of medicine. Left 4 pills for tomorrow.
Didn't know can be done at clinic. Mine was at hospital the bill my eyes drop very big holes.Sorry that both of you are going through this.
Shiningstars, d&c to me is much less scary than natural mc. It is over v fast. I did mine in the clinic so its via sedation instead of ga. One moment, the aesthesist was patting my arm comfortingly, and the next moment its all over and I was wondering why someone kept calling my name when I wanna sleep. I would say physically its painless other than slight cramps which panadol can easily settle, while the heartpain lingers for much longer.
After the procedure, if you believe in confinement, I think its best to do it for a couple of weeks. I just took red date tea and catered confinement food. Actually the 1st time, I went home to shower immediately and somehow may have caught a cold. Felt cold for many months to come till 2nd mc. After 2nd mc i did not shower as often during confinement and felt it helped as I am less cold now.
Only time can make u feel better. U will be alright soon. For me I never tell my col cos don't want them kepo I just want to keeping in heart. U will never forget it but it will live in ur heart with u.Big hugs to you too. I have never undergo any procedure before so I am really scared. Other than the cramp, does it hurt below?
I totall agree. It's the heartbreak. I have been crying everyday and kept asking why me. What have I done wrong? Did I not protect my baby? There is so much guilt... i just want my baby to be alive. Is it too much to ask for? I really duno what to do to make myself feel better.
That time when I'm having 1st mc I also telling my hub the same that I want to die I felt very heart pain and etc. Then my hub asking me if u go then u leave me here alone? After d&c a few days later I told myself I can't think that way my hub still need me. Then 2nd mc I also break down den cannot accept that my sis is doing confinement at my house during cny so both me and my hub went to trip during cny. Den went to c Prof and successfully having one dau aft that. I know the feeling and d&c depends on individual body sometimes we can wake up rest and go home sometimes will be abit of giddiness and legs no strength but next day should be alright. Let's jiayou
Not all gynae can do at their clinic i think. How much was your bill? I am getting my d&c done at mt e novena. My gynae fees is already 2k excluding gst. Ga cost is 500. And these are not inclusive of hospital fees. Sigh. Pay so much and I dont even have a baby to bring home...Didn't know can be done at clinic. Mine was at hospital the bill my eyes drop very big holes.
Ya it's very hurting when they r insensitive. So I don't even tell my in laws. I don't want them ask me. No la we can't think that way life still goes on. Eventually u will have a healthy baby just keep trying. Otherwise u won't have it. I has been thru it. I always told myself only those been thru it can understand us those smooth pregnancy they won't know and at times they r so insensitive. So I rather keep it in my heart than telling more ppl cos I know if they asking I sure can't stand end up crying badly. We will be very emotional.My hubbs also say the same thing. I just reply him then we both leave and accompany our baby to heaven lor. Without my baby, life seem to lost its meaning already. I totally understand the feeling about your sis doing confinement. Cos my sis in law is also pregnant. I am happy for them lah. But i just feel that it is very unfair. Theirs is shotgun. They were not even trying and they managed to conceive. And it is a healthy pregnancy. Am I very bad? But I feel that they are very insensitive too. My in laws didnt show us any concern or give words of encouragement. My bro in law even texted my husband to ask if he can help think of a name for his daughter. Like what??? At this point of time??? I feel really hurt. Even though I lost my baby at a very stage, it is still a life lost. How can they be so insensitive???
If not mistaken the bill for mt e novena it was ard 6k cos dr fee already ard 3k plus one visit aft d&c 200. The rest of the hospital and ops theatre also causing a boom. Are u staying overnight or day surgery? If staying overnight another 600 plus just for the room. I believe nurse ah the medi ah another cost. Mine is day surgery. Ya spent so much n yet we bring sadness home. Confinement food for 2 weeks $900 den massage ard 300. Scary lor. If give birth u will spent more that time my bill at mt e novena ard 20k leh all in all.Not all gynae can do at their clinic i think. How much was your bill? I am getting my d&c done at mt e novena. My gynae fees is already 2k excluding gst. Ga cost is 500. And these are not inclusive of hospital fees. Sigh. Pay so much and I dont even have a baby to bring home...
Yeah. I just kept thinking back what I have done. And kept thinking isit becos of all these that's why this happen. I have been crying to sleep every night. Cry until tired already then can fall asleep. And then sometimes I will cry in the middle of the night or cry the moment I wake up. I am wondering if I am suffering from depression. I havent even do d&c yet. I duno if this will get worst or better after the procedure....
U r good luck cos ur body react to cyotetc pills. I have 2 rounds of medi for 10 tablets one round but 1st round passed out abit of blood clots 2nd round mostly LS and bleeding moderate with no blood clots so end up with D&C...it is expected to have LS and passing out blood clots and bleeding some will bleed many but if too many must go A&E cos too dangerous according to the gynae. U take care
Huh? I had 10 tablets one day. Sounds too much but body don't react sian. So it is good that ur body react to it. Don't think so much u will be alright.