Support group - Miscarriages

it has been 11 months since my first micarriage and 4 months since the second which turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy that ended with some complications.

been feeling very down and emotional, esp in view of whether to try again or even not to try again. equally beibng upset for not being able to make a decision.

physically i'm ok but emotionally a basket case.

how long does it take to really get over the loss emotionally?
 


Cheezal, Ah Kat

Thanks for your words of encouragement. This is my 2nd m/c. The 1st 1 happen 2 years ago. Just wondering why I so suey lor, happen to me twice. Still feel upset whenever I think abt it.

Just wondering if its ok to carry heavy stuff...but I've been doing that and is feeling a bit of back ache and discomfort at the stomach area.

Cheezel : I've that home cooked chicken essence too!
 
Cheezal, Ah Kat

Thanks for your words of encouragement. This is my 2nd m/c. The 1st 1 happen 2 years ago. Just wondering why I so suey lor, happen to me twice. Still feel upset whenever I think abt it.

Just wondering if its ok to carry heavy stuff...but I've been doing that and is feeling a bit of back ache and discomfort at the stomach area.

Cheezel : I've that home cooked chicken essence too!
 
Cheezal, Ah Kat

Thanks for your words of encouragement. This is my 2nd m/c. The 1st 1 happen 2 years ago. Just wondering why I so suey lor, happen to me twice. Still feel upset whenever I think abt it.

Just wondering if its ok to carry heavy stuff...but I've been doing that and is feeling a bit of back ache and discomfort at the stomach area.

Cheezel : I've that home cooked chicken essence too!
 
cheezel,
ya lor 7mths.. my mother in law say no need to go for scanning..
that time got financial prob.

i got scolding by the nurse,
say why so late then come for scanning.

I'm looking for jobs.. mother in law ask to
go work first, moody..

btw, how many weeks of your preggy? must take care ok. =)
 
cheezel,
ya lor 7mths.. my mother in law say no need to go for scanning..
that time got financial prob.

i got scolding by the nurse,
say why so late then come for scanning.

I'm looking for jobs.. mother in law ask to
go work first, moody..

btw, how many weeks of your preggy? must take care ok. =)
 
cheezel,
ya lor 7mths.. my mother in law say no need to go for scanning..
that time got financial prob.

i got scolding by the nurse,
say why so late then come for scanning.

I'm looking for jobs.. mother in law ask to
go work first, moody..

btw, how many weeks of your preggy? must take care ok. =)
 
Hi !

Just got home from gynae visit (2 weeks after d & C) Scanning show that I have mild PCOS condition, also do blood test for thyroid.

PCOS might be reason for miscarriage. I feel sad now cos if I were to know this earlier, something could be done to prevent miscarriage
sad.gif
 
Hi !

Just got home from gynae visit (2 weeks after d & C) Scanning show that I have mild PCOS condition, also do blood test for thyroid.

PCOS might be reason for miscarriage. I feel sad now cos if I were to know this earlier, something could be done to prevent miscarriage
sad.gif
 
Hi !

Just got home from gynae visit (2 weeks after d & C) Scanning show that I have mild PCOS condition, also do blood test for thyroid.

PCOS might be reason for miscarriage. I feel sad now cos if I were to know this earlier, something could be done to prevent miscarriage
sad.gif
 
Hi babymaking

I guess there is really no guideline on how long one can overcome emotion...like for my case, I can live & eat & go out normally after my m/c 3 weeks ago but I still break down when asked when we are going to be parents! However, life goes on and we are ready to try again as soon as my next cycle come.

I guess it is about not giving up hopes and how "desperate" you want to have a child of your own.

Do take time to be sad but do not grieve anymore..
 
Hi babymaking

I guess there is really no guideline on how long one can overcome emotion...like for my case, I can live & eat & go out normally after my m/c 3 weeks ago but I still break down when asked when we are going to be parents! However, life goes on and we are ready to try again as soon as my next cycle come.

I guess it is about not giving up hopes and how "desperate" you want to have a child of your own.

Do take time to be sad but do not grieve anymore..
 
Hi babymaking

I guess there is really no guideline on how long one can overcome emotion...like for my case, I can live & eat & go out normally after my m/c 3 weeks ago but I still break down when asked when we are going to be parents! However, life goes on and we are ready to try again as soon as my next cycle come.

I guess it is about not giving up hopes and how "desperate" you want to have a child of your own.

Do take time to be sad but do not grieve anymore..
 
Hi bluesand

Yr condition was exactly same as mine.
Me am a mild PCOS patient and also w high TSH hormone for thyroid

Dont be too sad..even if u knew that about the condition, the m/c might not have been avoided.

There is "no cure" to PCOS actually as we are "not supposed" to get pregnant easily without medication help. Look on the bright side like my case, we can actually get preggy w/o medication!

Take care! If u want..u can email me at ah_kat@yahoo for more discussion
 
Hi bluesand

Yr condition was exactly same as mine.
Me am a mild PCOS patient and also w high TSH hormone for thyroid

Dont be too sad..even if u knew that about the condition, the m/c might not have been avoided.

There is "no cure" to PCOS actually as we are "not supposed" to get pregnant easily without medication help. Look on the bright side like my case, we can actually get preggy w/o medication!

Take care! If u want..u can email me at ah_kat@yahoo for more discussion
 
Hi bluesand

Yr condition was exactly same as mine.
Me am a mild PCOS patient and also w high TSH hormone for thyroid

Dont be too sad..even if u knew that about the condition, the m/c might not have been avoided.

There is "no cure" to PCOS actually as we are "not supposed" to get pregnant easily without medication help. Look on the bright side like my case, we can actually get preggy w/o medication!

Take care! If u want..u can email me at ah_kat@yahoo for more discussion
 
hi ah kat

maybe i should ask how long it takes for most to get over it in order to live a normal life, one where by u won't get tears in yr eyes when someone ask when yr turn to have kids, so when u see adorable kids in the street.

i ahve pcos too, and very severe case. for both pregnancy, got via clomid and IUI.

now due to conplications, the only option out is IVF. so..that's why so hard to make a decsioin and generally feeling lousy about not being able to make a decision.

arghs
 
hi ah kat

maybe i should ask how long it takes for most to get over it in order to live a normal life, one where by u won't get tears in yr eyes when someone ask when yr turn to have kids, so when u see adorable kids in the street.

i ahve pcos too, and very severe case. for both pregnancy, got via clomid and IUI.

now due to conplications, the only option out is IVF. so..that's why so hard to make a decsioin and generally feeling lousy about not being able to make a decision.

arghs
 
hi ah kat

maybe i should ask how long it takes for most to get over it in order to live a normal life, one where by u won't get tears in yr eyes when someone ask when yr turn to have kids, so when u see adorable kids in the street.

i ahve pcos too, and very severe case. for both pregnancy, got via clomid and IUI.

now due to conplications, the only option out is IVF. so..that's why so hard to make a decsioin and generally feeling lousy about not being able to make a decision.

arghs
 
Hi,

again..it is hard for others to give u an answer. I guess, when such things happened and we all seek answer in everything and just wish that everything will be easier to solve when we have a finite answer.

If u are really keen on having a child, then just go ahead with the IVF. I am sure one will only be "gan xin" after we tried all means.

I have a friend who also went through all possible methods to try to conceive(even IVF) and it still doesnt work and the doc also dont know why..so, they came to term that it is all fated and they shall live w/o a child. At the very least, they had exhausted all means and try..

So, it really depend on what u want in life and how much u wanted it, bearing in mind that there will be many heartache and pain on this path.

Look on the bright side, at least u can become pregnant..there is still hope, maybe it is just not the right time yet?

Well, we can only tell ourselves this in order to move on and start afresh. This is also what I had been telling myself since the mc.


ah_kat
 
Hi,

again..it is hard for others to give u an answer. I guess, when such things happened and we all seek answer in everything and just wish that everything will be easier to solve when we have a finite answer.

If u are really keen on having a child, then just go ahead with the IVF. I am sure one will only be "gan xin" after we tried all means.

I have a friend who also went through all possible methods to try to conceive(even IVF) and it still doesnt work and the doc also dont know why..so, they came to term that it is all fated and they shall live w/o a child. At the very least, they had exhausted all means and try..

So, it really depend on what u want in life and how much u wanted it, bearing in mind that there will be many heartache and pain on this path.

Look on the bright side, at least u can become pregnant..there is still hope, maybe it is just not the right time yet?

Well, we can only tell ourselves this in order to move on and start afresh. This is also what I had been telling myself since the mc.


ah_kat
 
Hi,

again..it is hard for others to give u an answer. I guess, when such things happened and we all seek answer in everything and just wish that everything will be easier to solve when we have a finite answer.

If u are really keen on having a child, then just go ahead with the IVF. I am sure one will only be "gan xin" after we tried all means.

I have a friend who also went through all possible methods to try to conceive(even IVF) and it still doesnt work and the doc also dont know why..so, they came to term that it is all fated and they shall live w/o a child. At the very least, they had exhausted all means and try..

So, it really depend on what u want in life and how much u wanted it, bearing in mind that there will be many heartache and pain on this path.

Look on the bright side, at least u can become pregnant..there is still hope, maybe it is just not the right time yet?

Well, we can only tell ourselves this in order to move on and start afresh. This is also what I had been telling myself since the mc.


ah_kat
 
thks ah kat, i am ok most of the time, however from time to time, these negative thoughts would permeat the mind :p

the hurt and the loss doesn't get easier to deal with, even though it's happeneed the second time, in fact the second time is worst.
 
thks ah kat, i am ok most of the time, however from time to time, these negative thoughts would permeat the mind :p

the hurt and the loss doesn't get easier to deal with, even though it's happeneed the second time, in fact the second time is worst.
 
thks ah kat, i am ok most of the time, however from time to time, these negative thoughts would permeat the mind :p

the hurt and the loss doesn't get easier to deal with, even though it's happeneed the second time, in fact the second time is worst.
 
Hi,

Totally understand what u feel....and it dosent matter how many times it happened.

I guess, no one can help with it and we have only ourselves to count on to recover. People can only advise, lend the shoulder to cry... ...
Sometimes we have to treat those questions as noise...I know it is tough and I havent master it myself yet..let's work at it together
 
Hi,

Totally understand what u feel....and it dosent matter how many times it happened.

I guess, no one can help with it and we have only ourselves to count on to recover. People can only advise, lend the shoulder to cry... ...
Sometimes we have to treat those questions as noise...I know it is tough and I havent master it myself yet..let's work at it together
 
Hi,

Totally understand what u feel....and it dosent matter how many times it happened.

I guess, no one can help with it and we have only ourselves to count on to recover. People can only advise, lend the shoulder to cry... ...
Sometimes we have to treat those questions as noise...I know it is tough and I havent master it myself yet..let's work at it together
 
HI babymaking

I can understand how you feel. I also had an ectopic in Jan this yr which one fallopian tube was removed. It was my 2nd m/c. My 1st m/c happened 2 yrs ago which was related to my PCOS condition.

I am now 10 weeks preggie. I jus wanna say 'Never give up hope!'.

I still grieve over my losses, even today. What's impt is we must move on after that.
 
HI babymaking

I can understand how you feel. I also had an ectopic in Jan this yr which one fallopian tube was removed. It was my 2nd m/c. My 1st m/c happened 2 yrs ago which was related to my PCOS condition.

I am now 10 weeks preggie. I jus wanna say 'Never give up hope!'.

I still grieve over my losses, even today. What's impt is we must move on after that.
 
HI babymaking

I can understand how you feel. I also had an ectopic in Jan this yr which one fallopian tube was removed. It was my 2nd m/c. My 1st m/c happened 2 yrs ago which was related to my PCOS condition.

I am now 10 weeks preggie. I jus wanna say 'Never give up hope!'.

I still grieve over my losses, even today. What's impt is we must move on after that.
 
Dear Babymaking,

WELL, emotional feeling are difficult to justify or cope. It can never compare with time. Likewise I told Hubby as times goes back, it may heal my painful wound of my unborn but I will never forget this baby that once cross my life - one whom would be my child that everything gone well.

I do agree that there will be a deadline for gieving over the loss but there will always be a place in my heart for this baby so long as I live.
 
Dear Babymaking,

WELL, emotional feeling are difficult to justify or cope. It can never compare with time. Likewise I told Hubby as times goes back, it may heal my painful wound of my unborn but I will never forget this baby that once cross my life - one whom would be my child that everything gone well.

I do agree that there will be a deadline for gieving over the loss but there will always be a place in my heart for this baby so long as I live.
 
Dear Babymaking,

WELL, emotional feeling are difficult to justify or cope. It can never compare with time. Likewise I told Hubby as times goes back, it may heal my painful wound of my unborn but I will never forget this baby that once cross my life - one whom would be my child that everything gone well.

I do agree that there will be a deadline for gieving over the loss but there will always be a place in my heart for this baby so long as I live.
 
Hi Ah Kat and Bluesand, can I ask if you are taking any medicine to cure your thyroid condition? I'm same as you gals. My TSH is 5.8. But my Free T4 is fine. So doctor didn't give me any medicine but she said monitor again in 4 month. Now I suspect my m/c is because of this. But what can I do to prevent the same thing happening?
 
Hi Ah Kat and Bluesand, can I ask if you are taking any medicine to cure your thyroid condition? I'm same as you gals. My TSH is 5.8. But my Free T4 is fine. So doctor didn't give me any medicine but she said monitor again in 4 month. Now I suspect my m/c is because of this. But what can I do to prevent the same thing happening?
 
Hi Ah Kat and Bluesand, can I ask if you are taking any medicine to cure your thyroid condition? I'm same as you gals. My TSH is 5.8. But my Free T4 is fine. So doctor didn't give me any medicine but she said monitor again in 4 month. Now I suspect my m/c is because of this. But what can I do to prevent the same thing happening?
 


HI babymaking

Natural with TCM.

Weeks after my surgery, I still feel very weak, so I decided to turn to TCM to tiao bu my body first. The (awful) medicines actually help to regulate my hormones, and I striked after 6 mths.
 
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