I m in a marriage of 26 years.
My Husband has been a loving father and Husband till 3 yrs ago. Has affair with subordinate pcr who is half his age working in a project lasted 2 years. She made the first move to initiate movie date which he accepted.
He Ended affair unwillingly (initiAlly wanted both sides which I rejected)
We went for counselling and our first year of reconciliation was quite bad as I was very sensitive to tv programmes relating to affair , places and anything associated with pcr. To him, he just wanted to move on and did not understand why I still hap on it.
Last year, I felt we were going to make it. We had spent time ourselves over weekend. He s still loving, but this year Jan I was shocked he went secretly to meet the same third party to send her off , she going back China. He said for good (I don’t believe)
He claimed third party contacted him a week ago before the flight date.
From then on, he changes drastically.
When I blew up at him for seeing third party , for not being transparent , he declares that his intention to continue to contact 3rd party and he is not asking if I m accepting or not.
He becomes very cold.
When I bring up this issue of him to
Continue contact , he s not happy asking why I don’t adapt n adjust ! By doing this, it’s forcing him to be OUT. He’s not going to let go.
I have been a stay home mum for the past 20 years. Not financially independent. He has the upperhand. He probably thinks i
Can’t do anything.
We r in early 50s. My kids are young adults still studying.
I felt mentally torturing to see him everyday at home (he works fr home) , constant reminder of the pain he inflicted).
I no longer feel happy going out with him (we are in talking terms but distant)
I hv considered divorce but with no job and little savings, I have to
Forsee what financial problems lies ahead.
If hv a job ,can I afford to Buy a flat if to sell matrimonial house , lawyer fees .......
I m helpless in my own situation.