james, just highlight this in your court paper, let her do the explaining. I am advising u this is because, last time I encounter a lawyer, everything I bought up, she will press me down with a explanation. But in the end, my husband bought up many things against me, which he did even have prove, in the end, he paint a bad picture of me. Later, I was told my a close friend, some lawyers are lazy, they don't like to file all this in the court paper, they wan to get over this asap.