DepressedMummy
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I’m 26 weeks pregnant and just had another one of the many heated quarrels with my Husband.
1) MIL & dog
We have been fostering my MIL’s dog at our place as she doesn’t have a permanent accommodation. However, my MIL is not a very hygienic person and doesn’t follow my instructions to clean and bath the dog properly, resulting in me having to clean the dog’s room constantly. My Husband doesn’t help out with bathing, grooming or cleaning the dog & space.
I am getting increasingly frustrated as it’s getting harder for me to squat down and clean the dried up soil & dog hair in the room.
2) Financial situation
Husband’s job is flexible as he is a pte driver. He is earning just the bare minimum to meet his own needs and half of the household bills. Thankfully I’m working so I can still pay for the gynae bills, insurance and baby’s items. However, I feel very resentful towards him whenever we need to get a baby item and he is unable to pay. I feel that he should work harder to make sure he has enough spare money for any emergencies and the impending delivery fees. He does not seem to feel the urgency despite me reminding him many times. We’ve quarreled many times because of this and I’m constantly worried due to this.
3) Lack of initiative and concern
My Husband plays his phone games for a few hours upon reaching home and only helps out with the household chores after repeated reminders from me. His care & concern has gotten a lot lesser since the early weeks of pregnancy. I feel alone and like im the only one taking care of myself.
I’ve been stressed out recently due to my work, family matters and finances this pregnancy. To the point that I’m crying several times a week and I distant myself from my Husband at times. What I don’t get is that my Husband can still provoke me when he sees that I’m in discomfort (from belly pains) or when he sees that I’m in a bad mood. The last straw was today when we quarreled again as he felt frustrated with me being in a angsty mood and he said “dont keep the baby already then, abort”. These words are still deep in my mind and hurt alot. How could he say such words to our unborn child who has started to pick up sounds?
I feel very alone, helpless and useless. I don’t wish to always burden my own family whenever I have a quarrel with my Husband, and yet there is no one else I can turn to. I feel guilty for letting my emotions control me and I’m worried that my constant worrying and crying will affect my baby’s development. I’ll never forgive myself if this happens.
1) MIL & dog
We have been fostering my MIL’s dog at our place as she doesn’t have a permanent accommodation. However, my MIL is not a very hygienic person and doesn’t follow my instructions to clean and bath the dog properly, resulting in me having to clean the dog’s room constantly. My Husband doesn’t help out with bathing, grooming or cleaning the dog & space.
I am getting increasingly frustrated as it’s getting harder for me to squat down and clean the dried up soil & dog hair in the room.
2) Financial situation
Husband’s job is flexible as he is a pte driver. He is earning just the bare minimum to meet his own needs and half of the household bills. Thankfully I’m working so I can still pay for the gynae bills, insurance and baby’s items. However, I feel very resentful towards him whenever we need to get a baby item and he is unable to pay. I feel that he should work harder to make sure he has enough spare money for any emergencies and the impending delivery fees. He does not seem to feel the urgency despite me reminding him many times. We’ve quarreled many times because of this and I’m constantly worried due to this.
3) Lack of initiative and concern
My Husband plays his phone games for a few hours upon reaching home and only helps out with the household chores after repeated reminders from me. His care & concern has gotten a lot lesser since the early weeks of pregnancy. I feel alone and like im the only one taking care of myself.
I’ve been stressed out recently due to my work, family matters and finances this pregnancy. To the point that I’m crying several times a week and I distant myself from my Husband at times. What I don’t get is that my Husband can still provoke me when he sees that I’m in discomfort (from belly pains) or when he sees that I’m in a bad mood. The last straw was today when we quarreled again as he felt frustrated with me being in a angsty mood and he said “dont keep the baby already then, abort”. These words are still deep in my mind and hurt alot. How could he say such words to our unborn child who has started to pick up sounds?
I feel very alone, helpless and useless. I don’t wish to always burden my own family whenever I have a quarrel with my Husband, and yet there is no one else I can turn to. I feel guilty for letting my emotions control me and I’m worried that my constant worrying and crying will affect my baby’s development. I’ll never forgive myself if this happens.