Pls help me

[Wong 88]

I'm married him at 20yo with my husband 27yo. I'm from Indonesia. He is very stingy and gv me very little allowance juzt $20 (year 2000)
When I hv Birth my first child I gain 20 kg
Before 55kg
He Start laughing me fat, n dowan hv sex with me n one night I saw him play himself another room he is nude.. I m crying, I cant believeit . He has watch porn until morning 4 am. And say make love with me no feel. N I go out also nobody want.
I ask for divorce I feel humiliation, I ask for divorce he dowan bcos he say house he pay I
Pay nothing, ask me go out.. Reason is we 5 yrs separated room n I hv a bf. I feel very tired of this kind of life. Will I win the final court. N I have 2 beautiful girl.. I wmat to take the custody. Sorry for my simple English I need from u all. I have pay my daughter allowance, n house renovation I pay 80% he pay 20% only.

 

[margret]

have he file for divorce yet? are you a PR or Singapore citizen?

 

[Wong 88]

I'm singaporean.I havenf file divorce. I worry no place to stay.

 

[wendy_reborn]

You must have a valid reason to file for divorce.
Try to look for aware to help you

 

[clkw]

I'm married him at 20yo with my husband 27yo. I'm from Indonesia. He is very stingy and gv me very little allowance juzt $20 (year 2000)
When I hv Birth my first child I gain 20 kg
Before 55kg
He Start laughing me fat, n dowan hv sex with me n one night I saw him play himself another room he is nude.. I m crying, I cant believeit . He has watch porn until morning 4 am. And say make love with me no feel. N I go out also nobody want.
I ask for divorce I feel humiliation, I ask for divorce he dowan bcos he say house he pay I
Pay nothing, ask me go out.. Reason is we 5 yrs separated room n I hv a bf. I feel very tired of this kind of life. Will I win the final court. N I have 2 beautiful girl.. I wmat to take the custody. Sorry for my simple English I need from u all. I have pay my daughter allowance, n house renovation I pay 80% he pay 20% only.

You can consider filing for divorce based on unreasonable behaviour which usually encompasses a large variety of reasons. Who has care and control is largely dependent on who is the main caregiver of the child at present

 

[JL8118]

Are you working?
Well, if you wanna file divorce for unreasonable behaviour, do prepare that he may counter-sue you since you are having a bf. Worst case he may say that cause you are having a affair, hence he didn't want to make love to you or anything.
For renovation that you paid 80%, any proof? If no, also no point...
Housing wise, monthly installment you paid anything? Or he paid it all?
Even he agreed to the divorce, for allowance/maintenance fee etc, he may not give you much or even very low.
Custody wise, if he want to fight, most likely he will win too if he counter-sue you in having affair/unreasonable behaviour

 

[Mongkok]

I'm married him at 20yo with my husband 27yo. I'm from Indonesia. He is very stingy and gv me very little allowance juzt $20 (year 2000)
When I hv Birth my first child I gain 20 kg
Before 55kg
He Start laughing me fat, n dowan hv sex with me n one night I saw him play himself another room he is nude.. I m crying, I cant believeit . He has watch porn until morning 4 am. And say make love with me no feel. N I go out also nobody want.
I ask for divorce I feel humiliation, I ask for divorce he dowan bcos he say house he pay I
Pay nothing, ask me go out.. Reason is we 5 yrs separated room n I hv a bf. I feel very tired of this kind of life. Will I win the final court. N I have 2 beautiful girl.. I wmat to take the custody. Sorry for my simple English I need from u all. I have pay my daughter allowance, n house renovation I pay 80% he pay 20% only.

Seriously, if Dv will worsen your situation, why this path at this time?

I assume he didn't hv EMA (yet). what you hv mentioned are 'normal' bickers (The blaming game) of a stagnant marriage.

Rather sit around sulking exploring Dv and no plannings thereafter, why don't u upgrade and improve yourself?

Ppl dv u follow same. way out for other doesn't means way out for u. Dv is ultimate. your last card of this marriage. But vicious cycle if you don't reflect and change.

Think far. think farther.. u will hv a next guy in your life. strengthening yourself for that guy.

Make yourself stronger by reflecting on his comment. Ugly comment. how true? Only u knw.well, at least he is truthful.

Face the fact, put on weight means put on weight. Heavier weight will stress your health. Toughen up your muscles.

ML no feel? why not improve?... well.. for the better of the next guy that truly loves u?

English no good? go for self-improvement / further education.

You have your kids only lack the right guy. toughen up for the next one. understand?

 

[Wong 88]

have he file for divorce yet? are you a PR or Singapore citizen?

I'm Singapore citizens

 

[Wong 88]

Are you working?
Well, if you wanna file divorce for unreasonable behaviour, do prepare that he may counter-sue you since you are having a bf. Worst case he may say that cause you are having a affair, hence he didn't want to make love to you or anything.
For renovation that you paid 80%, any proof? If no, also no point...
Housing wise, monthly installment you paid anything? Or he paid it all?
Even he agreed to the divorce, for allowance/maintenance fee etc, he may not give you much or even very low.
Custody wise, if he want to fight, most likely he will win too if he counter-sue you in having affair/unreasonable behaviour

Hi JL , convenient to chat on telegram?

 

[nilsmartin]

If you are looking for a person who can help with your divorce. You can check out Godwin Campos. He helped a friend of mine deal with her divorce. It was a smooth process and both parties are now okay.