Hello all, I potentially foresee me going through these problems that you all are facing in the near future. I'm not married yet, and I'm thinking of calling the marriage off as I can't get along with his mother, and I think things will become worse in future. Furthermore he's the only son. Should I just, walk away? Instead of facing such problems in future, might as well not give the MIL a chance to create conflicts in the first place (by not being my MIL).
If your bf is good and The One for you, you shouldn't walk away because you are marrying him and not his parents.
My hubby is also the only child and my mil is also abit problematic. We were together for 6 years at that time and I already knew she was not easy to get along and stay together with but that time we only applied for BTO after we married, so need to wait 3 years. During that 3years, I stay with his parents and did have a lot of unhappiness but as I am not those that will show, I will usually just accept it and sometimes I will complain to my hubby. Slowly, I realised that she also complain to my hubby but in front of me act like nth (because at some pt my hubby will say she say tis and u say tat then hw) So I think in the end my hubby ownself decide move out to stay is best to minimise conflict. Lol!
But all was not rosy because when we got our flat and reno and wanted to move, my mil a lot patterns. Sick la, giddy and fil cant look after... depression la. Went through a lot of drama before we finally can stay on our own. (Got flat in Feb but move in in Jun) Both my pil also not working & my mil expenses quite high one.. mthly allowance give in 4 digit and still nt enough. She does go for massages & buy gadgets etc quite modern. Taxing on my hubby but no choice because he is the only child and it is his duty.
So..don't give up. I'm sure your future hubby wil eventually find a balancing point and know what is the best resolution and to action on it.