I have been rather sad w my Mil to the stage that I hope I have no dealings with her. Too many things happen recently and it all trigger to the point that I decided not to give in anymore. All along I treated her like my own.. but things gets bad without reasons or warning.
Cases such as..
Going over for a short stay w my parents - She reminded me I am married off and should not go back n stay over leaving hubby alone. But my hubby did not object. He could come along with me if he wants. I never stopped him. Mil was angry with my remarks and reminded I am now "property" of their family instead of mine.
My gal' full month - can u imagine I begged her to attend? Even after I cried and asked her why she does not wants to come.. she dun give me any reason. She did came at the end after my hubby went after her. I kinda going to depression during the confinement with her unreasonable treatment. I cried throughout each time I feel sorry for my gal.
My sister wedding - the same thing happen..Despite I demanded a reason, ask her what wrong did I did or if my family offended her. She just stay silent n refuse to talk. My sis deliver her the wedding card and my dad called either. . Still she did not appear.
My grandmother funeral which is recently - she too did not appear. Well I kinda expected this outcome but till today I dun hv any reason why she is behaving this way.
Since granny passes on recently, I will not be celebrating CNY. Of cos. My hubby can still go ahead with the kids. I knew i could celebrate with hubby but the tot mil did not even attend granny's wake piss me off.. i decided not to. Then comes the problem..
One evening, she reminded me again.. "u are already married off and you should follow your husband side for cny. I asked many old people for advice and they shared the same view. What kind of cny will I have if there is no ang bao n oranges from you! Did your parents teach you bad?! "
I was angry and I told her.. well I will come on 1st day of cny to greet u with oranges n ang bao since you want ir but I will not go n visit yr relatives for cny since hubby is working as well. My parents side not celebrating only. I remain silent while she walks off.... in my heart I was thinking.. u dun even respect my family whilst attending granny's funeral n u still expect me to celebrate cny w yr family. I was pissed but kept it silent. Cos I know there is no point since she will never share reasons w me. I just wanna make her feel bad as how she likes to do it on me without reason.
I told hubby how I felt but he too advised me to ignore as his mother cannot communicate even to him. So there is no point for me to talk to her. She will never talk things out. But I knew things will get worst if we dun talk.
The worst is I will need to visit her every weekdays night for dinner cos. I am not able to cook in time for my kids due to work and Mil will want to see her grandson. (Which was bought up by her). My two daughters treatment.. needless to say were almost transparent to her.
Each time I think of how she treated me.. I dun feel like going back... let alone cny reunion lunch. But I am left with no choice as I dun wanna upset anyone in this process. Now I feel so depressed each time I think.. I definitely cannot let go. Wat should I do?
Cases such as..
Going over for a short stay w my parents - She reminded me I am married off and should not go back n stay over leaving hubby alone. But my hubby did not object. He could come along with me if he wants. I never stopped him. Mil was angry with my remarks and reminded I am now "property" of their family instead of mine.
My gal' full month - can u imagine I begged her to attend? Even after I cried and asked her why she does not wants to come.. she dun give me any reason. She did came at the end after my hubby went after her. I kinda going to depression during the confinement with her unreasonable treatment. I cried throughout each time I feel sorry for my gal.
My sister wedding - the same thing happen..Despite I demanded a reason, ask her what wrong did I did or if my family offended her. She just stay silent n refuse to talk. My sis deliver her the wedding card and my dad called either. . Still she did not appear.
My grandmother funeral which is recently - she too did not appear. Well I kinda expected this outcome but till today I dun hv any reason why she is behaving this way.
Since granny passes on recently, I will not be celebrating CNY. Of cos. My hubby can still go ahead with the kids. I knew i could celebrate with hubby but the tot mil did not even attend granny's wake piss me off.. i decided not to. Then comes the problem..
One evening, she reminded me again.. "u are already married off and you should follow your husband side for cny. I asked many old people for advice and they shared the same view. What kind of cny will I have if there is no ang bao n oranges from you! Did your parents teach you bad?! "
I was angry and I told her.. well I will come on 1st day of cny to greet u with oranges n ang bao since you want ir but I will not go n visit yr relatives for cny since hubby is working as well. My parents side not celebrating only. I remain silent while she walks off.... in my heart I was thinking.. u dun even respect my family whilst attending granny's funeral n u still expect me to celebrate cny w yr family. I was pissed but kept it silent. Cos I know there is no point since she will never share reasons w me. I just wanna make her feel bad as how she likes to do it on me without reason.
I told hubby how I felt but he too advised me to ignore as his mother cannot communicate even to him. So there is no point for me to talk to her. She will never talk things out. But I knew things will get worst if we dun talk.
The worst is I will need to visit her every weekdays night for dinner cos. I am not able to cook in time for my kids due to work and Mil will want to see her grandson. (Which was bought up by her). My two daughters treatment.. needless to say were almost transparent to her.
Each time I think of how she treated me.. I dun feel like going back... let alone cny reunion lunch. But I am left with no choice as I dun wanna upset anyone in this process. Now I feel so depressed each time I think.. I definitely cannot let go. Wat should I do?
