Lonely SAHM...
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Hi Lonely Mother
It normal to get drifted apart with friends when you are a SAHM. Also I guess we don't have much time to meet up with them, kiddies would have taken too much of our time. Don't get too upset over it.
Hee... I also enjoy cooking. My baby is too small so cannot educate yet.
It normal to get drifted apart with friends when you are a SAHM. Also I guess we don't have much time to meet up with them, kiddies would have taken too much of our time. Don't get too upset over it.
Hee... I also enjoy cooking. My baby is too small so cannot educate yet.
playfulfairy
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Hi. I'm a SAHM of a 6 yrs old gal and a 8 mth old gal. I also love cooking, baking. Looking forward to hear from you soon!
birdie_bird
New Member
Hi.
I'm a SAHM and new to this website. It would be nice to know more SAHMs. If anyone knows the active threads for SAHMs - let me know so that I can join.
I wish I could dedicate more time to my interests but being a SAHM to boy (4 yrs old) and girl (2.5 years) is trying! Know what I mean.
I'm a SAHM and new to this website. It would be nice to know more SAHMs. If anyone knows the active threads for SAHMs - let me know so that I can join.
I wish I could dedicate more time to my interests but being a SAHM to boy (4 yrs old) and girl (2.5 years) is trying! Know what I mean.
kelly_n_malcolm
New Member
Hi!
I'm a SAHM with 22months old boy.. i agree that housework is never-ending.. n it's sumtimes very tiring to look after him.. n still have to deal w his tantrums..
Nice to know all of you n hope to hear from all of you soon!
I'm a SAHM with 22months old boy.. i agree that housework is never-ending.. n it's sumtimes very tiring to look after him.. n still have to deal w his tantrums..
Nice to know all of you n hope to hear from all of you soon!
Hello! Yes! A SAHM thread =)
I am taking care of 8mth old bb girl. Currently staying with mom so can take care together but would be moving out in July when house is ready =)
Hey playfulfairy, I am learnin to bake too! Used the Planta, yucks.. the cupcakes are awful!
I stay in Yishun... How about you mommies?
And soon, I will be doin the never ending housechores....
I am taking care of 8mth old bb girl. Currently staying with mom so can take care together but would be moving out in July when house is ready =)
Hey playfulfairy, I am learnin to bake too! Used the Planta, yucks.. the cupcakes are awful!
I stay in Yishun... How about you mommies?
And soon, I will be doin the never ending housechores....
Hey Janet! Why not come into our Yishun Mummies thread here! http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/cgi-bin/forumboard/show.cgi?578191/452035
lasmeninas
New Member
Hi,
Im a SAHM with 2 young kids staying around central. Will love to meet more SAHMs too.
Im a SAHM with 2 young kids staying around central. Will love to meet more SAHMs too.
babie_mikey
New Member
Hi Lasie
Where are you staying? I stay at holland area, my son is 1 yr old.
Where are you staying? I stay at holland area, my son is 1 yr old.
lasmeninas
New Member
Hi Babie,
Im staying near Novena. I have an 18 mths old and a new born. Nice meeting you!
Im staying near Novena. I have an 18 mths old and a new born. Nice meeting you!
toyhobbyspecialist
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Hi, how about enjoy baking with your children? Would like to share this VERY KAWAII Hello Kitty Cookie Mould, winnie-e-pooh Cake Mould & various Mickey Mouse moulds too!
http://toyhobbyspecialist.blogspot.com/
http://toyhobbyspecialist.blogspot.com/
tanlengleng
Active Member
Hi all,
I'm a SAHM at Sengkang,
will be back to work in January when our #3 is 18mths old to go child care center.
I'm a SAHM at Sengkang,
will be back to work in January when our #3 is 18mths old to go child care center.
kittyminky
Member
<font color="aa00aa">poormum,
My heart goes out to you. I'm a SAHM with a 3mth+ baby. My hubby works overseas and hardly comes back.
It can be really lonely, stressful and frustrating. My friends are either not married or don't have children so they don't understand what being a SAHM is like. And because I'm so busy with baby, I hardly meet up or talk to them anymore and so naturally, we drift apart.
Where are you from poormum? And how old are your kids now?</font>
My heart goes out to you. I'm a SAHM with a 3mth+ baby. My hubby works overseas and hardly comes back.
It can be really lonely, stressful and frustrating. My friends are either not married or don't have children so they don't understand what being a SAHM is like. And because I'm so busy with baby, I hardly meet up or talk to them anymore and so naturally, we drift apart.
Where are you from poormum? And how old are your kids now?</font>
Hi, highheels,
I am from Malaysia, but i hardly go back as very difficult to travel with 3 kids, they are 5 yrs old girl, 3 yrs old boy and 17 mths old girl..
family also seldom visited me as they feeling insulted where in in laws( FIL,SIL) all look down on Malaysian...sickening!!!
I am from Malaysia, but i hardly go back as very difficult to travel with 3 kids, they are 5 yrs old girl, 3 yrs old boy and 17 mths old girl..
family also seldom visited me as they feeling insulted where in in laws( FIL,SIL) all look down on Malaysian...sickening!!!
tanlengleng
Active Member
maesiew,
u got a great sence of humor!
u got a great sence of humor!
kittyminky
Member
<font color="aa00aa">jntt,
Ya, we should but maybe we shd wait till this H1N1 situation dies down. I'm super paranoid now.
How old are your kids??
Katie's mom,
My baby is 3.5mths' old and she is starting to cling to me. I can sense her tension whenever she sees strangers. Guess it's like that when mothers are the primary caregivers.</font>
Ya, we should but maybe we shd wait till this H1N1 situation dies down. I'm super paranoid now.
How old are your kids??
Katie's mom,
My baby is 3.5mths' old and she is starting to cling to me. I can sense her tension whenever she sees strangers. Guess it's like that when mothers are the primary caregivers.</font>
kittyminky
Member
<font color="aa00aa">poormum,
Wow, you have 3 kids! How do you manage?? Is your hubby here with you in SG?</font>
Wow, you have 3 kids! How do you manage?? Is your hubby here with you in SG?</font>
highheels, good to see u here! How are u managing?
Mine just turned 1 YO and still clingy and afraid of strangers. I always bring her out one leh!!! When others carry comment that i should bring her out, i told them i did!!
Then I tot mine got Autism cuz she like afraid of people. I brought her to the PD for the 1st time n I became joke of the day.......... doc told me it's normal that when others carry her she'll be afraid cuz she's only 1! Hahahahaahhaa.....
Poormum, 3 kids!!!! I tink got good and bad right? At least they will play with themselves and u can do your chores but I hope your ears are still good then! Hahaha! I so bad. Cuz I been watching Jon & Kate Plus 8, the american family with twins and sexuplets (6 babies). I think they powerful lar! Can tahun the noise and endless diaper changing and wow, the laundry!
Mine just turned 1 YO and still clingy and afraid of strangers. I always bring her out one leh!!! When others carry comment that i should bring her out, i told them i did!!
Then I tot mine got Autism cuz she like afraid of people. I brought her to the PD for the 1st time n I became joke of the day.......... doc told me it's normal that when others carry her she'll be afraid cuz she's only 1! Hahahahaahhaa.....
Poormum, 3 kids!!!! I tink got good and bad right? At least they will play with themselves and u can do your chores but I hope your ears are still good then! Hahaha! I so bad. Cuz I been watching Jon & Kate Plus 8, the american family with twins and sexuplets (6 babies). I think they powerful lar! Can tahun the noise and endless diaper changing and wow, the laundry!
Hi,
If you are bored at home, why not spend some time to watch 弟子规？ (Standards for being a Good Student and Child) It is an ancient book based on the teaching of the great Confucius that emphasises on the basic requisites for being a good person and guidelines for living in harmony with others. The source for the main outline of it is from Analects of Confucius, Book 1, Chapter 6, where Confucius said:
A young man should be a good son at home and an obedient young man abroad, sparing of speech but trustworthy in what he says, and should love the multitude at large but cultivate the friendship of his fellow men. If he has any energy to spare from such action, let him devote it to making himself cultivated.
And here's a translation more faithful to the original Chinese text than James Legge's 19th century version above:
A student should be good to his parents at home and respectful to elders outside, be reverent and trustworthy, love all universally, and draw close to kind-hearted people. If he has energy to spare, then he should study writings.
There are altogether seven chapters in Di Zi Gui with each chapter listing one duty that a good person should follow in life.
This will help you in teaching your children to be a moral and responsible person in the future.
I have several copies of DVD (in chinese) available, I will mail to you for free if you are keen. Thanks.
If you are bored at home, why not spend some time to watch 弟子规？ (Standards for being a Good Student and Child) It is an ancient book based on the teaching of the great Confucius that emphasises on the basic requisites for being a good person and guidelines for living in harmony with others. The source for the main outline of it is from Analects of Confucius, Book 1, Chapter 6, where Confucius said:
A young man should be a good son at home and an obedient young man abroad, sparing of speech but trustworthy in what he says, and should love the multitude at large but cultivate the friendship of his fellow men. If he has any energy to spare from such action, let him devote it to making himself cultivated.
And here's a translation more faithful to the original Chinese text than James Legge's 19th century version above:
A student should be good to his parents at home and respectful to elders outside, be reverent and trustworthy, love all universally, and draw close to kind-hearted people. If he has energy to spare, then he should study writings.
There are altogether seven chapters in Di Zi Gui with each chapter listing one duty that a good person should follow in life.
This will help you in teaching your children to be a moral and responsible person in the future.
I have several copies of DVD (in chinese) available, I will mail to you for free if you are keen. Thanks.
aiyoh...3 kids, thats y i m going crazy, they r fighting each other instead playing..snatch toys, things, ...etc..disturbing each other, only work together to drive me into nuts and work together to throw things and mess up the house....fainting!!
sometimes, i feel like just to walk off from the house and dun bother liao..but cant bear to leave them..............
sometimes, i feel like just to walk off from the house and dun bother liao..but cant bear to leave them..............
tanlengleng
Active Member
poormum,
educate them to keep their toys,
kids learn thru fighting & snatchings,
like in animal world.
How old are they?
educate them to keep their toys,
kids learn thru fighting & snatchings,
like in animal world.
How old are they?
they are 5 yrs old girl, 3 yrs old boy and 17mths girl.. i did educate them, sometimes I persuade softly, sometimes scold them and use cane to frighten them, but none can make them listen to me....only when i say I m going off without them, n i pretending to go off...then eldest will cry n start to keep things n toys, trying to be good with siblings...but, i dun think that's good to them..sigh
Poormum... Me only got a YO gal n I am already having the same thouoght as u liao!! She's so clingy man. Yanking whole day then i do things she hug my thighs and then I like dragging her around most of the day! hahahahahahhaha! Dono to laugh or to cry....
tanlengleng, how u educate ur darling to keep toys? From how old can teach. Mine like living in her own world like that. Teach her things she not interested. I sometimes think that something is wrong with her leh?
tanlengleng, how u educate ur darling to keep toys? From how old can teach. Mine like living in her own world like that. Teach her things she not interested. I sometimes think that something is wrong with her leh?
tanlengleng
Active Member
Katie's mom,
about 18-20th months old,
child care center taught them too.
Clingy is a problem with having single child,
with 2 or more, they'll play (or fight) together.
Grass is always greener on the other side,
other people's children are always more obedient...
about 18-20th months old,
child care center taught them too.
Clingy is a problem with having single child,
with 2 or more, they'll play (or fight) together.
Grass is always greener on the other side,
other people's children are always more obedient...
tanlengleng
Active Member
poormum,
wah biang, this age can use the cane already!!!
I ever gave my elder 2s a good caning that they'll never forget,
now talk about cane they'll be obedient already...
I have a 5yr old girl, 3.5yr old boy & a 1 yr old boy,
quite close to yours.
wah biang, this age can use the cane already!!!
I ever gave my elder 2s a good caning that they'll never forget,
now talk about cane they'll be obedient already...
I have a 5yr old girl, 3.5yr old boy & a 1 yr old boy,
quite close to yours.
highheels, yes we should wait until the H1N1 situation is not so terrible! me now in bkk, had wanted so much to bring my girl with me, but think the situation here is worse! so had to leave her @ home....
btw, my girl is 6months 3 weeks old.. just a couple of months older than yours. where do u stay?
btw, my girl is 6months 3 weeks old.. just a couple of months older than yours. where do u stay?
tanlengleng
Active Member
poormum,
yah, at grandma's place my daughter will also hide behind grandma,
there was once I'm so mad, I told her,
I'll cane grandma with you if grandma sheild you,
my MIL went to her kitchen & hide, without my DD.
yah, at grandma's place my daughter will also hide behind grandma,
there was once I'm so mad, I told her,
I'll cane grandma with you if grandma sheild you,
my MIL went to her kitchen & hide, without my DD.
Leng Leng,
You are so cute!!!! but if I said that sentence to my kids, the old man surely not happy one lah.... he is a very strange person...sian..
when my kids sick, i say xx is sick, then he'll scold me,"dun any how say hor!!nothing happen, only u always say they r sick..& if when they r really very sick, then i cant say the word sick also, only cant say not feeling well...he is siao right???this is only 1 example, walau..everyday encounter different funny things, sometimes, i really feel like commit suicide leh....
You are so cute!!!! but if I said that sentence to my kids, the old man surely not happy one lah.... he is a very strange person...sian..
when my kids sick, i say xx is sick, then he'll scold me,"dun any how say hor!!nothing happen, only u always say they r sick..& if when they r really very sick, then i cant say the word sick also, only cant say not feeling well...he is siao right???this is only 1 example, walau..everyday encounter different funny things, sometimes, i really feel like commit suicide leh....
katie's mum,
work load really too much for me....so no need to go slimming centre, no need to take slimming pills...nothing..after gave birth 3 times, still at 52 kgs although during pregnancy, my weight can shoot up to 75kgs.....haha...there is once, i m only 48kgs, now gained some weight liao...
really siong!!!!
work load really too much for me....so no need to go slimming centre, no need to take slimming pills...nothing..after gave birth 3 times, still at 52 kgs although during pregnancy, my weight can shoot up to 75kgs.....haha...there is once, i m only 48kgs, now gained some weight liao...
really siong!!!!
tanlengleng
Active Member
poormum,
that's call "denial"...
Sometimes by denying, then will not be sick,
when you say sick, the child may act more sick to catch attention.
that's call "denial"...
Sometimes by denying, then will not be sick,
when you say sick, the child may act more sick to catch attention.
kittyminky
Member
<font color="aa00aa">jntt,
I stay in Tampines. How about you??</font>
I stay in Tampines. How about you??</font>
kittyminky
Member
<font color="aa00aa">Katie's mum,
My baby is almost 4 months' old. She is more aware now but also naughtier! Plus, she has learnt to flip and can't stop flipping. Middle of the night also want to flip. I have to watch her constantly.
Tan Leng Leng,
Wow, you have 3 kids like poormum! I wanted 3 kids when I first got married but now...no way!!!</font>
My baby is almost 4 months' old. She is more aware now but also naughtier! Plus, she has learnt to flip and can't stop flipping. Middle of the night also want to flip. I have to watch her constantly.
Tan Leng Leng,
Wow, you have 3 kids like poormum! I wanted 3 kids when I first got married but now...no way!!!</font>
tanlengleng
Active Member
highheels,
why not?
why not?
Highheels, it must be tiring now as bb likes to flip so much! She's zzzz in bed wz u or in her cot/playpen? Mine in playpen cuz she's a very chor lor. Wakes up dono the head facing where liao...
Poormum, your FIL got so many comments but never help out that type? Then must be very irritating and shiong man!
My gal got 2 knobs on her head... Born devil. I gotta buy 3 canes and tie together make it into a thick rod, cuz 1 cane no power!
Poormum, your FIL got so many comments but never help out that type? Then must be very irritating and shiong man!
My gal got 2 knobs on her head... Born devil. I gotta buy 3 canes and tie together make it into a thick rod, cuz 1 cane no power!
kittyminky
Member
<font color="aa00aa">Leng Leng,
I used to really love big families and really, truly wanted 3 kids. But this baby of mine is driving me crazy. She naps in the day in 30min spurts, wakes up every 2 hours at night, don't know for what. And she doesn't settle back to sleep easily.
Really tiring and frustrating. Plus hubby works overseas so I have no help here too.
So after this baby, I'm terrified of having more. Plus, having a baby is tremendously expensive...
I really admire women like you who are able to handle 3 kids though. I doubt I would be able to do it.</font>
I used to really love big families and really, truly wanted 3 kids. But this baby of mine is driving me crazy. She naps in the day in 30min spurts, wakes up every 2 hours at night, don't know for what. And she doesn't settle back to sleep easily.
Really tiring and frustrating. Plus hubby works overseas so I have no help here too.
So after this baby, I'm terrified of having more. Plus, having a baby is tremendously expensive...
I really admire women like you who are able to handle 3 kids though. I doubt I would be able to do it.</font>
kittyminky
Member
<font color="aa00aa">poormum,
Wah, your baby likes medicine! When my baby developed fever after her jab last week, and I gave her liquid Panadol, she screamed and struggled like crazy.</font>
Wah, your baby likes medicine! When my baby developed fever after her jab last week, and I gave her liquid Panadol, she screamed and struggled like crazy.</font>
kittyminky
Member
<font color="aa00aa">Katie's mom,
My girl is very chor lor too! She sleeps in her cot and will keep wiggling throughout the night. Sometimes will accidentally knock her head too.</font>
My girl is very chor lor too! She sleeps in her cot and will keep wiggling throughout the night. Sometimes will accidentally knock her head too.</font>
tanlengleng
Active Member
highheels,
she's still very young, this is only a growing up phase,
at about 2 yr old, it'll be worse, cause she's lonely & need you as a playmate,
if she has a younger sibling, then they'll play together,
won't bug you as much.
she's still very young, this is only a growing up phase,
at about 2 yr old, it'll be worse, cause she's lonely & need you as a playmate,
if she has a younger sibling, then they'll play together,
won't bug you as much.
Highheels.. Seems like ur gal and my gal same pattern when still baby stage! She don't like to sleep and drink milk since birth lor! Everyday yanking here and there. Almost gone crazy liao. N so as tanlengleng mentioned it's a passing phrase, I am really hopping she'll be more independent! But... It still have YEARS to talk about!