I am keeping mum even for my colleagues is cos.. situation is quite tense and demoralizing in the office. My boss just decided to not confirm my other colleague (there is only me and her in the dept) and my boss has a reputation of not having sympathy or empathy. So i just told her i am going for some procedure. and I did told a few close colleague that i am considering IVF but decided not to proceed cos of their negativity e.g. aiyah, the work here so not stable, you sure you still want kids bla bla bla bla... so decided to shuddup about it.
I am just telling them i have female problem (Which is true, PCOS) and going for checks. Thereafter i will just say that i need to go for a procedure (which is also true) and have HL.
My boss still expects me to be working and all and she keeps conveniently/deliberately forget about it. i preempt her 2 weeks ago that i am going for possible med appt but because need to wait for AF right, i told her cant confirm. Den when KKH told me abt my appt yesterday, i told her on Monday, she say please inform 3 days in advance. and i reminded her that i have med appt this 2 weeks. today, i have to remind her again that i have appt next Monday and i also have to remind her i am likely to be on HL in March. she ask me to go for an event in March and i already told her 2 weeks ago that chances i cant is high. she ask me today and i told her cant, she ask me to inform another colleague that i cant. I inform that colleague, just now she text me ask me, why i go and say cannot. i have to AGAIN remind her to say i am going for HL and surgery date is dependent on how i respond to the treatment(which is also true!). Den she ask, why i go and tell people i cannot go. I told her is she ask me to go and tell, plus i told her i prefer not to tell my condition in details to everyone so i just say i cant. wah lao eh. if i have a BFP, i am staying till my ML. Otherwise, i am looking for another job. crazy psycho
Ya usually females are the unsympathetic one. I had a friend whose boss had kids but didn't understand why my fren had to resort to IVF and looked down on as it is she said IVF is 'artificial'!
But most importantly, don't be stressed up by such office matter and don't let it hinder ur IVF outcome.