Losthope27
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Hi mummies,
Anyone have been thru feeling so helpless and feel like get up this relationship.
I'm a mother of 2 boys, age of 2 and 1. We been married for about 5 years and together for about 8 years
It's all started we everyday quarrel over money and kids. My hubby didnt spent alot of his time with kids. He is quite fat so he wish to go for execrise. So I let him do what he want. And he started playing badminton with his colleagues. All along he told me, he is play with 2 male colleague. And play after work. I'm fine with that. Suddenly as time goes, he even started to use weekend to play. I always give him black face to show him i'm unhappy and just wish he could spent his weekend with kids. I always will bring my boys over to my mum place to stay, almost every weekend. As time goes.... our quarrel is getting bad to worse. He started to feel i'm so naggy, he even told me that dun make him feel that working in office is better than coming home. I didn't realise until we had a very bad quarrel just over a housework.
We started to have cold war for 2 days until I cannot tahan, I took his hp and happen to saw him chatting with this female colleague. I feel so upset because during our quarrel, he even can fetch her to work and even meeting her for dinner alone, he even can pour out his feeling about our relationship to her. He even sometime msg her when i'm asleep or chat with her when i'm not at home. I told him, i feel so upset and disappointed. He told me, he is sorry. I forgive him but i just cant forget because he broke my trust.
The next day, I think back. I ask him, (that day before we have a big quarrel, he meet his colleague for badminton) 'that day u play badminton only with 2 male colleague and he say yes. But i show him the msg that he send to her that he is at her house downstair to pick up for badminton. And he can ans me "oh she also got join". And i jsut breakdown, Why do he wan to lie and hide her'. he told me he just dun wan me to misundstood. I feel that is a excuse. I forgive him again. I just cant forget because he lie to me too many time. I also feel so stupid to dig all his lies. I even tried asking him a few time that i would like to go and take a look or join, he will start to make a big fuss by saying me not trusting him and he dun like to being moniter whatever he go and do. So I decided to ask him to stop play badmintion with his colleague and go excerise with me instead. He told me he will accompany me but he will not give up playing with his colleague. I just dont understand why. So now i stop asking him about this all. The last time we quarrel again because I save that female colleague at my contact and he found out. He got so angry over it. I say u can get so angry because of that girl and he keep insist that he is not angry because that girl is because I dont trust him. And i move out of the house to my mum place. After 2 days, I went back and wanted to have a good talk but he just dont want to talk, keep saying he want to cool down after this all happen. I even move the 1st move by hugging him but he just dun bother. Look like I'm in fault instead of him.
I feel like giving up this relationship, i feel that he dun cherish this relationship anymore. I even cry and he can just sleep. My heart is really very hurt. I just dont understand why do he need more time to cool down. Now my heart is dead. But i just don't wish to let go because of kids and i still love him. I just long for his love and care. i just wish we can go back to use we used to be. Now we didn't msg or call each other. I really wish i have the courage to let go this relationship. For the past 3 weeks.. I have been no appetite to eat, no mood to work, I'm just feel so unhappy. Anyone able to advise me what should i do?
Anyone have been thru feeling so helpless and feel like get up this relationship.
I'm a mother of 2 boys, age of 2 and 1. We been married for about 5 years and together for about 8 years
It's all started we everyday quarrel over money and kids. My hubby didnt spent alot of his time with kids. He is quite fat so he wish to go for execrise. So I let him do what he want. And he started playing badminton with his colleagues. All along he told me, he is play with 2 male colleague. And play after work. I'm fine with that. Suddenly as time goes, he even started to use weekend to play. I always give him black face to show him i'm unhappy and just wish he could spent his weekend with kids. I always will bring my boys over to my mum place to stay, almost every weekend. As time goes.... our quarrel is getting bad to worse. He started to feel i'm so naggy, he even told me that dun make him feel that working in office is better than coming home. I didn't realise until we had a very bad quarrel just over a housework.
We started to have cold war for 2 days until I cannot tahan, I took his hp and happen to saw him chatting with this female colleague. I feel so upset because during our quarrel, he even can fetch her to work and even meeting her for dinner alone, he even can pour out his feeling about our relationship to her. He even sometime msg her when i'm asleep or chat with her when i'm not at home. I told him, i feel so upset and disappointed. He told me, he is sorry. I forgive him but i just cant forget because he broke my trust.
The next day, I think back. I ask him, (that day before we have a big quarrel, he meet his colleague for badminton) 'that day u play badminton only with 2 male colleague and he say yes. But i show him the msg that he send to her that he is at her house downstair to pick up for badminton. And he can ans me "oh she also got join". And i jsut breakdown, Why do he wan to lie and hide her'. he told me he just dun wan me to misundstood. I feel that is a excuse. I forgive him again. I just cant forget because he lie to me too many time. I also feel so stupid to dig all his lies. I even tried asking him a few time that i would like to go and take a look or join, he will start to make a big fuss by saying me not trusting him and he dun like to being moniter whatever he go and do. So I decided to ask him to stop play badmintion with his colleague and go excerise with me instead. He told me he will accompany me but he will not give up playing with his colleague. I just dont understand why. So now i stop asking him about this all. The last time we quarrel again because I save that female colleague at my contact and he found out. He got so angry over it. I say u can get so angry because of that girl and he keep insist that he is not angry because that girl is because I dont trust him. And i move out of the house to my mum place. After 2 days, I went back and wanted to have a good talk but he just dont want to talk, keep saying he want to cool down after this all happen. I even move the 1st move by hugging him but he just dun bother. Look like I'm in fault instead of him.
I feel like giving up this relationship, i feel that he dun cherish this relationship anymore. I even cry and he can just sleep. My heart is really very hurt. I just dont understand why do he need more time to cool down. Now my heart is dead. But i just don't wish to let go because of kids and i still love him. I just long for his love and care. i just wish we can go back to use we used to be. Now we didn't msg or call each other. I really wish i have the courage to let go this relationship. For the past 3 weeks.. I have been no appetite to eat, no mood to work, I'm just feel so unhappy. Anyone able to advise me what should i do?