hubby not interested in intimacy

[nuvix99]

I have been struggling for almost 1yr plus.
hubby does not seem to be interested in intimacy for the past 2yrs . we didnt have any activity for >6mths .
We have been married for almost 20yrs. my kid has already grown up.
I even tried to arrange for a holiday with just the 2 of us but didn't work.. he just fell asleep every night.

I have advised him to see a doc cos I suspect he might have ED. but he nv take action.
and he always complains I treat my mum better than him but my mum has dementia. Jealous over a dementia patient, don't make sense right.

I know we should talk ..sian.. that means it will either make or break., Sigh!

 

[Eppy]

I have been struggling for almost 1yr plus.
hubby does not seem to be interested in intimacy for the past 2yrs . we didnt have any activity for >6mths .
We have been married for almost 20yrs. my kid has already grown up.
I even tried to arrange for a holiday with just the 2 of us but didn't work.. he just fell asleep every night.

I have advised him to see a doc cos I suspect he might have ED. but he nv take action.
and he always complains I treat my mum better than him but my mum has dementia. Jealous over a dementia patient, don't make sense right.

I know we should talk ..sian.. that means it will either make or break., Sigh!

Do you think he has an affair? Try to search his things without him knowing.

 

[margret]

I have been struggling for almost 1yr plus.
hubby does not seem to be interested in intimacy for the past 2yrs . we didnt have any activity for >6mths .
We have been married for almost 20yrs. my kid has already grown up.
I even tried to arrange for a holiday with just the 2 of us but didn't work.. he just fell asleep every night.

I have advised him to see a doc cos I suspect he might have ED. but he nv take action.
and he always complains I treat my mum better than him but my mum has dementia. Jealous over a dementia patient, don't make sense right.

I know we should talk ..sian.. that means it will either make or break., Sigh!

How old are both of you?
Does he have any stress?

 

[JL8118]

How old are both of you? I know of some couple whom hit certain age, doesn't have much intimacy anymore.
How about holding hands, hugging or even kissing?

 

[nuvix99]

we are both in the late 40s.

 

[blur_blur_gal]

we are both in the late 40s.

That explains they he is not interested due to changes in hormones

 

[JL8118]

Do you both have other intimacy such as holding hands, hugging or kissing?
If totally no, then probably really something wrong....

 

[Njkaki]

Pop some pills into his drink and i reckon that will quicken his desire to be intimate.

 

[nuvix99]

Pop some pills into his drink and i reckon that will quicken his desire to be intimate.

 

[janlim512]

Pop some pills into his drink and i reckon that will quicken his desire to be intimate.

Wow. What kind of pills? =D

 

[wendy_reborn]

If he lose interest in the wife, he pop 10pill also no reaction

 

[Njkaki]

If he lose interest in the wife, he pop 10pill also no reaction

That pill is purely used for breeding purpose so tell me about it

 

[margret]

If he doesn't wan to be intimate with the wife. Even secretly u give him pill, he can go for sex outside

 

[Njkaki]

I beg to differ on that. As a guy myself, i will have my needs with someone close to me. The most accessible.

 

[wendy_reborn]

If really then there wouldn’t have so many stray husband out there

 

[janlim512]

cos wife is not accessible in those cases

Maybe. But many if times, even wife is accessible, men will still stray. Heard of a guy friend mentioned, sometimes they want a "fresh" one.

 

[wendy_reborn]

cos wife is not accessible in those cases

There are so many husband who stray although the wife is sleeping beside him everyday.
To them the glass is always greener on the other side.

 

[DonLee]

I agreed. Even with accessible, some men will still look outside. "Grass is always greener on the other side".
Is either change of hormones, or he do have other women outside, or perhaps he's really so tired...
But again, like you mentioned, even go holiday also no improvement, guess it's not really 'tired' already...
You may want to have a talk with him... Or secretly check out for signs of affair etc...

 

[yufuin]

You are not the only lonely Wife out there.
Me too. My pal too.
I had communicated openly but never a good ending. I had cried several times but no response from him.
Just got to think of his good points to make yourself happy. For the sake of kid complete family.
Do you know that in Japan, they have official company that provide a 1 day warm service by man to provide hugs, holding hands, giving surprises to those lonely wife’s. And it’s official. Interesting!!

 

[wendy_reborn]

Not so here.
Their culture very different from ours.
If in Singapore u do it, u will be accuse of unreasonable behavior.

 

[JL8118]

Yeah... I think different culture from Japan and Singapore. Japanese are more open-minded than us... Doubt such practice can be done in Singapore...

 

[margret]

You are not the only lonely Wife out there.
Me too. My pal too.
I had communicated openly but never a good ending. I had cried several times but no response from him.
Just got to think of his good points to make yourself happy. For the sake of kid complete family.
Do you know that in Japan, they have official company that provide a 1 day warm service by man to provide hugs, holding hands, giving surprises to those lonely wife’s. And it’s official. Interesting!!

I feel if u really need someone to comfort you it doesn't need to be a male. Female will understand each other more and there will not have any allegation involved also.

 

[Stansy]

Life is really fucking sucks!!!

 

[Stansy]

You are not the only lonely Wife out there.
Me too. My pal too.
I had communicated openly but never a good ending. I had cried several times but no response from him.
Just got to think of his good points to make yourself happy. For the sake of kid complete family.
Do you know that in Japan, they have official company that provide a 1 day warm service by man to provide hugs, holding hands, giving surprises to those lonely wife’s. And it’s official. Interesting!!

Aiya... nothing beats the love from your love ones.

 

[DonLee]

I feel if u really need someone to comfort you it doesn't need to be a male. Female will understand each other more and there will not have any allegation involved also.

Agreed! Doesn't need a male for comfort.. Some female friends, are even better!

 

[wendy_reborn]

You are not the only lonely Wife out there.
Me too. My pal too.
I had communicated openly but never a good ending. I had cried several times but no response from him.
Just got to think of his good points to make yourself happy. For the sake of kid complete family.
Do you know that in Japan, they have official company that provide a 1 day warm service by man to provide hugs, holding hands, giving surprises to those lonely wife’s. And it’s official. Interesting!!

If u have kids then keep your kids company, u won’t be lonely unless u are talking about intimacy and care that is missing from a husband

 

[jayjayqueenie]

do some self improvement ?

love yourself pamper yourself make yourself look good.

in this way, even if a straying husband might also have the mood.

unless he has a change of sexual orientation.

 

[Caramel_gal]

Perhaps it be best to work on how you look first, as men are known to be very visual creatures. I highly doubt that he is jealous but it would be good to fund out the real root of what is failing in your relationship. once that is solved things can take a turn for the better!