Hello everyone!
I am going through a terrible phase in my life and I feel like screaming or punching a wall on the floor.
So I got my own place but my in laws are staying with me for a few years till their bto is ready. I work from home so initially I was fine with juggling my son and working at the same time. Once my in laws move in, my mother in law insisted on getting a helper to help out around the house. I was reluctant at first but I agreed. Oh and my mum in law offered to help us pay for the deposit since she wanted the helper.
So I picked a helper and she arrived but right now, my MIL is honestly to me treating her bad. My helper is not perfect but she's good with my son. My son loves her too. And even my friends are impressed with my helper. But my MIL just pick on her and I really hate it.
Told my husband about it and initially he did not believe it until one morning he heard the scoldings his mum does to the helper. And honestly I don't take sides and my helper is not the type to tell me a sad sob story. I know things because like I said before I work from home, I have my ways of finding out things on my own. My husband tried to come up with a schedule so that the helper will follow since my MIL always complain she cannot do work. But she got angry and said she paid for the maid and the maid must listen to her. Which pisses me off cause it's my house and she literally turned my house upside down to fit her style. And I just kept quiet about it. There was once I said to her nicely to be nice to the helper and she threw an tantrum and made a mess at my service yard.
Oh and I'm sure you've heard of helpers making up stories, with my MIL it's her making up the stories. I will hear say something else initially but when she gets caught she will say she said something else. And of course she will turn it and make the helper look bad. But I know it's actually her fault. This is not the first helper who is having a hard time with her. My bro in law helper had issues with my MIL too but lucky her she doesn't stay under the same roof with my MIL permanently.
Of course if this was my mum it would be easier. But my MIL is harder to scold I guess? And whenever my husband say something to her she will take that we want her out of our house. This is really irritating me. Its my house, it's my helper but she wants to do everything.
I really need to rant and I hope you guys can hear me out
I am going through a terrible phase in my life and I feel like screaming or punching a wall on the floor.
So I got my own place but my in laws are staying with me for a few years till their bto is ready. I work from home so initially I was fine with juggling my son and working at the same time. Once my in laws move in, my mother in law insisted on getting a helper to help out around the house. I was reluctant at first but I agreed. Oh and my mum in law offered to help us pay for the deposit since she wanted the helper.
So I picked a helper and she arrived but right now, my MIL is honestly to me treating her bad. My helper is not perfect but she's good with my son. My son loves her too. And even my friends are impressed with my helper. But my MIL just pick on her and I really hate it.
Told my husband about it and initially he did not believe it until one morning he heard the scoldings his mum does to the helper. And honestly I don't take sides and my helper is not the type to tell me a sad sob story. I know things because like I said before I work from home, I have my ways of finding out things on my own. My husband tried to come up with a schedule so that the helper will follow since my MIL always complain she cannot do work. But she got angry and said she paid for the maid and the maid must listen to her. Which pisses me off cause it's my house and she literally turned my house upside down to fit her style. And I just kept quiet about it. There was once I said to her nicely to be nice to the helper and she threw an tantrum and made a mess at my service yard.
Oh and I'm sure you've heard of helpers making up stories, with my MIL it's her making up the stories. I will hear say something else initially but when she gets caught she will say she said something else. And of course she will turn it and make the helper look bad. But I know it's actually her fault. This is not the first helper who is having a hard time with her. My bro in law helper had issues with my MIL too but lucky her she doesn't stay under the same roof with my MIL permanently.
Of course if this was my mum it would be easier. But my MIL is harder to scold I guess? And whenever my husband say something to her she will take that we want her out of our house. This is really irritating me. Its my house, it's my helper but she wants to do everything.
I really need to rant and I hope you guys can hear me out