Hi everyone,
I've made a few ppl upset here and have been gone a while, because their kind advice have fallen on my deaf ears.
Those who know the background, it's like a neverending Taiwanese drama. In short, I am a divorcee with 2 kids. I got divorced because I met another guy , 7 years my junior. He is only 24. We had our ups and downs , but he loves my 2 girls a lot, did more for them than their own biological dad did. We broke up last month, after 2 years of chaos. With each big quarrel I would throw all his clothes into a bag, and dump it outside his house... My way of "punishing" and throwing him out. In the relationship he was also violent with me.... Etc. We broke and patched more than ten toes and fingers.
Exactly 1mth ago he decided to break up with me for good, when we were getting better and didn't quarrel. He said he was tired of being thrown out and didn't feel like part of the family. Felt that whatever he did was unappreciated (both our families just didn't agree of course).
I later found out he had someone else. Which well shldnt be surprising .
He still comes to see the kids and we had slept tgt 3 times. He said he still missed me but he just couldn't be with me coz of all the pressure and cos of all the times I hurt him.
The 3rd time recently felt different and I could feel the love was no longer there. After all, his heart was alr with someone else. After the deed he had also taken my phone and saw my random messages with a hitch driver, which I befriended and was telling the guy abt how much I couldn't let go of my ex bf. My ex packed up all his remaining clothes and left, saying I would never change because each time we argued I would look for another guy. I felt technically I did no wrong as we had already broken up but yet I know he was at least a little affected ...moreover he himself had a gf. He said end of the day when I'm lonely I just end up finding another guy....
Well, I'm here because i know I shld let go of my ex bf but I don't know where to start. He wants to be part of the kids lives but only theirs and wants nothing to do with me. He said to talk only abt the kids and nth else....Friends say I shld just stop contacting him altogether and not even let kids see him. My kids... They call him daddy..
I hope to hear from a guys point of view, I know some have said here I just want attention. Ppl told me, I am not looking for love, I am looking for attention. I really want him back but I know I have to love myself and the kids more and just focus on them. But I just find it so difficult, I cry almost daily. I really wanna stop feeling like that and I hope someone can help.
Thank u.
I've made a few ppl upset here and have been gone a while, because their kind advice have fallen on my deaf ears.
Those who know the background, it's like a neverending Taiwanese drama. In short, I am a divorcee with 2 kids. I got divorced because I met another guy , 7 years my junior. He is only 24. We had our ups and downs , but he loves my 2 girls a lot, did more for them than their own biological dad did. We broke up last month, after 2 years of chaos. With each big quarrel I would throw all his clothes into a bag, and dump it outside his house... My way of "punishing" and throwing him out. In the relationship he was also violent with me.... Etc. We broke and patched more than ten toes and fingers.
Exactly 1mth ago he decided to break up with me for good, when we were getting better and didn't quarrel. He said he was tired of being thrown out and didn't feel like part of the family. Felt that whatever he did was unappreciated (both our families just didn't agree of course).
I later found out he had someone else. Which well shldnt be surprising .
He still comes to see the kids and we had slept tgt 3 times. He said he still missed me but he just couldn't be with me coz of all the pressure and cos of all the times I hurt him.
The 3rd time recently felt different and I could feel the love was no longer there. After all, his heart was alr with someone else. After the deed he had also taken my phone and saw my random messages with a hitch driver, which I befriended and was telling the guy abt how much I couldn't let go of my ex bf. My ex packed up all his remaining clothes and left, saying I would never change because each time we argued I would look for another guy. I felt technically I did no wrong as we had already broken up but yet I know he was at least a little affected ...moreover he himself had a gf. He said end of the day when I'm lonely I just end up finding another guy....
Well, I'm here because i know I shld let go of my ex bf but I don't know where to start. He wants to be part of the kids lives but only theirs and wants nothing to do with me. He said to talk only abt the kids and nth else....Friends say I shld just stop contacting him altogether and not even let kids see him. My kids... They call him daddy..
I hope to hear from a guys point of view, I know some have said here I just want attention. Ppl told me, I am not looking for love, I am looking for attention. I really want him back but I know I have to love myself and the kids more and just focus on them. But I just find it so difficult, I cry almost daily. I really wanna stop feeling like that and I hope someone can help.
Thank u.