Hi Cheryl,
Not sure why is hb behaving like this? Do u think he has already met someone else outside?
Lately I was reading an online e-book "Deciding whether or not to get a divorce?" by Karl Augustine. Read the preview, his divorce articles and some of his regular tips, haven't gotten much insights, but might be helpful for some to get started.
http://www.deciding-on-divorce.com
Divorce is a serious matter, I do not encourage any couple to go thru it. It's nt easy for two persons to come together and be unioned as hb & wife. Do give a very thorough and clear thought on this. Unless there is no way to salvage - and ur factors of considerations are definitely nt the same as mine, so I can't comment much. Only u will hv the answer ya. Watever path u choose, I wish the best for u.
For me, I'm now 31weeks into my pregnancy, feeling excited and anxious all at the same time. I cry whenevr I think of the future of my baby.
My hb left me for someone (some foreigner young girl) who "freelanced" in his pub last Oct. I tried working out things with him for a few months, but when he is decided tt he chose her over me & bb, I moved out since Feb this year.
He is guilty and still insist tt he will want to be here for us. But It doesn't make sense to me. During this time, I need my hb & father of my child with me.. But, he chose to leave me when i needed him most. We were togther for 14yrs, married for 2yrs.
I'm jus waiting for my bb to arrive b4 I can settle the legal paperwork with him. In the last few meet-up with him, he cried and keep assuring tt he will be there for me and bb, and tt he'll always love me and bb. But at the end of the day, those r just words (with no much meaning if it doesn't coincide with his actions, isn't it?)
We r still talking and he call sometimes to chat & share with me his prob at pub. He started his pub in June last yr, ha financial prob. I hv in fact supported him alot, gave him all my savings to help sustain. Recently I loan him another small sum which he promised to return but yet to. Sigh, those are the monies I kept aside for my gynae fee, hospitalisation, confinement, baby stuffs..
For me, it helps tt I am preparing myself for the worst. To be single mum to my baby. Tho in my heart, I noe I love him v much. Can't jus erase way we been thru for 14 years..